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1 hour ago, Aidan5 said:

I feel good right now and my morning wasn't terrible, but last night was. 

 

My dad was making fun of a transgender woman (I forget her name) He showed a picture of her to my brother and asked if she was hot, my brother said yes and my dad laughed and chanted "Brad likes a man, Brad likes a man!" So my dad walked to the counter where I was washing dishes and told me that "Brad likes a guy" so I told him "Good on brad for liking a girl, but I don't really care about his interests." Then my parents decided to lecture me on "Being disrespectful" and that "I am just a kid and not on their level" even though they openly disrespected a transgender, knowing I am trans and won't stand for that. I got yelled at and I just went to my room to cool off, it didn't help that my stepmom had me skip my therapy appointment. But my dog made me happy because he looks like a seal.

 

Dad sounds a bit immature if you don't mind my saying so! My dog approves of your attitude, so do I. 

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Jackie C.
1 hour ago, Aidan5 said:

I feel good right now and my morning wasn't terrible, but last night was. 

 

My dad was making fun of a transgender woman (I forget her name) He showed a picture of her to my brother and asked if she was hot, my brother said yes and my dad laughed and chanted "Brad likes a man, Brad likes a man!" So my dad walked to the counter where I was washing dishes and told me that "Brad likes a guy" so I told him "Good on brad for liking a girl, but I don't really care about his interests." Then my parents decided to lecture me on "Being disrespectful" and that "I am just a kid and not on their level" even though they openly disrespected a transgender, knowing I am trans and won't stand for that. I got yelled at and I just went to my room to cool off, it didn't help that my stepmom had me skip my therapy appointment. But my dog made me happy because he looks like a seal.

 

Wow, that is some parenting fail right there. They're right though, you're not on their level. You can probably look down into the mud and see where they're coming from though. Good on you for trying not to get that stuff on you.

 

Not really sure where your mom gets off on having you skip therapy either. Parenting fail again.

 

Good on doggo for cheering you up though. That's what a Good Boy is best at. I mean he's not a cat, but I'm biased. 😸

 

I keep going over that and thinking, "Man, I hope he gets to go to college out of state."

 

I hope today goes better for you bro. I swear it gets better after you move out.

 

Hugs!

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Love this pic!!!

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Aidan5
41 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

 

Wow, that is some parenting fail right there. They're right though, you're not on their level. You can probably look down into the mud and see where they're coming from though. Good on you for trying not to get that stuff on you.

 

Not really sure where your mom gets off on having you skip therapy either. Parenting fail again.

 

Good on doggo for cheering you up though. That's what a Good Boy is best at. I mean he's not a cat, but I'm biased. 😸

 

I keep going over that and thinking, "Man, I hope he gets to go to college out of state."

 

I hope today goes better for you bro. I swear it gets better after you move out.

 

Hugs!

Pf, yes, I don't want mud on my shoes, I had to buy them with my own money haha. 

 

I have no idea why my parents are the way they are, maybe they could use some therapy as well. Thank you for your reply, I hope I find a college out of state haha. You have a great day as well.

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Aidan5
51 minutes ago, NB Adult said:

 

Dad sounds a bit immature if you don't mind my saying so! My dog approves of your attitude, so do I. 

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My heart melted, so cute!

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53 minutes ago, Aidan5 said:

My heart melted, so cute!

 

Unlike humans, they don't judge and know all about unconditional love!

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Josie Beth

I am so upset right now. Most of you know about my temp agency texting me not to go in to work last week on Monday. Well this morning I was woken up by the same temp agency and this time I was asked why I had not been to work for a week!!! So this whole time it was a mistake that nobody was willing to admit that they made, that screwed up my chances of ever working for this company again and it’s putting me dangerously close to homelessness!?!? Because of ineptitude? I’m so furious right now I don’t know what to do. After explaining this to the person who called me and voicing my feelings about not appreciating the mistakes because it could make me homeless, they just didn’t even acknowledge it! So I blocked them. I’ve been gaslighted and now they not only punish me but just ignore the fact that they are responsible for maybe making me homeless? She was just munching on some food and said “uh huh” with the same disinterest as if I said there’s free napkins in the break room. I just can’t. If they ever send me anything else on any other number I am going to explain that I don’t want any assignment until they pay me a full week to make up for them screwing up royally. 

