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@ElizabethStar My wife and I talked about leggings before, I am not a huge fan of them, mostly due to confidence. She did give an idea of using spanx though for keeping things in place possibly, and probably a bit more comfortable than shorts with the leggings.

 

So did an online board game afternoon with some friends from this support group I am a part of, and I feel like it went really well. Going to have to plan more of them in the future. Quite happy with the platform I found, since it has a lot of games and a variety of different types as well. Actually I am planning on running an event this Tuesday as a distraction from the other things that will be going on (and that is all I am going to say about it).

 

I also tried to reconnect with someone that we were becoming friends I thought at least pre-COVID, but not sure what the status is now. The conversation seemed kind of forced, which is kind of sad. I miss having that organic growth of my social network that I was doing prior to COVID.

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@QuestioningAmberi know how you feel.  I had made a friend here.  We hit it off right away, we’re just about at the same place in our transition.  She was having more issues with her wife than I.  She stopped posting here but every once in a while she will message me.  Last time we talked she was still struggling with family but was seeing a therapist.

 

My wife and I have some days that are difficult but we are generally getting better every day now.  
 

I had a good day.  Went to church (outdoors).  The minister talked about Paul’s letter to the Corinthians in which he talked about sewing seeds and watering the seeds( people). During his sermon it rained for a couple minutes. How impossibly appropriate.

 

I had a great day today, so to do something for with my wife I took her out to dinner.  We rarely do that with Covid.  Dinner was good.  At the end the waiter asked if we wanted separate checks.  That just topped it off.  He got tipped a little more than normal and he doesn’t even know why.

 

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Thanks @Emily michelle. Unfortunately things are not that good, at home, yet to try that.

 

@QuestioningAmberThat's what they are spandex. For the life of me I couldn't remember what the shorts are I mentioned. They work OK but they have seams that show through. Maybe shapeware would be the answer. Now that I know what I'm talking about. I could get away with buying that.

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hi,  I need some help.  Can anyone explain being Pan sexual?  I know little about it but I have a granddaughter who is telling her mom she is pan sexual. Mom doesn’t understand how she could know that at 13.  Well, we have signs that if we or our parents picked up on them could have know we were tg at a much earlier age.

 

but what is being Pan sexual anyway?  Is it a part of the entire LGBTQI + spectrum or is it something unrelated?  Anyone, please help me so I can help them understand each other.

 

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2 hours ago, Willow said:

 Can anyone explain being Pan sexual?

Pansexuality is sexual, romantic or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity. Pansexual people may refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are not determining factors in their romantic or sexual attraction to others.

 

This is the wikipedia definition. There is a forum called AVEN that represents many people from the entire lgbtq spectrum. They have many resources if you want to check them out. I hope it's ok to share that. I am strictly trying to help connect you to information.

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Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity. It is part of the LGBTQ+ spectrum.

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Hi everyone! Just sitting in my car waiting for my blood draw. My endocrinologist wanted me to fast this time so I’m starving right now lol. 
 

Elizabeth my wife did give me an odd look when I explained what I bought the pads for. Then she called me crazy and that was the end of the conversation.

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On 11/1/2020 at 8:22 AM, Abi said:

I made a keto dish. One of my favorites. It's just chicken breasts with cream cheese, regular shredded cheese, bacon bits and jalapenos. Baked and delicious. So filling and very good for my diet.

 

Yum!

 

23 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

Leggings have been coming up a lot lately?.

 

Leggings are one of the things I've been envying about women's wardrobes for a good while now. Still need to get myself some. Several years ago, I had a pair of men's Under Armour ones to wear inside jeans to stay warm on winter hikes. Loved them, but I really let myself go shortly after, so it'll still be awhile before I can fit into to them again. :(

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Coffee today is my favorite kind: Already made by someone else. :)

 

As I mentioned in a different post, got my ears pierced last evening! Love them, but the flip side is that my daily care regimens just seem to keep growing and growing...Guess I may have to get used to that.

 

Finally having my first session (video call) with a gender therapist today! In just an hour and a half from now. Not sure what to expect, but I've been looking forward to this for what seems like quite awhile now.

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1 hour ago, Heather Nicole said:
23 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

Leggings have been coming up a lot lately?.

 

Leggings are one of the things I've been envying about women's wardrobes for a good while now. Still need to get myself some. Several years ago, I had a pair of men's Under Armour ones to wear inside jeans to stay warm on winter hikes. Loved them, but I really let myself go shortly after, so it'll still be awhile before I can fit into to them again. :(

I wear them under a skirt with my boots in cold weather for warmth.  They help when I don't want pants (which is most of the time)  I also have some fleece-lined ones which do the job pretty well.

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2 hours ago, Heather Nicole said:

Coffee today is my favorite kind: Already made by someone else.

I like your idea on ️ coffee.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy???

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Leggings have been my absolute "go-to" for most of the athletic activities or weekend wear when I feel lazy to change between being at home or spending time outside. I think they are most versatile between form and function ?

