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KymmieL

Good morning All. Coffees on.

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MetaLicious
2 hours ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

Oh yes.  I did too.  You have to step back and realize you have been dealing with this your whole life.  Other have been dealing with it once you told them.  Your desire to make it all happen is at the end or middle of a long journey, but for others they are still in shock over your news.  Give it time hon.  Be patient with yourself and others.  In the end you are who you are inside and at least you know this and can look forward to your future as your true self.

I know.  My wife keeps talking about it like I'm "flipping a switch" and it's just not like that.  At all.  Still, when it comes to coming out, there's a temptation to treat it like a band-aid that hurts less if you just rip it off... 

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BrandiBri

Good Morning all. i'm just finishing my cup of joe and admiring the pics of the nails. Very nice! I work retail so I have to keep mine short. However I am now on a 30 day loa so I am going to try false ones for now.

It's going to be around 60 today and pushing 80 tomorrow.

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KymmieL

Brandi, I too work retail. I have let my nails grow. I don't keep them long claws but longer than a mans.

 

Meta,  My wife thinks the same way that I can just flip a switch and turn my transgenderism off and on. That I just found the switch and turned it on one day.

 

almost 60 today. Of course the weather is going to be nice when I am working and crap on my days off. go figure.

 

Kymmie

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Jani
2 hours ago, MetaLicious said:

My wife keeps talking about it like I'm "flipping a switch" and it's just not like that.  At all.

Still this is a good indication that her perception and yours may not be fully aligned so take a look at how she is doing and work together! 

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Ms Maddie

Hello it's mid-afternoon and I'm having more coffee.

 

The neighbor kids have company and are mingling in the hallway outside my apt door.  It's strewn with their furniture like their extra living room.  Their grandma says it's stupid to social distance and we're all gonna get it anyway.  Seriously.

 

Nails are cool.  I don't have mine going now though.

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JustineM

Evening everyone! Had to work today but home now and relaxing. Toe feels a lot better, still quite colorful but it doesn’t hurt so bad lol. Kicked back and watching Lady Valor with my wife. 

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SophiAir

April in Paris, chestnuts in blossom

Holiday tables under the trees
April in Paris, this is a feeling
No one can ever reprise

 

Good Morning all, April in Paris, but in an empty Paris, nearly dead Paris. I'm eager to get electrolyse face hair removal, to find a psychotherapist Everything's closed. Sometimes, I feel like i'm going to explode Inside. Thank you to be there. Reading you makes me feel better. A common fate, over the world. So many common points in our lives, in our childhoods. I'm not alone.

Have a good day when you wake up in few hours.

Kiss

Sophie

 

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Emily michelle

Good morning everyone! 
I had to mow the yard for the first time last night and I realized I need a landscaper and mower lol. Temps in the 80s today. My wife gave me some of her old bras which they don’t fit but was a nice gesture nonetheless.

hugs

Emily

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ShawnaLeigh
1 hour ago, Emily michelle said:

Good morning everyone! 
I had to mow the yard for the first time last night and I realized I need a landscaper and mower lol. Temps in the 80s today. My wife gave me some of her old bras which they don’t fit but was a nice gesture nonetheless.

hugs

Emily

OK you can keep 80's  Uggh.  

I'm a 60s to 70s gal for comfort.  (Where do you have to live for that to be year round?  LOL)

 

It was a bigger deal then you realize when your wife gives you her old clothing.  Think abou t the mind set to help and support you in doing this!

Trust me I know and extremely thankful every day to my wife.  I probably wouldn't be full time if my wife had not be this generous and caring about my need for transition.  Though I am bless to of gotten all manner of her old "hand me downs" and some still have tags on them.  LOL

 

Hoping everyone has a wonderful and safe day.

 

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Emily michelle

Oh trust me it’s not like this year around haha.(I live in Missouri). I love to be a 60s 70s gal lol

I couldn’t believe it she said look in your bra and sock drawer and she put 3 of her old bras in there I actually have one on today to wear to work. I was trying to find tops that match my shorts last night and she just laughed at me the whole time lol.

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ShawnaLeigh
45 minutes ago, Emily michelle said:

Oh trust me it’s not like this year around haha.(I live in Missouri). I love to be a 60s 70s gal lol

I couldn’t believe it she said look in your bra and sock drawer and she put 3 of her old bras in there I actually have one on today to wear to work. I was trying to find tops that match my shorts last night and she just laughed at me the whole time lol.

Mine has gotten a kick out of some of the outfits I put together and she is always about tough love.  "Um nope-looks terrible-go change." she would say if I missed.  LOL

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Emily michelle
31 minutes ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

Mine has gotten a kick out of some of the outfits I put together and she is always about tough love.  "Um nope-looks terrible-go change." she would say if I missed.  LOL

That  happens all the time with me I’m learning though, but if you ask her I’m not lol. I have to laugh at myself always before I only wore what was comfortable and cheap. I spend now on one outfit what I spent a year on my clothes  before.

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Ms Maddie

Good morning. 

I've been told by women that I have good taste.  Sometimes.  Not always the case.  There have been times when all I could do to grab a few things off racks at thrift stores that kind of fit and then run out of the place in fear.  I remember a checkout clerk asking "Are you actually going to wear these together??"

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Emily michelle
46 minutes ago, Ms Maddie said:

Good morning. 