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Jackie C.

Is there a contact person you can call? Register a complaint? I remember there being someone I could bitch to when I was being mistreated at Volt. Of course Volt is no longer in business in this area. Maybe it's because they didn't treat their temps like complete garbage. Mostly garbage, but not complete garbage.

 

I really have no words. I'm angry on your behalf. That's inexcusable behavior from an employer but I understand how "at-will" states work. I live in one too.

 

I'm just sorry Josie. You deserve better.

 

Hugs!

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Josie Beth
1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

Is there a contact person you can call? Register a complaint? I remember there being someone I could bitch to when I was being mistreated at Volt. Of course Volt is no longer in business in this area. Maybe it's because they didn't treat their temps like complete garbage. Mostly garbage, but not complete garbage.

 

I really have no words. I'm angry on your behalf. That's inexcusable behavior from an employer but I understand how "at-will" states work. I live in one too.

 

I'm just sorry Josie. You deserve better.

 

Hugs!

 

There’s really no way to contact a complaint department. But I’ve already filled out a survey from a 3rd party that does the same thing. Unfortunately it’s not going to change anything, will probably mean some inadequate “training videos” for the employees to virtue signal and cover their butt legally, and then they won’t even punish anyone for the mistake. I probably can’t even file a lawsuit because they keep trying to contact me off the recorded line and are very vague in text. So I’m blocking anyone else that calls me for them. They call me or text me on official channels or I won’t answer.

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JustineM

For everyone having a bad day... here’s a contortion kitty for you

 

 

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52 minutes ago, JustineM said:

For everyone having a bad day... here’s a contortion kitty for you

 

 

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Awwww so cute!

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Josie Beth

It’s way past morning. I was gone half the day chasing job leads. I’m practically doing the helicopter. Feels like I’m simply flailing around my arms with no focus. I learned a few things today that could eventually be useful but the rest of the information was just more confirmation that shenanigans are going on with both my current temp agencies so it’s whatever. I just have to accept that I have to move on. I’m still very uncertain about the next couple of days.

 

There’s a couple of hits on my sale items but nothing concrete yet. For the most part I just want to sell the stuff and don’t even really need to get my asking price. It’s just remnants of a ruined life that are holding me back. 

 

I didn’t get anywhere with rental assistance. Nobody does it anymore unless you’re disabled, elderly, or have children. Totally a waste of time.

 

But they will gladly waste more of your time just to ensure that you end up homeless and enroll in one of many recovery programs! What a way to help people!

 

Yeah! Don’t prevent homelessness, that’s too ethical. Promote it so you can turn it into an industry! See? Aren’t we just so charitable? And they wonder why there’s so much insanity in the world... why does everything have to be so butt backwards? 😢

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ShawnaLeigh

I too am very angry and frustrated for you.  I can't believe this is even legal.  I am not in a "at will" state so I can't even imagine.  I am so sorry this keeps happening to you.  You deserve a break for crying out loud!

I wish I could help you some how...

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Willow

Good morning 

 

coffee and waffles. For breakfast today. Makes up for nothing to eat or drink after midnight. Tuesday.  Surgery went well. They used a nerve block which was fine by me.  But as expected it wore off around 3am.   I’m feeling pretty good right now.  

 

I dont know if its if it’s good news or bad news but being retired I not in the job market. Still have lots of things I could do.  I hear all about the problems that people who still have to work have these days.  

 

Nice sunny day today. High is supposed to reach 70.

 

Willow

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Aidan5

Morning all, I just ran to the attendance office to pick up a late slip. There was another trans guy there, but I was too scared to say hi ack-

 

Had a pretty chilly morning, but it was a good morning :)

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2 hours ago, Willow said:

Good morning 

 

coffee and waffles. For breakfast today. Makes up for nothing to eat or drink after midnight. Tuesday.  Surgery went well. They used a nerve block which was fine by me.  But as expected it wore off around 3am.   I’m feeling pretty good right now.  

