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Kali-Ann Gills

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Hi everyone, 

Well two days ago I did something that I have been wanting to do for absolutely ages and unfortunately I have also been putting it off for ages. I went to a Lingerie shop (La Senza) and got properly measured for bras. Ok I was totally nervous when I went up to the cash desk. After she had finished with another customer she asked if she could help. I explained that I wanted to be measured properly and there was absolutely no reaction from her whatsoever. All she said was no problem give me a moment and promptly disappeared through a door next to the cash desk. She came back and explained that the lady would be with me in a few minutes.

Just as she said another young woman came out of the door,  walked straight up to me and said "hi I am Anna , Justine says that you would like to be measured and fitted; what's your name love? ". I kind of spluttered yes and Kali-Ann . She said not a problem if you would like to follow me. I walked through the door and there was a seating area with sofas and occasional tables;  up to date magazines spread over the.

I took a seat and started to thumb through one of the magazines. Anna came over and asked if I would care for as glass of wine while I waited! I got chatting with another customer who was admiring my Ted Baker bag and signed her up as a nail client.

Anna eventually ushered me into a privacy cubicle and asked me to remove my top. Still no reaction! I did as requested and stood there really self consciously. Immediately she put me at ease. She said that the bra I was wearing was not right for either my size nor body shape. She suggested that I should go for a push up bra with balcony cups. She explained that it would make the most of what I have and give me a much more defined cleavage.

Anna spent a good few minutes with her tape measure took notes then said won't be a mo and left. She returned with an armful of bras and matching panties. Gorgeous stuff. She confirmed that I am just over a AA. Then asked me to remove the bra I had on!! That I totally didn't expect. 

She picked up that I was nervous and said it's ok love no men in here. So I took it off.Then she  went to work. She adjusted the straps and asked me to put it on. She did up the hooks and asked me how it felt. I explained that the straps felt a little loose. She finely adjusted everything until it was perfect. I bought two new bras from the shop and left on cloud nine. 

I simply cannot express adequately just how totally wonderful a properly fitting bra feels or rather doesn't feel. Because they are perfect for me I cannot feel them like I am not wearing one!

So what did I learn? That my money is as good as anyone elses. That as a woman I have as much right as any other woman to take advantage of services for us, and maybe the most important thing of all. Don't assume anything, because at no point did Anna make any reference to me being transgender and treated me exactly the same as any other woman shopping for lingerie. Will I go back most definitely.

It is all a learning curve and I am as bad as anyone because we create a horrible situation in our minds before we even get there, wherever that is. In short we terrify ourselves out of doing so much. In the cold analysis of it all WE are creating the issues.

Go for it ladies it is far from the terrible experience that we believe that it will be.

 

Kali-Ann ? xx 

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Hi Kali-Ann,

 

   Maybe I missed but were you wearing a bra previous to your fitting if so how close was the size you were wearing to your fitted size? 

 

Just curious. I love shopping for panties myself I'm my way out later.

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Just now, April said:

Hi Kali-Ann,

 

   Maybe I missed but were you wearing a bra previous to your fitting if so how close was the size you were wearing to your fitted size? 

 

Just curious. I love shopping for panties myself I'm my way out later.

Hey April 

Yes I was wearing a bra I always do. It was the cup size that was the real issue maybe half a size. The new bras are a perfect fit La Senza do half cup sizes basically they are designed by women for women not men who have no idea what having breasts is like! 

These new ones move with me even my man has noticed the difference. 

Enjoy your shopping hunni. 

Kali-Ann ? xx 

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Just now, April said:

Hi Kali-Ann,

 

   Maybe I missed but were you wearing a bra previous to your fitting if so how close was the size you were wearing to your fitted size? 

 

Just curious. I love shopping for panties myself I'm my way out later.

P.S  also the band size was wrong I always thought that I was a 38 nope 36 given the cup size.

Kali-Ann ? xx 

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Kali-Ann this is so nice to read.  I'm glad you took time to experience this.  In deed, we can be our own worst enemies when it comes to overthinking! 

Jani 

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I am glad things went well with you Kali-Ann. I generally buy my bras online these days, as being pre anything and not wearing forms I have a very small cup size not available in high street stores. There is a  lingerie shop specialising in bras not too distant from me which has fittings etc. I often wondered about how I would be treated if I went there as, from their advertising, it appears very old fashioned and catering somewhat for the older woman. I am probably wrong, but, as what I have now fit well and are comfortable, I probably won't find out. I would recommend it to anyone who did need help as there is nothing as draining to morale as poor fitting clothing.

 

Tracy

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I wish I was within LaSenza's size range. They have such pretty stuff.

Oh, and yeah, padded plunge or padded demi is how I roll, and my cleavage looks amazing. I get distracted by them when I look down and still can't believe that's all me in there. ?

 

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On 8/20/2018 at 8:16 AM, Lizzie McTrucker said:

I wish I was within LaSenza's size range. They have such pretty stuff.

Oh, and yeah, padded plunge or padded demi is how I roll, and my cleavage looks amazing. I get distracted by them when I look down and still can't believe that's all me in there. ?

 

 I absolutely agree with you Lizzie, it takes some getting used to and I’m not sure when it will happen but I feel just like you do every time I see a reflection or look down. I was out to sushi with a friend the other day and she took a picture of me in boy mode...  yep, it’s official, boy mode is wrecked! I had thrown on a purple boys T-shirt Since I had stubble I needed to visit the electrologist the next morning, but I don’t think it would’ve mattered if I went girl mode or a boy mode, Nobody looked anyway,  so it wouldn’t have mattered !  I did have to order a new bra, my previous 44A from leading lady, just was too loose in the band, so I ordered another Bridget 42A That should arrive in the mail soon. I’m pretty sure that staying with A cup Should be OK, I don’t think I fit the sister size 42B as of yet.  I typically just wear a fabric pull over stretchy bra at work, it’s just too distracting if I wear a normal bra, it distracts the boys at work and it still even distracts me when I see reflections in the machine windows!

 Hugs, 

Jackie

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