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Dev

Evening!

 

We had an email from a site visitor today that led to a couple of changes on our site, and I wanted to make sure everyone is aware of them.  This visitor found a therapist in our database - someone who had contacted us to let us know he works with trans people - and scheduled an appointment.  During their visit, he extolled the virtues of an anti-trans activist and recommended reading "articles" written by the guy.

 

Yes, we removed him from our database.

 

To address this issue, we've made a couple of changes.  First, questions have been added to the form businesses use to submit themselves for inclusion in our database.  The aim of these questions is to make certain they've taken steps to ensure a trans-positive, affirming experience for those who come their way.

 

Also, we've edited the page with the resource locator itself.  It now includes a caution to those who reach out to businesses they find there.  When you contact someone you find through our database or any other online directory of practitioners, we recommend asking when you schedule your appointment if they are welcoming of trans clients.  If you're not happy with the answer they give you, don't give them your business.

 

If you run into problems with one of these practitioners - such as our visitor mentioned above did - please contact us right away to let us know. 

 

We now return you to your regularly scheduled forums!

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Carolyn Marie

Thanks for the quick action on this revelation, Dev.  Asking questions of service providers is always a good idea, and a good one will always be happy to answer them.

 

Regarding therapists, in particular, readers might want to check out this thread that contains a lot of good advice.

 

Carolyn Marie

 

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GothicLucas

Thanks for working hard and looking out for the community!

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Robin68

You folks are on the ball! Keep on keepin' on!

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