Coming Out As A Crossdresser

[Jon]

I'm new to this site so I thought I would post here and see what happens. 

So let me start from the beginning, me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 4 years . 

I came out as a cross-dresser to her about a year or two ago and she didn't take it very well at first. Now she's just accepted it and just doesn't like when I do it around her. She's become more comfortable about it. At first she thought I might be gay or something but I assured her that I'm not. For example sometimes she'll catch me wearing bras panties yoga pants and all that stuff. We have even gone shopping together. But she's the only one that knows about this. But it's come the time where I need to come out to everybody. I'm not gay or anything I just love the feel and look of women's clothes on me panties, thongs, leggings, yoga pants, bras, everything. I even wear pads in my bra to make it look like that I have breast. I am not a homosexual whatsoever. So I guess my questions are why do I feel this way? Why do I love wearing women's clothes? And I want to come out to my family and her family and start wearing women's clothes in public to express myself. So I guess my second question is what would be the best way to do that? I should also mention that my girlfriend has a 10 year old kid and how would we explain to him about this without confusing him. Any serious advice would be much appreciated.

[Jon]

I forgot to tell you a few things that I would like to add. I've always felt this way in my entire life since I was a little kid. I feel good when i dress in womens cloths .  I feel that this is the way I'm supposed to dress. When I do dress like comfortable in my own skin I feel like I'm myself. Does that make any sense? 

[VickySGV]

Give us a little time , and do some reading of our older stuff and I think we can help you a bit.  Homosexuality has nothing to do with Cross Dressing other than to say that SOME Gay Men do Cross Dress, but NOT ALL Cross Dressers are Gay.  Cross Dressing MAY figure into the exploration of sexuality, and it can also be a "Bargaining Stage" issue for those who are Transgender as in full time transitioning.  (It was for me.)  If you are CD you are CD and you can accept it or let it make you miserable.  We try not to help you be miserable if we can help it.

 

Your story is typical of the stories most of us can tell and we may already have given you clues to read in this forum.  I would suggest from what you have written that you see if you can get in some time with a Gender Therapist who can help you find ways of discussing this with your GF and your families.  Your 10 year old child is going to be the least of the problems if his mother and the rest of your families will leave the poor kid alone and not try to swing him to one side or another.  I would suggest also to see if your GF can join a support group for partners of CD/TG people.  I know of some beautiful relations between Trans and Cis/Het partners who use it for the fun part of the relation, which leads to deeper trust and commitment to the other daily parts of it. 

I actually have one set of friends where it works both ways with the  partners.  Women can be CDers too, and some times the "Boys" go out to the ball game or pool night together, and a few days later two attractive "Girls" are going to a concert or Karaoke night together.