Gonna come out, but brother is transphobic

[Amory]

I have decided to come out, but just to close family, earlier than I originally thought, mostly because it's wearing on me to hear my birth name over and over again. I'm gonna do it via a video that I'm going to make of me that knows I'm trans helping the me that doesn't know to realize who he is. The only reason that I'm not doing it face to face is because i don't want to, but my family is really accepting as far as I know, except for my brother. I know he has some dated and kind of homophobic opinions (lucky me, I'm gay too), so I suspect that that attitude also applies to trans people. I just don't know what to say in the video to anticipate that or maybe try to change his mind. I don't want to lose the relationship I have with him. Thanks so much

[Jani]

You have to ask yourself, who are you coming out for?  I believe the answer is you!  

 

I get that you may not want to do this face to face although doing so with some of the family might actually be beneficial for them and you.  You can engage is a constructive conversation and they will get to see the honesty in your eyes.   Maybe just create the video for your brother.   Tell him you're doing it this way because you know he hasn't been the most accepting but you hope he can see that this is a important and meaningful decision.  You can say you hope he thinks about what this decision (to transition) means to you.  You can close with asking for his love and support.  

 

Hugs, Jani