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Josie Beth

That lack of color in the fall is because the trees are different. I have noticed how much difference there is between the trees up north and those in the ozarks. There’s a lot less poplar and birch. Fall just doesn’t seem as magical without the color.

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TammyAnne

Yes. Some years the oaks can do a panoply of russet colors, but this year seems to have been too dry for that. They're just going brown.

The maples, birches and others up north look like someone plugged in the Christmas lights!

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Debra Michelle
1 hour ago, TammyAnne said:

That's awesome news!

I've always heard twins had a nearly mystical connection, this seems to prove it.

Meanwhile it's rainy in the Ozarks this morning, warming but fall seems to lack the color I saw in New England. We're going for a brown look.

I hope everyone has a great Monday, week gets off to a wonderful start and things go smoothly for all.

Hugs and kisses all around!

We get to meet in a couple weeks,excited

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TammyAnne
47 minutes ago, Debra Michelle said:

We get to meet in a couple weeks,excited

Congratulations!

That sounds exciting. 

Let us know how that goes, okay?

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lauraincolumbia
15 hours ago, Debra Michelle said:

Happy day,3 years ago I found out I have a twin brother that is now my twin sister.I talked to her on the phone today,going to meet in 2 weeks.Finding out her brother is now her sister,did take well.She is a post op MTF transsexual,came out at the same time as me

Great news!  Very happy for you!

I do think it's interesting.  Does anyone know the statistics for transgender twins? fraternal vs. identical?  Is it common for both twins to be transgender?

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Debra Michelle
5 hours ago, lauraincolumbia said:

Great news!  Very happy for you!

I do think it's interesting.  Does anyone know the statistics for transgender twins? fraternal vs. identical?  Is it common for both twins to be transgender?

Found out about one.I watched a documentary on a set of twins,one is gay and his brother transitioned becoming female

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Debra Michelle

Found out my son Tyler is going as Jennifer Lopez for Halloween,he does drag 2 times a week too and is good at it.I do support him 100% and watch him perform.He came over and we talked

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TammyAnne

Getting up, getting ready for a day of doctor visits.

I'm sort of excited, sort of nervous. This will be a day of lab workups.

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lauraincolumbia
4 hours ago, TammyAnne said:

Getting up, getting ready for a day of doctor visits.

I'm sort of excited, sort of nervous. This will be a day of lab workups.

Good luck with the doctor visits!

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Josie Beth

Good morning/noon everyone! I already had some coffee for the walk home because of the chilly weather. I had to go to the laundromat to retrieve something and it was cold out.

 

I narrowly averted a $60 mistake. Sunday morning I did laundry and I was charging my battery backup for my phone and devices when I had a blonde moment and forgot to retrieve it from the attendant. Yesterday I didn’t even realize it until I was headed out to work and didn’t have time to go back and get it. So today I went right away to see if it was still there and to my relief it was. The attendant had kept it safe for me and even said that someone we both know of tried to fake that it belonged to them twice but they didn’t pull it off. So I was happily reunited with my stuff and found out that I need to be careful around this other person who tried to steal it. The kicker is that they have a crush on me and even though I don’t have any desire to reciprocate, it’s a good excuse to tell them to go away now. Some people.

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NB Adult

That was a stroke of luck! 

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lauraincolumbia

Congrats on getting your battery pack back!  Its very annoying to lose them.  Do you actually know the person that was trying to steal it? Are they person crushing on you?

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TammyAnne

Josie Beth, is there any chance they were going to "rescue" it and give it to you?

This other person I mean.

I always hate to think ill of someone unless I'm certain they were up to no good.

But it's great that you recovered your things.

So now you know things about two people, one who has a good heart, and one who bears watching.

 

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Debra Michelle

My son Aaron and I picked up our dresses for an event this weeked.Aaron is a part time crossdresser going by Erin and we are involved with helping families out with transgendered and crossdressing youth.Both love doing this together.

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SaraAW

My street is lined with red maples. Driving towards or from my house this time of year is beautiful. They are a bright vivid red. 
 

Went to a specialist last week. Good news, I’m having surgery to correct my deviated septum and some other sinus issues. Surgery is not until spring, but I’m already looking forward to breathing better in the not too far future. 
 

The kettle is on and I’ll soon be having a nice cup of herbal tea to go, on the way into the office. 
 

I hope everyone has a great day!

 

*hugs*
 

Sara

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lauraincolumbia
1 hour ago, SaraAW said:

 

Went to a specialist last week. Good news, I’m having surgery to correct my deviated septum and some other sinus issues. Surgery is not until spring, but I’m already looking forward to breathing better in the not too far future. 

I am thinking that I need my deviated septum fixed as well.  Did they discuss a nosejob at the same time?  Do you know if it's an option? If I'm having surgery, I wouldn't mind making my nose a little more feminine.

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TammyAnne

A day of rest after yesterday's hectic day at the VA.

And coffee, of course.

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KymmieL

So much for my day off. We got the white crap this morning which meant the the District manager couldn't open the store today to give me a day off. So guess who got to do it again. then our morning counter person called in sick. that left me to run the front alone from 7:30 till noon. Oh what joy it was. Hope it will look good on the pay check. With the snow would have had to cancel my VA appointment in Cheyenne anyway. 

 

Got a pot o coffee dripping. However may crash out before it is done. Stick a fork in me I am done.

 

Kymmie

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SaraAW

@lauraincolumbia Unfortunately my surgeon will not, I had the exact same thought. 

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Debra Michelle

I see a chiropractor next week,herniated disc.Did see my doctor today and going to see if this works first.If it doesn't work,see a specialist and surgery maybe need to done.Did put me on a medication too

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NB Adult

Hopefully you can get by without back surgery, the results are quite often very iffy.

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KymmieL

Sara, Can I ask what are the symptoms of the deviated septum?  My mom has been diagnosed. I often wonder if I also do.

 

Kymmie

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Debra Michelle
1 hour ago, NB Adult said:

Hopefully you can get by without back surgery, the results are quite often very iffy.

Problem is I can get in December to see the specialist.I have my GCS in January which can be a conflict

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SaraAW

@KymmieL I am constantly stuffy despite taking prescription nasal sprays and oral antihistamines. I am also prone to sinusitis and sinus infections as a result. Symptoms can vary and it also depends on how bad the deviation is. Just because you’re stuffy or get sinus infections does not mean you have a deviated septum. It really requires a scope of your nose and sinus cavity to diagnose. 
 

My deviation is bad enough to require corrective surgery, but many people have small deviations with no ill effects. In fact, most people have some type of minor deviation. I’ve read up to 80% of the population. 
 

If you have any issues breathing, I highly recommend going to see a doctor and not relying on the internet for a diagnosis and treatment plan. 

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KymmieL

Sara,  I was just looking for a possible cause for my getting stuffed to the rafters at night. I go see my respiratory therapist in about a month.

 

Kymmie

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