How can you become neither?

[Entropic]

Born male but I really don't feel like a man or a woman. I don't really care how society views me, pronouns don't matter to me that much. I will probably always just say he, because "used in a generic sense or when the sex of the person is unspecified" -websters. So grammatically correct if you are unsure.

Now, I am considering the idea of getting my testicles removed. I don't feel attached to them, they mostly just get in the way. Uncomfortable to sit in certain positions, painful if you hit them the wrong way. Problem is from what I understand your penis pretty much becomes useless after that, so would it be better to just fully change my parts? And once removed my hormones would need something to regulate them, so which do I take? This is all up in the air right now, just some food for thought. Whenever/if I choose to take action I will of course speak with medical specialists.

[VickySGV]

We have several members here who have had Orchiectomies only and have no problems physically, but they are mostly MtF and take Estrogen.  I also have IRL friends who have had "orchie's" and who have found an Endocrinologist who keeps them at a certain level of each hormone to prevent bone density problems.  All in all pretty uneventful as it should be,  There is what is called a cosmetic Vulvaplasty where only the labia majora and urethral repositioning and cliteroplasty using the penile glans are used, but no vaginal cavity.  Those are possibilities, but you must be the one to choose and be comfortable.

 

I doubt your state will provide the option of a gender neutral state ID card any time soon but they will probably give you a license with an androgynous  picture on it without too much trouble.  Take it slow on your look changing but go for it, and most  people will not say anything for a long time. 

[Jani]

Hi Entropic,  The NH Governor recently signed a Gender Identity Law which prohibits discrimination.  "The new law defines gender identity as “a person’s gender-related identity, appearance, or behavior, whether or not that gender-related identity, appearance, or behavior is different from that traditionally associated with the person’s physiology or assigned sex at birth.”

 

https://www.jdsupra.com/legalnews/new-hampshire-passes-gender-identity-law-83077/

 

I saw recently that there was a move to amend the choices on state issued driver's licenses and ID's in Maine and Massachusetts.  I would hope with the new law this issue will be addressed soon. Currently the change form just offers male and female checkboxes.

 

An Orchi affects the use of your penis only to the effect that semen is no longer produced.  Everything else functions although libido may be curtailed so the addition of one or both hormones in proper doses is recommended.  

 

Jani

[VickySGV]

2 hours ago, Jani said:

 The NH Governor recently signed a Gender Identity Law which prohibits discrimination.  "The new law defines gender identity as “a person’s gender-related identity, appearance, or behavior, whether or not that gender-related identity, appearance, or behavior is different from that traditionally associated with the person’s physiology or assigned sex at birth.”

 

OOPS I made a boo boo!!  Sorry.

 

4 hours ago, VickySGV said:

I doubt your state will provide the option of a gender neutral state ID card any time soon

My bad

[SugarMagnolia]

I think Oregon, California, Washington and DC all offer or will soon offer a gender neutral option as well. 

[Terry]

This is something I've been looking into as well and so far I've found there is no easy solution. As far as I'm concerned the penis is only useful for going to the toilet, everything else is annoying to me. It seems this is different to you.

 

So here is the important thing - whatever happens without testicles depends largely on your hormones. If you don't choose any hormone replacement, you risk ending up with a variety of typical health issues - low bone density, depression etc. To compensate there is either testosterone replacement or oestrogen replacement. As far as I am aware, testosterone replacement would effectively maintain most of the functionality of the male body, including erections. Oestrogen on the other hand interrupts most of it and depending on the dosage will have some feminising effects. To me none of these options are ideal (I hate erections, but wouldn't want too obvious feminine features either), but you may find that testosterone replacement might be what you're looking for.

 

Whatever you end up preferring, I fully agree that you'll need some very good expert advice. This is not one of the standard routes, so it requires some extra care.

[Jani]

Vicky, this law just passed and came into effect.  I'm not sure many outlets have the information yet.  I am really hoping this will be a springboard to more protections and positive changes for us in NH which is generally considered a conversation state.  If Maine can do it so can we.

 

9 hours ago, SugarMagnolia said:

I think Oregon, California, Washington and DC all offer or will soon offer a gender neutral option as well. 

Despite the vitriol we hear and read about everyday, there is change afoot.  

 

Jani