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28 minutes ago, Emily michelle said:

I don’t if it is too soon to have grs because I’m a month on hrt but I just want it gone!

 

WPATH guidelines say you need to be on HRT for a year before you're a candidate for GCS. It doesn't have to be much longer than that though. I got in at 17 months. Most surgeons have at least a six month waiting list though so you need to be proactive if you really want it and be ready to harass people who are sitting on your paperwork.

Also letters of recommendation. You need to be on top of those, but not TOO on top of those if you want your insurance to pay out. They consider fresher letters of more import than older letters. Remember: Your insurance is looking for whatever reason they can to not pay you.

 

This public service message has been brought to you by the number 7, the letter Q and the cat sleeping in my lap.

 

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31 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

 

WPATH guidelines say you need to be on HRT for a year before you're a candidate for GCS. It doesn't have to be much longer than that though. I got in at 17 months. Most surgeons have at least a six month waiting list though so you need to be proactive if you really want it and be ready to harass people who are sitting on your paperwork.

Also letters of recommendation. You need to be on top of those, but not TOO on top of those if you want your insurance to pay out. They consider fresher letters of more import than older letters. Remember: Your insurance is looking for whatever reason they can to not pay you.

 

This public service message has been brought to you by the number 7, the letter Q and the cat sleeping in my lap.

 

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Thanks Jackie my insurance company has already stated they don’t cover it. So financing is going to be the hard part. In all honesty I will probably have to wait a few years. My wife and are in the process of spending 25000 to hopefully get her pregnant. So as much as I want it. It will have to wait.

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Had to switch the routine of coffee to Thai tea, it's way easier on the stomach, and it's better for cooling down. It's over 80 degrees outside.?

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3 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

WPATH guidelines say you need to be on HRT for a year before you're a candidate for GCS. It doesn't have to be much longer than that though.

What about when you cannot do HRT? just curious.

 

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33 minutes ago, KymmieL said:

What about when you cannot do HRT? just curious.

 

I'm... not sure actually. You might be stuck or have to leave the country for a doctor who doesn't follow WPATH guidelines. I'll e-mail my surgeon and see if she has any insight.

 

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1 hour ago, KymmieL said:

What about when you cannot do HRT? just curious.

 

Kymmie

I think the guidelines are flexible enough to accommodate someone who, cannot have HRT for some good reason.

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1 hour ago, KathyLauren said:

I think the guidelines are flexible enough to accommodate someone who, cannot have HRT for some good reason.

I do think that blood clots are a good reason.

 

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OK, so according to my surgeon:

 

"If a patient can't take HRT, their doctor will have to supply a letter to that effect.

If there is a health reason, sometimes the insurance will waive that criteria, but there needs to be a documented medical reason why.

 

We have run into situations where a patient identifies as gender neutral/fluid/non-binary and they do not take hormones. This is harder to get waived by insurance, but not impossible. In this situation, the therapist will need to write the letter stating the reason and why the HRT criteria should be waived."

 

So that's the answer to that in the states. Communication between your providers is key and your insurance company, as always, is the adversary.

 

Hugs!

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Is there an extra seat at this table?  Is this the place where we can post about any little event without starting a new thread?  Can I still post in the afternoon?  Do you mind that I prefer tea? ?

I just had something nice happen and I need to tell somebody.  Ya know?

I went to a little backyard nursery today to get my annual impatiens for my porch pots.  I feel extra good today so I put on makeup and left my hair down.  The lady who owns the nursery is about my age and she was so nice.  We gabbed for 10 minutes about decor and arts & crafts and doll collections.  It was obvious she didn't "make" me and it felt SOOO good!  Trying not to be giddy here because I need to learn to take it all in stride, but it's been awhile and I just can't keep it to myself, tee-hee.  Thanks for listening and sorry if I intruded!

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Tori, Welcome to the thread. You are welcome to post at anytime. I started this thread for just that reason to talk to one another. Happy things,  sad things, just about anything. with in the forum rules, of course. if you read just some of mine. I talk about everything from happy moments to sad.

 

Tea is always a welcome beverage. We won't complain too much. How ever there are some of us who are coffeeholics, Cough, cough, Shawna Leigh cough cough. LOL

 

Kymmie

 

 

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Two cups of coffee in the morning, then green tea after that. Green tea is good for you, I've been drinking it for so long that I now like it.