 

I dont know if its if it’s good news or bad news but being retired I not in the job market. Still have lots of things I could do.  I hear all about the problems that people who still have to work have these days.  

 

Nice sunny day today. High is supposed to reach 70.

 

Willow

 

Coffee and waffles sounds good! Being retired and out of the fast lane is wonderful, every day is Saturday! What with all the traffic now I'd hate to have to go to work every day like before, another thing I'd hate is to be back in the dating scene, Ugh! I'll leave that to the youngsters.

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1 hour ago, Aidan5 said:

Morning all, I just ran to the attendance office to pick up a late slip. There was another trans guy there, but I was too scared to say hi ack-

 

Had a pretty chilly morning, but it was a good morning :)

 

Me too, winter is descending on the great PNW!

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TammyAnne
2 hours ago, Aidan5 said:

Morning all, I just ran to the attendance office to pick up a late slip. There was another trans guy there, but I was too scared to say hi ack-

 

Had a pretty chilly morning, but it was a good morning :)

In cis-guy parlance, a simple nod and/or eyebrow lift passes for the majority of the greetings exchanged. It's also not usually noticed by women.

You could always try that next time.

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Josie Beth
7 hours ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

I too am very angry and frustrated for you.  I can't believe this is even legal.  I am not in a "at will" state so I can't even imagine.  I am so sorry this keeps happening to you.  You deserve a break for crying out loud!

I wish I could help you some how...

 

It became legal because these business owners are so afraid of spending any money to hurt the bottom line that they will lobby to make something unethical legal. They don’t have to do right because everything in the law says they can do wrong, as long as they are creating “jobs”.

 

And by that it means hiring 12 people to do the job of 30 at 2/3 the pay and with half the time to do it in. Or don’t hire them at all, just hire temps and you can do all kinds of unethical things. I’m stuck with temp agencies until I get something full time but this is wearing thin.

 

I’m just sick of being hurt. It’s been going on for 6 years in a row now and I’ve been dealing with this kind of nonsense for almost 20 years so I’m really tired of people saying things like “that’s just life!” Or “the darkest night comes before the dawn!” Or some other cliche nonsense because it hasn’t really ended for me ever. I’m very aware of how much life sucks. I don’t need any more lessons on it. I don’t need to learn how to deal with it.

 

My mental health doesn’t know how to deal with it anymore. I’m at the final breaking point this time so if I’m up against the wall it’s going to mean lashing out so other people finally get my pain or just ending it. I have no more will to do this. 

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TammyAnne

(((((Hug)))))

 

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ShawnaLeigh
2 hours ago, TammyAnne said:

In cis-guy parlance, a simple nod and/or eyebrow lift passes for the majority of the greetings exchanged. It's also not usually noticed by women.

You could always try that next time.

Yes. Go with a slight head nod and maybe a “‘whatsup”.

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Willow

In recent times companies have been going through temp agencies because it gives them a chance to try out new workers without any obligation.  If they do it right they don’t have to pay a hiring fee after a certain number of weeks.  Also the temp agency has to provide all the pre employment testing and they do all the advertising and screening.  

 

It it does sound like someone wanted you out for some reason and succeeded in finding a way without going through a proper process.  That happens all too often these days.  Also by using temps you have no protection in any state, right to work or not.

 

California is the only state I can think of that tries to fully protect the workers over the employer but even there employers can win .

 

Willow 

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Aidan5
7 hours ago, TammyAnne said:

In cis-guy parlance, a simple nod and/or eyebrow lift passes for the majority of the greetings exchanged. It's also not usually noticed by women.

You could always try that next time.

Ohh, I will give it a go! Thank you!

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Damien Mcknight
20 hours ago, TammyAnne said:

In cis-guy parlance, a simple nod and/or eyebrow lift passes for the majority of the greetings exchanged. It's also not usually noticed by women.

You could always try that next time.

OwO

seems like something I might try as well uwu

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ShawnaLeigh

Coffee is gone.  Long drive to work.  I had time to practice with my voice app on the way.  I am still having a hard time hearing myself with road noise and such.  I think it is coming along.

I have my first Doctors appointment later today to hopefully start HRT process.  

Hoping things go well.

Have a great day!

 

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