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Yeah I sure wish I’d known what transgenders were or know that I had all the traits they now look for to determine if you are transgender.  But when I first started to realize maybe I was different I was just a teen and never knew anything about it in 1962.  As I got older I thought it was some sort of perverse idea that had to be kept hidden and was shameful only now do I get to understand what was going on all my life.  Too late to enjoy all the things I missed.

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Don't I know that we need an up grade to the CO computer systems. We are still using a green screen. But supposed to be switching it over.



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12 hours ago, Jackie C. said:
12 hours ago, KymmieL said:

* point of sale, get your minds out of the gutter.


I refuse. Also a computer can be two things.




As a former programmer from my past life, I can confirm: a POS can also be a POS. ;)

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Good morning everyone 


coffee is good today. My wife made it, usually I do.  

It’s A gloomy start to the day.  It must have rained earlier, the roads were wet.  Nothing much happening here today, it’s laundry and trash day.  Always something to do and there is always tomorrow to do it.





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@Willow sometimes the simple things are the best things.

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Gloomy morning here as well.   Coffee on the porch with my kitty.

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Remembered a band I really liked in the early seventies from Cleveland - Phil Keaggy - kind of the first Christian rock star came from the band and Hendrix invited them to record at Electric Ladyland as he loved Phil's playing. Phil was one of the guit guitaris to do the strike a note or chord with volume off then playing with the volume to bring the note/chord in and out. Nice to listen to on a dreary morning with a steaming cup of tea or coffee.



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Morning everyone, hope you're all enjoying your coffee time~! Planning on having some green tea and eating after a fairly long fast window again (not coffee I know lol!) It's gotten quite cold here compared to a temperate/warm normal so not planning on going out for too long a walk later, before then finishing some laundry and weekly academic assignments. Mostly hanging around the house and talking with my boyfriend over a nice voice call for a while is the plan. Hope everyone enjoys their cup, and relaxes a bit today! :)

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I got up to pee about 3:30 this morning.  Normally, I go right back to sleep within 5 minutes, but one of our cats decided that that wasn't happening.  Between kneading my pillow and sitting on my face, he kept me awake until 5:30.  (Pushing him off the bed only works for a minute or two, and our house doesn't have doors.)  I had to get up at 5:30 this morning to drive a friend into the city for her chemo appointment.  So coming home, I knew I needed coffee if I was going to stay on the road.


By law, there is supposed to be a Tim Horton's at every highway exit in Canada, but I picked the one exit that didn't have one.  I had to make do with a cup of truck-stop coffee.  Blyech!!  Its only virtue was that it had caffeine in it.


There's no excuse for bad coffee in Nova Scotia.  There are at least half a dozen gourmet coffee roasters in the province.

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6 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

By law, there is supposed to be a Tim Horton's at every highway exit in Canada, but I picked the one exit that didn't have one.  I had to make do with a cup of truck-stop coffee.  Blyech!!  Its only virtue was that it had caffeine in it.

@KathyLaurenas a one time truck driver, I'm here to tell you the best truckstop coffee ️ is Blyech!!!


My favorite coffee on the road is McCafe Coffee followed by Duncan Donuts Coffee. 


I'm so proud to hear that you're helping a friend to and from Cancer Treatments.


God bless the Caregiver,



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@KathyLauren my grandmother’s family was from Pictou NS. My family was from PEI.  My grandfather’s family moved to NS for a while before moving to Massachusetts.  They got married in NS in 1888.  I still have cousins there.  But I’ve never managed to get there.



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1 hour ago, Willow said:

@KathyLauren my grandmother’s family was from Pictou NS. My family was from PEI.  My grandfather’s family moved to NS for a while before moving to Massachusetts.  They got married in NS in 1888.  I still have cousins there.  But I’ve never managed to get there.




Well, once covid is over and the border re-opens, you'll have to come for a visit!

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7 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

I had to make do with a cup of truck-stop coffee.  Blyech!!  Its only virtue was that it had caffeine in it.

I drove a truck for this city for years.  I learned which convenience stores had the best coffee.  It was usually the ones where the clerk drank it themselves, rather than Sundrop.

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Hello everyone,

    I just wanted to pop on here to let anyone, that may have been wondering, know that I am ok. It has been a rough time for me lately. It was one year since my divorce this last week and I get rather depressed about it all. I don't tend to want to spread my hurt upon others and that's about all I've got in me right now. I will check in from time to time but, I need time to get things straight in my head for a while. I am sad to hear about your loss @Shay. I never had siblings but I know it can't be easy. I am sure you will get through it. You are strong. I'm glad to read of so much happy things for all of you. Stay safe.



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9 hours ago, Shay said:

Remembered a band I really liked in the early seventies from Cleveland - Phil Keaggy

Thanks for that.  Love my Glass Harp records.  Don't have that one, but Phil is definitely one of my favorite guitarists.  Great singer too!

