Introducing new name/pronouns

[hmillerrr]

Hey! so I'm fairly new in this journey and I just wanted to ask how to introduce new name and pronouns. Only my family and one good friend knows I'm trans but it's starting to make me really uncomfortable to be called my birth name.  even tho I've only been called my new name (Trevor) for awhile it just feels right. I wanted to do it as a trial period and I honestly really like it... How do I slowly put it out there? SHOULD I put it out there (because I'm only 90% sure)? Thank you for any feedback!

[Timber Wolf]

Hi Trevor,

If I understand what you're asking, you want to know the best way to tell the people you know. There really is no one best way for everyone. I did it via email. Some hand write letters, some do it in person or over the phone if distances are great. The way that feels right to you with each individual is probably the best way.

 

As far as should you tell them if you're not completely sure goes, again, the choice is yours. Do consider that if you change your name soon, they may think this is not a serious thing. So if your not certain on the name, you may want to explain that the name is still tentative, but for now you'd like to be called Trevor. Those are my thoughts, anyway. Hope this helps in some way.

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

[Jani]

I agree that you should be fairly sure this is the name you want so not to have to go through the process twice and  possibly confuse your family and friends.  You do want them to take it seriously.   As to how to communicate, each person in your life is different and you should consider what would work best for them to get your message through.  

All my best, Jani

[hmillerrr]

On 9/7/2018 at 12:27 AM, Timber Wolf said:

Hi Trevor,

If I understand what you're asking, you want to know the best way to tell the people you know. There really is no one best way for everyone. I did it via email. Some hand write letters, some do it in person or over the phone if distances are great. The way that feels right to you with each individual is probably the best way.

 

As far as should you tell them if you're not completely sure goes, again, the choice is yours. Do consider that if you change your name soon, they may think this is not a serious thing. So if your not certain on the name, you may want to explain that the name is still tentative, but for now you'd like to be called Trevor. Those are my thoughts, anyway. Hope this helps in some way.

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

Thank you Timber Wolf I appreciate this

[Moira Arista]

It can be very nerve racking to know who and when to tell them that you're transgender. The first person I told was my Uncle. I only tell people I trust as well. I used to hate my name until I realized it was gender neutral and could go either way. As a young child, my parents called me a cutesy version of my name as a nickname. When I decided to unofficially change my name I went with this nickname as my new unofficial name, which incidently is my name here on this site. Most people call me my actual name and I perceive that name as my nickname now. The pronoun thing is still a little ways off. My parents still refer to me as their son when introducing me to people they know. However you have to choose when is right for you. Don't get discouraged if some people who've known you your whole life push back at first. 

[hmillerrr]

20 minutes ago, Mahaney said:

 

Thank you so much. This means a lot and I really do hope your parents come around?