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37 minutes ago, Oh_Kay said:

Two cups of coffee in the morning, then green tea after that. Green tea is good for you, I've been drinking it for so long that I now like it.

?So jealous...

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56 minutes ago, Oh_Kay said:

Two cups of coffee in the morning, then green tea after that. Green tea is good for you, I've been drinking it for so long that I now like it.

Green tea with lemon is nice!

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I just have to join into this coffee and tea discussion to note that my wife introduced me to Mokka pot coffee. It’s stovetop espresso. My morning isn’t complete without a strong, dark, sweet cup. If I have chores at night after everyone goes to bed, I’ll save some of the pot and drink it cold and sweet. I live on coffee...

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Good evening folks.  Been a rough couple of days for me, hurt my back yesterday some I’m kinda down and out for a couple days. Moving coin around really sucks sometimes. 
 

Doing ok, little messed up from the muscle relaxer but not to bad.  

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Good day for me,found out both of my daughters did good in school.My youngest loves going with me during the summer on the routes I go to every shop I stop at to sell tools at.She is going to after the 6th of June.Good thing is she loves to help me out stocking my tool truck up every weekend.Did great this week,some were off the street while at a couple shops I stop at.I don't mind them getting in and buying tools from me.Hopefully it goes better with me,met a great new SO Tuesday,she is supportive of my crossdressing.Started dating another one before her,it didn't work out.She lied to me,was too bossy and I didn't like it.Date on Monday night,she does want to meet Mika sometime.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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It is my birthday,I am 52 years young now - and I cannot even go for a walk. My city is under curfew on account of rioting past night.  I have no words for the murderous arse whose callous actions sparked these events.  I hope everyone stays safe.

 

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39 minutes ago, MetaLicious said:

It is my birthday,I am 52 years young now - and I cannot even go for a walk. My city is under curfew on account of rioting past night.  I have no words for the murderous arse whose callous actions sparked these events.  I hope everyone stays safe.

 

?You stay and be safe and well too. I hate being stuck in also but best let things get settled. No point getting in harm's ways unnecessaryily.

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11 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

and the cat sleeping in my lap.

LOL! I feel your pain Jackie! Sylvester loves to climb up on my lap whenever he sees me on the computer. I just count my blessings and count myself lucky that he doesn't demand to get on the keyboard!

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1 hour ago, MetaLicious said:

It is my birthday,I am 52 years young now

Happy Birthday @MetaLicious. Hope your birthday went ok despite the restrictions. It’s getting crazy out there. There’s a big protest heading my way in Seattle tomorrow.

 

Stay alert and out of harms way,

Susan R?

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Happy Birthday, Metalicious! No matter what anyone tells you, you're still a baby at 52!

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13 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

WPATH guidelines say you need to be on HRT for a year before you're a candidate for GCS. It doesn't have to be much longer than that though. I got in at 17 months. Most surgeons have at least a six month waiting list though so you need to be proactive if you really want it and be ready to harass people who are sitting on your paperwork.

Also letters of recommendation. You need to be on top of those, but not TOO on top of those if you want your insurance to pay out. They consider fresher letters of more import than older letters. Remember: Your insurance is looking for whatever reason they can to not pay you.

 

This public service message has been brought to you by the number 7, the letter Q and the cat sleeping in my lap.

 

Hugs!

This is good to know. So I’m looking at this time next year.  I hit one year in November but I’m not wanting to ruin my Thanksgiving meal either surgery restrictions.   Lol

 

13 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

Thanks Jackie my insurance company has already stated they don’t cover it. So financing is going to be the hard part. In all honesty I will probably have to wait a few years. My wife and are in the process of spending 25000 to hopefully get her pregnant. So as much as I want it. It will have to wait.

Good Luck Em!!!!

 

its 2:25am EST and for some reason I just popped up fully awake.  Sign.  
Oh well I hope everyone has a good day!

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That’s ok @ShawnaLeigh, it’s now 2:46 and I haven’t been able to fall asleep yet. The little ones are fussing and I JUST finished the wife’s nightly deep tissue massage. She has fibromyalgia so she gets a full body massage every night. My mind will not rest tonight. 

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I should also note that I’m going to do what I need to make today, ALL DAY, as happy and positive as yesterday morning was. 

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