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KymmieL

Good morning All. Coffees on.

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Jani

I hope this works out for you both.  I hope he hadn't spent the money or there will be a delay in returning it to you.

 

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Charlize

I hope you get your money back Debra!  What a pity that someone working for you would rob you as well.  

I'll be catching up the last 5 young goats from last years crop.  The butcher is due about 11.  This is a part of farming i like the least but some folks do eat meat and these animals have lived a great life.  So many animals are faced with such great fear and stress while these are still at pasture enjoying life to the last.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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tracy_j

That's bad about the money Debra but I suppose the one thing is that you know who it was and stand a chance of getting it back. I hope all goes well.

 

I have just relaxed a bit over lunch with a pot of coffee after a busy morning. I went to a bank to sort out my accounts with them as I am locked out online but they did not accept my ID, which they had previously said they would, which puts things in limbo. I only go into the town centre once every couple of months or so, but at least the accounts there are little used. Next it was the dentist where I needed a filling - not so good :( , then on to the optician where there were no issues :) . When setting out I dressed quickly and darted out for the train. I only realised when on my way why some, mainly younger, girls have a habit of tugging at their skirt hem. I had put on a figure hugging dress with a polo neck jumper over and a short winter jacket. I was wearing thicker winter tights but the hem of the dress was only about a third of the way down my thigh. I thought a bit too short but it was too late so I tugged a bit to make certain it was as low as it could be. I was doing the same :D . I wondered who would notice but it seemed to pass without reaction. At least I got to show my legs :D .

 

Tracy

 

 

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Josie Beth

Wow! That’s horrible. 

 

I often wonder how people can justify just taking things that don’t belong to them from someone who works hard to build a life. It’s not fun to find out that someone else decided that they were entitled to things that are very personal or critical. 

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Debra Michelle

We were set to buy two new tow trucks to replace two older ones,not going to happen yet.They are not cheap where we get them from.My husband and I worked hard this long to accomplish owning our own buisness and this happens.Have a new person already hired to replace this thief,she knows well not to steal from us.

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NB Adult

The entire thing is just sickening! I hope you are able to recover some part if not all of what that sorry individual stole from you. Perhaps you need to go after his assets, home and personal property in civil court.

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lauraincolumbia
On 10/16/2019 at 9:34 PM, Debra Michelle said:

Husband and I were alerted today by our accountant,$20,000.00 missing in our bank account for our towing yard,semi and auto repair shop.Found out it was our guy that does the paychecks,embezzled the money.Did fire him and police were called with him arrested.Did admit taking the money and did take $10,000.00 more lately.It is a mess now which will be resolved by the prosecutor charging him with embezzlement.Meet up with the prosecutor on Friday,will get that $30,000.00 back which he will have to pay back if convicted with jail time.

Thats terrible.   Would he be responsible in paying you back?  Or would insurance cover it?  If waiting on him, it will probably be aclong wait...

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Debra Michelle
1 hour ago, lauraincolumbia said:

Thats terrible.   Would he be responsible in paying you back?  Or would insurance cover it?  If waiting on him, it will probably be aclong wait...

Judge would order it during sentencing.So far he is cooperating although he has no remorse at all

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lauraincolumbia
2 hours ago, Debra Michelle said:

Judge would order it during sentencing.So far he is cooperating although he has no remorse at all

The judge might order it, but it doesn't mean that it will get paid back.  Especially if he doesn't have it now.

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Debra Michelle
2 hours ago, lauraincolumbia said:

The judge might order it, but it doesn't mean that it will get paid back.  Especially if he doesn't have it now.

Met with the prosecutor this morning,he is going to push it to pay it back.Found out he has it,never spent it.Detective interviewed him on it,in his safe.

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NB Adult
5 hours ago, lauraincolumbia said:

The judge might order it, but it doesn't mean that it will get paid back.  Especially if he doesn't have it now.

 

That would be the reason for a civil suit whereby the plaintiff goes after any and all of the perpetrators assets.

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Debra Michelle
2 hours ago, NB Adult said:

 

That would be the reason for a civil suit whereby the plaintiff goes after any and all of the perpetrators assets.

It is restitution,he will have to pay it back

 

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JustineM

Belated good morning everyone! Been on vacation this week and have the dreaded drive home tomorrow. Just relaxing today and a wedding to attend this evening. Hope everyone has a lovely day

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Debra Michelle

Busy this morning,had an auction at our towing yard.Auctioned off 50 vehicles,5 court seizures and rest of them abandoned.One bidder threw me off a bit,one of the bidding assistants caught it at the right time.He was told to leave and told not to come back ever again.Did it to me twice and this was his third time doing it.One employee of mine was there,she bought her 16 year old son his first car which was a 2001 Chevy Cavalier 4 door.Runs good and her son is satisfied with it.Two bidders were in a bidding war on a 2016 Jeep Wrangler,a court seizure.Court is going to be happy,they are getting a good chunk of money.

