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I am in the process or researching the experience of partner of trans people, specifically male partners. That is if I can find male partners to speak too.


Paul Rankeillor

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I was previously in a relationship with a trans women, which had a deeply profound effect on me. This influenced me to choose trans partnership as research topic for my doctorate thesis, which I am conducting in Counselling Psychology, with Middlesex University, London. This is specifically on how the partner of a trans person may experience their identity. I am particularly interested in looking at this in male partners of trans people as there is very little research on this, and I believe that this is really important to give this group a voice. However this is not a very visible population. So I am wondering if anyone would have any ideas about how I could find male partners to speak to, or if there is any male partners who would want to be interviewed.

 

I'm just really wondering what the specific issues that this group might experience, and the reasons why they might not be visible.  I have a feeling that they are out there, but (without meaning to generalise) that men are less likely to utalise things such as support groups and forums.

 

I have made a facebook page to advertise my study and to double up as an information resource for partners of trans people.  So if anyone would like me to send them a link to this please let me know.  I am not sure if I should post it here without asking first.

 

Thanks for reading

 

Paul

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My partner says he's interested! If you send me the link I'll pass it along to him. I know he had a lot of trouble finding any stories of cis men staying with their trans boyfriends as they transitioned, so he felt a little like he was in uncharted territory. This is definitely a great topic to research.  

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Hello Paul,

 

Welcome to TransPulse. Could you clarify something for me. Are you seeking  cis-males or trans males or both?  There is a link to your facebook in your profile. Should any of our members be interested, they can find it there.  We would also ask that any member who might respond, is that they remain completely anonymous. This is a must. The safety of our members is a high priority that we take very seriously. That being said, I'm sure there are some here who meet the criteria you are looking for. Hopefully, they will respond.

 

MaryEllen

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Paul.  I wish you success with your research.  If it i successful and you publish, I hope that you can post a link here so we can read about it.

 

Carolyn Marie

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Hi ChickenLittle

 

Thanks for your interest and for replying to my post.   I'm sorry for the delay in replay, I forgot to check here, as I have been trying a few different things.  I tried to reply to you directly but it would let me know.  It would great if your partner would take part, I agree with you that it is uncharted territory and that is why I am excited to research in this area.   A link to my facebook page is below, I can be messaged there, which advertises my study and my the way to get in contact with me, or I can be messaged directly there.  I also took the opportunity to make it a resource for partners, but so far I don't think many people have found it yet.  I will also attach a copy of the poster too.

 

https://www.facebook.com/P.D.Rankeillor.doctoral.research/

 

 

 

 

research poster.docx

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Hi Marie Ellen

 

Thank you for your support and encouragement.  Sorry for the delay in replying, I didn't get into the habit of checking here, and didn't realise how much time had went past since I posted.  I am seeking cis males who are either currently partners of  trans people, or were a partner to a trans person in the past. I hope now that I've uploaded my poster that this clarifies things a bit more.  Participants  confidentiality and animosity would be completely upheld, as per  the ethical guidelines that were set by my University which I am following. If anyone wants any more information on this I can provide it, and this will be covered on the participant info sheet, I would sent people, prior to taking part.  If you can think of any other way of me advertising my study, or how to get my facebook page more widely seen, this would be great, particularly as I have been trying to make this a resource for partners.   I really appreciate your help.

 

Best Wishes

 

Paul

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HI Carolyn Marie

 

Thank you for your support, I definitely will do that, as I am thinking about different ways that I can spread the findings.  I have noticed that I am not able to sent direct messages to people as when I try to it says that I can only send 0 messages per day, is this correct?  I would have ideally contacted you or one of the other moderators for permission first before i posted but was not able too. 

 

Thanks

 

Paul

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1 hour ago, Paul Rankeillor said:

.I have noticed that I am not able to sent direct messages to people as when I try to it says that I can only send 0 messages per day, is this correct?  I would have ideally contacted you or one of the other moderators for permission first before i posted but was not able too. .

 

New members must have five posts before being allowed to access the message system.  One more post and you should have access. 

 

Carolyn Marie

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Paul, please do keep in mind the community rules in regard to soliciting information from our members.

Rule 18  Members under the age of 18 are not allowed to share personally identifying information.

Rule 19  Members may not solicit contact or identifying information from minors.

Rule 20  You may not share personally identifying information or contact information anywhere on the site that is publicly visible

 

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