(that Decca label brings back some early memories)

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@AbiI've missed you but take care of yourself. We're always here if you need us.

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@KathyLauren That is great that you are able to help out a friend in their time of need. I don't understand why some truck stops don't have good coffee either, it doesn't make sense to me either.


Today was the first day starting on a new team, and right now for next couple of weeks it is going to be self paced training for the most part. It was kind of funny, I was at a fireside chat with a group of people including one of the VP and they were asking for something interesting about yourself ... I didn't say anything, just was like, if only you knew.

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5 hours ago, QuestioningAmber said:

I was at a fireside chat with a group of people including one of the VP and they were asking for something interesting about yourself ... I didn't say anything, just was like, if only you knew.


Ha ha!


That reminds me, I actually had a moment like that recently, too. But, only a bit more embarrassing and with some backstory behind it...


After a week of getting by on not really enough sleep (my own fault, I'm too much of a night owl), come Friday morning, I drag myself in to work, barely functional, and see in the papers news of the local counties taking another record step up on the COVID warning scale. So that really sets the stage. Then, I see the whole organization (not super-huge, probably around 100 people) all got an email from our assistant director. I wasn't happy with this message.


So...very unclear head...plus...trigger...equals, apparently, a full organization-wide direct email response. (No aggression-reducing, calm-inducing HRT for me, just quite yet!!!). Naturally, the email software chooses this particular message, for some fun unknown reason, to duplicate into two separate identical messages for everyone...


Thank goodness I managed to keep it civil (and thank goodness, for my own sake, we happen to be union), but my message was definitely disapproving, and had maaayybe the teensiest hint of sarcasm. Of course, knowing I just did that, and that everyone knew...or was currently discovering at that very moment...well, as you can imagine, that made the rest of an already bad shift all the more...umm...ffuuuunn...for me...???


Part of me was thinking, "Oh my...if this is how I'm feeling about this, how could I ever be able to handle actually coming out at work?" (Once again, kudos, to @ElizabethStar! That is SUCH a huge step to make! So glad it's worked out so well!!)


In any case, luckily, it turns out the "we have awesome people here" fairies must have been looking out for me, because literally all the comments and responses I got were positive and supportive. Even from one of the managers above me in my dept!! At least one or two of the responses I got mentioned something like "bravery" or "guts". Bravery??? Oh no, more like "sleep-deprived head fog" followed by a day of panic! 


"But", as I was thinking, "If you think that's 'brave', ha ha, well, just you wait...!"

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Good morning!


It wasn't a fireside chat, but my ex stood up at our kid's wedding and said my current marriage is virtually "Ozzie and Harriet", which may look ironic to everyone in retrospect.

When I started back in the summer I thought I'd be physically back at work sooner than I think I will be and there'd be some gradual evolution in how I look to ease into the whole coming out deal. Oh well. 

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 Small wins of the week.


I got my knee high boots. I love them, they are so comfy and go with so many outfits.


My wife offered and without question picked up my lady-meds . I thought the world was gonna end, but no she did it just like an everyday type of thing. As much as I wanted to, I didn't ask why all of a sudden she was OK with it.


I finally ended several long term friendships. One was a extremely hard but had been one-sided for many years. The others they weren't as good of friends as I though, they never were. I was just holding on to the past. I've made new friends that like me for who I really am.


Spent Sunday cleaning the house. I managed to walk 5 miles, in my own house. Our place looks amazing considering it's been raining and the dogs track mud in all the time.


Bought a pair of computer glasses. I had no idea where to look so I asked for help. The young lady didn't seem to think twice and lead me straight into the woman's dept. I was wearing my new boots and lucky flannel so I'm sure it helped me pass.










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8 hours ago, Heather Nicole said:

Part of me was thinking, "Oh my...if this is how I'm feeling about this, how could I ever be able to handle actually coming out at work?"

Just my viewpoint. Maybe the stress about coming out at work is making everything harder on the front-side. I did for me. I still can't believe the stuff that used to set me off.

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I just ordered a pair of knee high boots I cannot wait to get them.

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I love those type of boots.....enjoy......

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Good morning 


knee high boots look cute but not for me.  I had a hard time getting Wellington motorcycle boots I could wear. I need a women’s 12w which is difficult to find then my calves aren’t tiny. At least I found some nice over the ankle. 

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I caNT BREATHE HAHAHAH MY little sister was playing on the recliner and I am doing school work so I can't really see her, but my stepmom is also sitting on the recliner. SO all I hear, is "Weeeee!" and then a crash (She knocked over her little toy icecream stand) (She is okay) Just the "Weeeee!" followed by a crashed made me laugh so hard xDD

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