I've been told by women that I have good taste.  Sometimes.  Not always the case.  There have been times when all I could do to grab a few things off racks at thrift stores that kind of fit and then run out of the place in fear.  I remember a checkout clerk asking "Are you actually going to wear these together??"

Haha I don’t know how I would respond to that clerk 

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ShawnaLeigh
1 hour ago, Emily michelle said:

Haha I don’t know how I would respond to that clerk 

With a "Yes I am why?" Sprinkled with curiosity and lots of attitude.  

But that's me.  LOL

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Emily michelle
30 minutes ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

With a "Yes I am why?" Sprinkled with curiosity and lots of attitude.  

But that's me.  LOL

Haha I love that. I thought it was funny I was talking to the insurance lady at my doctors office yesterday and she asked how I was and I said wonderful it’s I love my job Monday she got the biggest kick out of it. It really felt nice we talked on the phone for like 20 minutes. It was great to have a conversation as 2 women. 

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KymmieL

I would love to find a place were it is 60-75 yr round. maybe 40-50s at night. I would move there in a heartbeat. I am a warm weather girl. now more than ever since being on my blockers. I am cold more often. I want warmer weather so I can get out and do something. With no garage only have the parking lot to do any work on the cars. (yet the landlord doesn't allow it) I want to get on the bike and ride (MMM sounds like a song lyric)

 

thankfully it has been getting warmer. we wound up laying off two drivers yesterday. So know our hours are back up so today and tomorrow I go in at 10 instead of noon. hey 2 more hours of  boredom and BS.

 

Have a great day all.

 

Kymmie

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Jani
4 hours ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

OK you can keep 80's  Uggh.  

I'm a 60s to 70s gal for comfort.  (Where do you have to live for that to be year round?  LOL)

Me too Shawna.  While maybe one or two days of 80's would be tolerable but not for months on end. 

 

3 hours ago, Ms Maddie said:

I remember a checkout clerk asking "Are you actually going to wear these together??"

That was kind of blunt.  We all buy things that may not match because something at home does!

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Suzanne1
4 hours ago, Ms Maddie said:

Good morning. 

I've been told by women that I have good taste.  Sometimes.  Not always the case.  There have been times when all I could do to grab a few things off racks at thrift stores that kind of fit and then run out of the place in fear.  I remember a checkout clerk asking "Are you actually going to wear these together??"

Good taste is a relatively common asset.  However, a frequent problem is that we may not use good personal judgement.  While an outfit may be well-selected/tasteful and look stupendous on  one person, it just may not work for another in terms of presentation.

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Ms Maddie

Ok.  Thanks

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BrandiBri

I have not had any negative comments about my choice of clothes . I am often complimented on my choices. One time I was visiting my son while he was in the hospital and the his nurse came into the room. I was wearing a dress, black leggings and scruncy boots. The nurse asked if I picked out my own clothes or if I had someone pick them out for me. When I told her that i pick out my own clothes she told me that I had better taste than she had. Talk about making my day!

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Suzanne1
1 hour ago, KymmieL said:

I would love to find a place were it is 60-75 yr round. maybe 40-50s at night. I would move there in a heartbeat. I am a warm weather girl. now more than ever since being on my blockers. I am cold more often. I want warmer weather so I can get out and do something. With no garage only have the parking lot to do any work on the cars. (yet the landlord doesn't allow it) I want to get on the bike and ride (MMM sounds like a song lyric)

 

thankfully it has been getting warmer. we wound up laying off two drivers yesterday. So know our hours are back up so today and tomorrow I go in at 10 instead of noon. hey 2 more hours of  boredom and BS.

 

Have a great day all.

 

Kymmie

I've been in this state since I was 2 years of age (the full truth be known, I was in said state for all but a few months during those first 2 years).  I take the changing weather as a constant, with some summers seeing temperatures that seldom get out of the 90's & others where there are many sequential 100+ degree days for each summer month.  Some years we receive 50-60+" of rain, and at other times we have multiple-years of drought.  It's not that uncommon for us to receive 60+ mph straight-line winds, tornados & microbursts, and bruja's dancing across the fields.  I think most of us in my locale don't believe in the notion of "climate change"; what we see & experience is simply the endless cycle of Nature, ever changing & ever repeating.

 

[Wow, what a long winded statement?  Well, I'll post it anyways, and try prattle-on less in the future.]

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JustineM

75 and cloudy here. Enjoying the day outside in the yard. I did my civic duty and voted today, as Justine. I guess even with makeup I still look close to my id photo. 

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Susan R

Having some mid-day coffee before heading out for a walk.  It’s 54° and the sun just came out.  I love warmer weather.  My wife won’t join me on my walks unless it’s over 50° so it looks like I’ll have some company today.

 

6 hours ago, KymmieL said:

I am a warm weather girl. now more than ever since being on my blockers. I am cold more often.

I used to be warm all the time prior to HRT.  Now my hands and feet are often freezing...LOL. Roles seems to be reversed a bit as I’m always reaching for her hands at night to warm mine.  The extremities being colder is one of the few changes I could have done without.

 

Susan R🌷

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Jani

New avatar Susan, very nice!  

3 hours ago, Susan R said:

Now my hands and feet are often freezing.

mmmm, maybe the estrogen in your system?  Or just plain getting older??  

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