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@Bri2020 ha! I love me some good leftovers! Super excited to hear about your telling your father and it going so well! I will say, the last 2 years of my life have been very hectic with my transition. It’s always appointments, blood work, therapy, now recovery and planning what is next in my journey! It gets better though!

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Well up early. Opening the store today. It is supposed to be warmer with a high forecast for 70.

 

Have a good day,  and for my brothers and sisters in the west say safe.

 

Kymmie

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Sisters and brothers on west coast be safe stay safe praying fires contained soon.

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Bobbie Scott

Morning girls. Hope everyone has a great day. 

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It is a beautiful day here in NJ.  Sunny with a light breeze.  74 degrees.......lovely especially after the storm two nights ago that dropped 3+ inches of rain in 1/2 hr.   Pity i you;dn't have sent that one to somewhere with fires ranging.

 

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Charlize

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ElizabethStar

It's been cold and rainy here all day. I'm just staying in my pj's and drinking coffee. I feel like we skipped Autumn, I'm not ready for winter.

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Cuddle up with a good book or binge watch something and enjoy you evening.

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I am just glad the dew point has got out of the 70's here. We had some rain long with a temperature drop, but the humidity is the worst part where I live.

 

Those on the West coast, stay safe. I'm praying the fires get contained soon.

 

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Mike

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Just had a lovely brewed coffee and looking out into the green hills on this beautiful spring morning.

It's hard to see any remnants of the fires last Christmas. Maybe a burnt tree stump among the green grass.

I hope everyone over there is as blessed as we were and they stay safe and well. Property can be replaced lives cannot.

 

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Robin

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ElizabethStar

It took a week but I watched all 3 season of Dark Matter then I ended tonight watching the Movie Stardust. Love that movie.

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Watched a couple more episodes of Hanna on prime. last night. Haven't binge watched anything yet.

 

Happy last day of the weekend. Of course it isn't mine.

 

Hugs to all my friends

 

Kymmie

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QuestioningAmber

Just waking up for the second time this morning. Starting my vacation, stopping the night at my Grandma’s house. It is hard to see her in the mental state she is in, as she is starting to get pretty far along with dementia.

 

I have also been given crap though for my longer hair which is now shoulder length. I guess it is something I am going to have to simply get used to for the week.

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ElizabethStar
1 hour ago, QuestioningAmber said:

I have also been given crap though for my longer hair which is now shoulder length. I guess it is something I am going to have to simply get used to for the week.

Family is good at that. I made it a point to let my family know that my employer doesn't have a problem with it.

 

On a side note. I got a call from HR at the end of the day on Friday regarding changing everything to my preferred name. Aside from drafting a letter to go out to company they are writing company policies for including  members of the LGBTQIA community.

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Yeah @ElizabethStar that is correct about family. That is also great news about your work situation which also makes sense why it took so long for them to get in contact with you.

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@ElizabethStar,

    It is really great that you have been treated fair and with respect by your work. You've helped each person that joins the company in future too. This is the kind of progress the community desperately needs. That's something to be proud of for sure.

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ElizabethStar

Thanks @Abi.

 

I'm happy they're doing it. I know there were complaints a few years ago when I was just getting my feet wet by growing out my hair and a little cross-dressing. Maybe a lot of complaints. I had a meeting with 2 managers. I consider them both friends so it was casual but they were told to tell me to stop CD-ing. It was very awkward for all of us and I'm pretty sure they could see the tears I was trying to hold back. Nothing was ever enforced and it never came up again. Later I found out it came from another member (self proclaimed homophobic) of management who was trying to make his own policies without consulting HR.

 

 

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Bobbie Scott

Morning girls. Hope everyone has a great day. I heard from my ex-girlfriend last night. She said she misses me.   Think there's any hope?

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1 hour ago, Bobbie Scott said:

Morning girls. Hope everyone has a great day. I heard from my ex-girlfriend last night. She said she misses me.   Think there's any hope?

 

Don't be silly. There's always hope.

 

Unless, of course, that was a pun because her name is hope. In which case, shame on you. 😘

 

Hugs!

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Thanks, her name is Mary. We had a discussion the other night. She says I'm a totally different person in female personna. I told her I was the same person. If she couldn't accept it, then we don't stand a chance. 

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1 hour ago, Bobbie Scott said:

Thanks, her name is Mary. We had a discussion the other night. She says I'm a totally different person in female personna. I told her I was the same person. If she couldn't accept it, then we don't stand a chance. 

 

I don't think that's really true. You're the same person, just different parts of you are at the fore when you're being yourself than when you're wearing your male persona. I know my core personality is the same, just different bits get accented.

 

Hugs!

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2 hours ago, Bobbie Scott said:

Thanks, her name is Mary. We had a discussion the other night. She says I'm a totally different person in female personna. I told her I was the same person. If she couldn't accept it, then we don't stand a chance. 

 

We are the same person before and after, but we do change.  My wife noticed that I am less uptight, and thinks I am more fun to be with than I was before.  Still me, but a happier me.

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Bobbie Scott

My girlfriend doesn't like my female side.She says she fell in love with a guy. I envy you girls who's partners are accepting and loving. 

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@KathyLauren although my wife hasn't said so - I can tell she likes the real me better and we talk more and I finally have shown interest in cooking and she was amazed. I don't have a great sense of smell so food was mainly to stay alive (even during my anorexic days) - but HRT has actually improved my sense of smell (not a lot but noticeable) and I am interested in giving my wife a break from cooking AND I actually am enjoying shopping more - who'd a thought.

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