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2 hours ago, Jandi said:

They help when I don't want pants (which is most of the time)

 

Same here :) Which is unfortunate since I'm still always in guy mode in public. (I guess there are kilts, but around here, that would probably stand out just as much as leggings.)

 

There's a live streamer from youtube/twitch, using an ultra-cutesy CG avatar, that had an adorable mini-rant on pants that I sooo agree with. I can't show it here, due to copious profanity, but I'll transcribe and edit:

 

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Ok, pants rant. Pants are [bleep] stupid. Why would you wear pants when you can wear either a skirt or a dress? And have your legs not feel constricted by stupid [bleep] fabric that's all rubbing all up against you an' [bleep]. Or, making it, like, less comfy to just be bundled up in blankets. Like, [bleep] that. I'm sorry, [commenter's name], I don't like wearing jeans. I like wearing comfy, soft stuff. Or ["justice"?], because I like to let my body breathe. You know? Ain't need no [bleep] pants, making me all warm and uncomfortable, gotta adjust them all the time an' stuff.

 

Nah! Wear dresses! Wear skirts! Wear kilts! Anything but pants.

 

[Another commenter's name], how dare you give pants a good [can't quite make out]. How [bleep] dare you!

 

(Part Two, later in the video)

 

[Commenter's name] says, "What have pants ever done to you?"

 

They constrained me! They deprived me of freedom! Down with pants! Up with...well...down with pants, on with...justice...[cracks up laughing] Whoaho, that was almost bad! Ah ha ha ha!

 

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Lol!

Pants are definitely my least favorite thing to wear on the lower half, but I don't blame the pants.

 

I have had a lot of those same visceral feelings, but I blame the casting director for putting me in the wrong role.

 

(good luck with the therapist Heather) 

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I'm totally the opposite. I love jeans. The last thing I want to do is go walking on a nature trail wearing a dress or a skirt. I don't do "social" stuff. I get out in the woods and just sit a while, listening. If I go to the store, I am not concerned with being dressed any kind of certain way. Give me a mountain and some snow gear. If you see me at all, you'll be seeing a happy lady.

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I'm with you @Abi, I usually prefer a pair of jeans and a cute T or shirt, or a sweater, now that the weather for it has arrived. You can occasionally find me in a pair of pants or leggings, in the right situation, but it's rare. I don't have any dresses yet, one cami-midi dress on the way; but I probably will wear one when the mood strikes.

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@SaraAW I don't mean to sound like there is something wrong with leggings or dresses. They just don't fit my lifestyle at all really. My time is not spent in groups. I do not date so there's no nights out on the town or anyone to impress necessarily. I just go where I am happy. That tends to be out in some forest or at the very least, a place I will not see many if any people. I've always been that way though. 

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1 hour ago, Abi said:

The last thing I want to do is go walking on a nature trail wearing a dress or a skirt. I don't do "social" stuff. I get out in the woods and just sit a while, listening.

Yeah, I get this.  Personally, I will wear a skirt on a trail if it's not difficult or overgrown. But if I know it could get complicated, jeans are more practical.  And also for some forms of work.  I heat with wood, and I'm not big on using a chainsaw in a skirt.

I prefer at least mid calf length.  For one thing it feels more age appropriate.  And I enjoy the way they flow.  My twenty-something daughter tried to get me into a short one once - sorry, I need to act my age.  I might feel like a teenager at times, but those days are long gone. 

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@JandiThere is no way I'm using a chainsaw ever again. I'd be too scared of breaking a nail and it's not too likely to be a need any time soon. I think I would prefer dresses that are ankle length. I am way to conservative to show my legs off. I do occasionally wonder what kind of makeover other ladies would give me. My only experience with that is my thirteen year old daughter. She would do camo and combat boots lol. That's not my idea of a makeover. :thinking: Maybe one of these days I will have someone nearby that can help me choose some things but, I'm really not in any rush for that.

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I can rock a pair of skinny jeans, but I much prefer skirts.  They are comfy and I like the way they swish.  (I definitely prefer swishy skirts to pencil skirts.)  But in winter, jeans are usually more practical.

 

Except, considering that I am still recovering from my surgery, and any kind of pants aggravate the whole area.  I am still trying to avoid pants even though it's starting to get cold.  I agree that chainsawing is definitely a pants-only task.  It is also a don't-try-this-while-recovering-from-surgery task, as I found last week.  It will take a couple more days before the swelling is back to normal.

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1 hour ago, Abi said:

@KathyLaurenI hope your recovery has been going well.

 

Well, it has been stalled for the last six months, but thanks for asking.

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Note to self DO NOT use a chainsaw while wearing a skirt.

 

I could definitely see myself on a nature hike in a skirt, with leggings. 

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3 hours ago, Jandi said:

I need to act my age.  I might feel like a teenager at times, but those days are long gone.

Jandi, I think this scares my wife most of all. She thinks I'm going to go all flamboyant drag queen on her. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with the Drag Scene, it's just not where I'm at. I'm going to be a happy 64 year old woman. I wore leggings and an oversized hoodie for our Halloween Block Party and all day Sunday. No one even mentioned my hot pink shoestrings. 

 

Hugs, 

 

Mindy???

 

 

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