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NB Adult

Heck of a business, but clearly it has it's bright upsides!

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Debra Michelle

Part of our making money in our towing yard business,most of them were a huge pile of junk.Junkyards bought them.We get one junkyard that comes in buying 10 to 12 vehicles,good to us and says I am a great auctioneer

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Willow

Hi,

 

Our visit with our daughter is going well.  So far we have seen one cheer competition, one football game and will see a second cheer competition next Wednesday.  

 

The high school where my grand-daughter is a cheerleader won the football game.  Had to be because of the cheering.  lol

 

After a year on a waiting list I finally have an appointment with a psychiatrist which my endocrinologist wanted.  Depending on where this all goes that could end up being my second of two required professional diagnosis.

 

My good friend has met with surgeons and is hoping to move forward in the next few months.

 

Have a great weekend and week.

 

Hugs

 

Willow

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Willow

Debra, I was a financial accounting management my entire career a CPA.  It is a terrible thing when someone is able to determine a way to cheat you out of ;money, especially that much.  My suggestion to avoid this in the future is to make sure you review every paid bill and payroll and that you or your spouse be the only people able to sign the checks.

 

 You have a good business that you've worked hard to create.  Make sure you put in controls that don't over burden you but protect your business from future crooks.

 

If you want to talk about control systems, PM me.

 

Good luck

 

Willow

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NB Adult

Hey Willow, 

Great being a grandparent isn't it? Excellent advice to our friend Debra, I hate what that rascal did to them. I may be old fashioned, but I handle my own bill pay program rather than do autopay like a lot of companies prefer. It's scary having other people having free access to my account.

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Debra Michelle
1 hour ago, Willow said:

Debra, I was a financial accounting management my entire career a CPA.  It is a terrible thing when someone is able to determine a way to cheat you out of ;money, especially that much.  My suggestion to avoid this in the future is to make sure you review every paid bill and payroll and that you or your spouse be the only people able to sign the checks.

 

 You have a good business that you've worked hard to create.  Make sure you put in controls that don't over burden you but protect your business from future crooks.

 

If you want to talk about control systems, PM me.

 

Good luck

 

Willow

We sign the checks,our accountant has been helping us out on this.

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TammyAnne
On 10/12/2019 at 7:29 AM, Charlize said:

Tammy Anne,  

If your passing through western NJ and have time for a visit let me know.  I'm off to our local farm market to pickup the weeks produce from some dear friends. I'll probably be working on something around our farm then.  There is always more to do than i can get to but little by little we make progress.

Hugs,

Charlize

Made it back to the Ozarks finally!

At my closest point to you I spent 2 hours stuck on the freeway in a traffic jam crossing the Hudson River. It was a long day!

I got back to find my HVAC system not working, so I have to scramble before the cold weather sets in.

Then get my studio set up and start work.

Along the way, I'm trying to relearn to play the guitar.

Meetings with doctors this week to see what my metabolism is up to, plus the oncologist to provide follow up support from my cancer surgery.

Lots of things to do!

Hugs and smiles to you all!

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KymmieL

Happy Sunday everyone. I hope everyone else's weather is better than ours. Maybe 30 and snowing with gusts up to 70mph. This is our first Snow and I am already tired of it. 

 

Found out some good news at work this morning. I use the company's policy manual to practice my female voice. Today I picked harassment. Upon reading it I found that they changed it to add gender identity to it and the discrimination policy too. Yeah it makes me feel better about that. knowing that the company is backing me.

 

Kymmie

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NB Adult

See any Polar Bears? Excellent workplace news Kymmie! 

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Debra Michelle

Happy day,3 years ago I found out I have a twin brother that is now my twin sister.I talked to her on the phone today,going to meet in 2 weeks.Finding out her brother is now her sister,did take well.She is a post op MTF transsexual,came out at the same time as me

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TammyAnne
11 hours ago, Debra Michelle said:

Happy day,3 years ago I found out I have a twin brother that is now my twin sister.I talked to her on the phone today,going to meet in 2 weeks.Finding out her brother is now her sister,did take well.She is a post op MTF transsexual,came out at the same time as me

That's awesome news!

I've always heard twins had a nearly mystical connection, this seems to prove it.

Meanwhile it's rainy in the Ozarks this morning, warming but fall seems to lack the color I saw in New England. We're going for a brown look.

I hope everyone has a great Monday, week gets off to a wonderful start and things go smoothly for all.

Hugs and kisses all around!

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