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That is super great news. I am excited for you. I am waiting for news therapist to get my referral letter and want to see if my old psych will also help me. Congrats.

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Awesome news @ElizabethStar!

 

So my day started a little down but then I get to my clinic to open up for the day and find a note saying "Follow the Balloons Bri". SO there's a trail of balloons throughout the whole clinic leading to the back break room which is completely decorated with streamers, balloons and other party decor and a big banner saying "Welcome Bri" and a tiara sitting under it and a couple of balloons with "It's a girl" on them.   My staff threw a Gender Reveal Party for me! (insert crying mess here). I truly do have the best people around me.  What a way to start my day. 

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Oh how cute...you must be feeling on top of the world.

 

Happy for you.

 

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Wow, That is so great for your co-workers did that.I guess you are accepted. LOL.

 

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@KymmieL I hope it doesn’t come to leaving your son and wife behind, but If  I recall they teamed up Against you some time back so I understand your concerns.  My wife tries to accept me but can only take so much. She is slowly getting better.  Still hoping the Portland job will come through for you.

 

@Bri2020 so happy for you.

 

Willow

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Super!  That is so nice of them Bri!

 

Jani

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Ditto @Jani remarks. Best Wishes Bri,

 

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Good Morning everyone. With some work it looks like I will be able to leave on our trip later today. Got some good advice from my therapist yesterday. Hopefully doesn't come to that.

Looks like we are riding into some nice weather. while I won't have my laptop on the trip. Will be able to keep in touch with TP on my phone.

 

Kymmie

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Wonderful. Glad Therapist helped and gave you some good advice you can use. Enjoy the ride.

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Good morning 

 

Kymmie, be safe on your ride and I hope everything goes ok with your son.

 

So I had my group meeting via zoom last night.  I do find it’s helpful to have others to talk to and get others ideas.  
 

i wore a blouse and pants we had bought for my wife, but it didn’t fit her.  Unfortunately I tend to inherit things that don’t fit her right.  Even on me it was a little tight.  I asked if she thought the top looked ok.  Her suggestion was to take out my breast forms so my breasts wouldn’t be as big.  I took her advice it did look better but she looks at me and asks if my breasts were growing?  My bra was molded cups so it didn’t make a lot of difference so I showed her.  She looks at me and decided she didn’t see breast growth. (I know she is sensitive to that). When ever she questions that, I get out the taylors tape and measure around my breasts.  Low and behold I now have a full inch more!  Good for me, not for her.

 

enjoy your weekend.

 

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Coffee is long gone but emotional upswing is going strong ? Had one of the best Fridays. It all started with a visit to DMV. I finally found time to update my license with my new name. When they saw the name I was changing to, the tone of voice and attitude switched from candlelight to electric bulb ? I was getting "sweetie"and  "honey" constantly, and actually had nice chat about random things. Right after, I stopped at the bank to update account and card and the lady there was also much more chatty when she saw my name. And on top of it, when she called other department she was referring about me using "she" which was completely unexpected but so heartwarming. ?

Now, where else can I go and update my name? Teehehehehe

 

? To the great weekend.

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Well thats some progress @Willow!!

 

Great news @RunValRun!  I know it must have felt good to you!  I hope the rest of your weekend is as enjoyable.

 

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1 hour ago, RunValRun said:

Coffee is long gone but emotional upswing is going strong ? Had one of the best Fridays. It all started with a visit to DMV. I finally found time to update my license with my new name. When they saw the name I was changing to, the tone of voice and attitude switched from candlelight to electric bulb ? I was getting "sweetie"and  "honey" constantly, and actually had nice chat about random things. Right after, I stopped at the bank to update account and card and the lady there was also much more chatty when she saw my name. And on top of it, when she called other department she was referring about me using "she" which was completely unexpected but so heartwarming. ?

Now, where else can I go and update my name? Teehehehehe

 

? To the great weekend.

 

Congratulations on getting your license updated!  Isn't it nice when you can feel the good vibes from total strangers?

 

I think a lot of people go out of their way to be nice to trans people.  It's hard to be stealth when you are updating your name in their records, so it's not like they don't know.  They are just nice people.  It is so heart-warming to experience it, and to hear you describing it.

 

Thank you for posting about it.  You made my day. :D

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@RunValRun I can almost see the smile on your face and joy in your heart. Congrats.

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Thank you for kind words ? It is absolutely wonderful to use the new name and hear it back.

While I was using it at work to get people accustomed for the last few months, it has more satisfying ring to it when it's supported by official paperwork ?

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you bet - I love the sound of my new name but only you ladies and my medical teams use it yet -

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Yes, it is nice to be called by your new name instead of a dead name.  I get called Willow at group by everyone which is nice.  by some close friends that know Willow and by my wife occasionally but that usually a little snarky since she doesn't like Willow.  Doctors will call me by that name if I am appropriately dressed and not when I'm not.  

 

Spent most of the day at the beach.  It was a nice day.

 

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Willow

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We so far so good.  I am at my sons. No problems.  Great  seeing my  grand kids. They have gotten so big. Ran through some rain yesterday.  Had a down pour just as we got to out hotel last night. 

Actually staying the night at  my son's.  

Hope everyone has a good day.

 

Hugs   

 

Kymmie 

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@KymmieL - Sounds like a very nice trip Kymmie, and enjoy the rest of your visit with family !

 

Hugs

 

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Kymmie, happy for you that things are going well at your son’s and that you are getting to spend time with the grand kids.

 

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On 8/8/2020 at 11:27 AM, RunValRun said:

Coffee is long gone but emotional upswing is going strong ? Had one of the best Fridays. It all started with a visit to DMV. I finally found time to update my license with my new name. When they saw the name I was changing to, the tone of voice and attitude switched from candlelight to electric bulb ? I was getting "sweetie"and  "honey" constantly, and actually had nice chat about random things. Right after, I stopped at the bank to update account and card and the lady there was also much more chatty when she saw my name. And on top of it, when she called other department she was referring about me using "she" which was completely unexpected but so heartwarming. ?

Now, where else can I go and update my name? Teehehehehe

 

? To the great weekend.

WHat an awesome day! Congratulations.  

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