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AdriannaB

Going to see my youngest sister in the hospital,she was shot in the back Wendsday night by her no good boyfriend and did get the news which was good also very lucky.Bullet missed her spinal cord by a few inches.Boyfriend is in jail and I hope he rots in prison one day.This afternoon,my twin son and daughter whom are 15,myself are going to see the therapist we are seeing.Came out as a crossdresser to them in November and they took it hard.Been good ever since learning about Adrianna one step at a time.Did tell me they want to meet Adrianna for the first time last night.Talking doing this on Saturday.Going to see what our therapist says first how to do it.

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Jani

Sorry to hear about your sister @AdriannaB.   I hope she recovers well. 

 

Very cold (10 degrees) here.  Brrr. The wind was howling last night while I was trying to fall asleep.  Its calmed down a bit but the trees are still swaying.  

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AdriannaB
42 minutes ago, Jani said:

Sorry to hear about your sister @AdriannaB.   I hope she recovers well. 

 

Very cold (10 degrees) here.  Brrr. The wind was howling last night while I was trying to fall asleep.  Its calmed down a bit but the trees are still swaying.  

Had the anger coming out getting the call from mom and I am letting the police do their job.It gave her a wake up call she needed to get out.

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Jackie C.

Shaping up to be a good day. Last night was date night. Susan and I went to our favorite Chinese restaurant and then out to Ann Arbor to listen to the Out Loud Chorus. They're a LGBT+ choir and my therapist was playing the MC (and the saxophone, I had no idea she could play) for the evening. After the show, the three of us met in person for the first time. It was magic.

 

We also beat the snowstorm home, so that was nice too.

 

This morning, outside is white and the last time I checked, it was still falling. I made stuffed French toast for breakfast. I may have overdone on the peanut butter. It was still good.

 

Now we're waiting for the white stuff to stop falling so we can run our errands. Well, that and doing laundry. It's quiet and peaceful. Just the sounds of my keyboard clacking and the snow-blowers grinding away in the distance.

 

Hugs!

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AdriannaB

My 15 year old twin son and daughter met Adrianna for the first time and it went great.So far they are know her very well.Said I am still a normal dad in life.

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Jackie C.

Fantastic news! Looks like you raised some good kids.

 

Hugs!

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AdriannaB

Yes,my wife was happy see it happen too.

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ShawnaLeigh

That’s wonderful.   Everyone knows about me by now but no one has “met” me as me yet.  It may take time.  I have so few articles of clothing.  Lol

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ShawnaLeigh

So all you computer techies.  I am still having intermittent issues with no being able to connect to the server TP is on.  I lost access for about 18 hours.  Just now getting back in. 
This is on all devices I use.  On different WiFi accounts and providers across two states. I  
I do not play around with the settings at all and it works most times just fine.  I don’t feel it’s a settings issue.  
I am getting frustrated missing out on what’s going on in here for huge chunks of time.  
Any suggestions on what may be going on?

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Jani

I've experienced it as well.

From the Boss:  "The culprit is the server itself. Once Piper has all her equipment fully moved to the data center, she's going to pick a new machine to put us on."

 

 

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ShawnaLeigh
1 hour ago, Jani said:

I've experienced it as well.

From the Boss:  "The culprit is the server itself. Once Piper has all her equipment fully moved to the data center, she's going to pick a new machine to put us on."

 

 

Ok good to know.  I hate being out of the loop

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Aidan5

Morning all, just the other day I went in and applied at a local pet shop in my area and the lady seem real happy to have my apply, having a pretty great week, hope it's the same for you all!

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ShawnaLeigh
2 hours ago, Aidan5 said:

Morning all, just the other day I went in and applied at a local pet shop in my area and the lady seem real happy to have my apply, having a pretty great week, hope it's the same for you all!

Fingers crossed!  

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Susan R

Having a great day today with my afternoon coffee️.  Located the cemetery where my late birth mother was buried.  I called and had them email me her obituary which was not online anywhere. So after a long 7 month extensive search, I’ve found her and a huge assortment of my birth family!  Been texting my female cousin all morning and may sometime soon meet my only brother by birth.  Until today, I did not know I had any living blood family extended or immediate.  It’s amazing how life can change on a dime.

 

Yesterday was almost as amazing.  By pure luck during the search, my wife located my old trans roommate from 33 years ago.  Since we paid for all these search subscriptions we decided to find people we’ve long since been disconnected from.  So my old roommate and I have just started emailing back and forth but it looks like someday we might reconnect...we’ll see.


Here’s to tomorrow!

Susan R🌷

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SaraAW

Susan, that sounds wonderful and terrifying at the same time. My dad was adopted, he’d found his birth family many years ago and they have been a big part of our life since. He spent the years after trying to help other adoptees reunite. Many successful, some not so much. I hope your new found family are lovely and accepting people. *hugs*

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Jani

@Susan R This is nice to read.  I hope you won't be disappointed with any of them as sometimes these reunions can go sideways.  All my best to you.

 

So cool to reconnect with someone from your past that you have a present day connection with. 

 

Jani

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AdriannaB

Lucky to have a dad in my life,my step dad.My bio dad passed away when I was 7 years old.Good thing is my step dad was good friends with my dad.He helped out my mom,3 younger sisters and I out in hard times.Told my dad he would help us out if anything happened to him.Plus he is also supportive of me crossdressing part time,told my dad would be too.

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KymmieL

My mom was adopted. Found out that my grandmother by birth(is that such a thing) Was the subject of a book and later a movie about her life. my grandmother went blind in her early teens and was probably raped.

 

She was from the upper crust in new England. Great grandfather owned an outdoor outfitters. So everything was kept quiet. A young lady of society having a child out of wedlock. Was unheard of especially in 1936. So she was sent off to "school" in IL. Where my Mom was born.

 

She has been researching our family on both sides. Found out I am royalty I am descendant of King Henry the 5th.  Now kneel to your princess knaves. LOL

 

Princess Kymmie

 

 

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ShawnaLeigh
2 hours ago, KymmieL said:

Now kneel to your princess knaves. LOL

Yes my princess.  At your command.  Lol

Thsts pretty neat though.  I’d be proud of that.  

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AdriannaB

My wife Nikki was adopted,saw a smile on her face today.Talked to her bio mom for the first time this afternoon.It was her dream to reunited with her and I supported Nikki through this.They get to reunite next week.Did find out why.Her mom was 15 when she gave birth to her,couldn't take care of her and Nikki understood this.Good thing is her parents that adopted Nikki gave her a great life.

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Susan R
4 hours ago, Jani said:

@Susan R This is nice to read.  I hope you won't be disappointed with any of them as sometimes these reunions can go sideways.  All my best to you.

 

So cool to reconnect with someone from your past that you have a present day connection with. 

 

Jani

Thanks Jani & @SaraAW ...it has been so nice.  I hope to learn more about my bio family in time now that I’ve unlocked Pandora’s box.

 

1 hour ago, AdriannaB said:

It was her dream to reunited with her and I supported Nikki through this.They get to reunite next week.

I wish you and Nikki the best of luck on your reunion. Hopefully, Nikki will get all the answers about her bio mom & family she’s been searching for all her life.
 

Susan R🌷

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AdriannaB
45 minutes ago, Susan R said:

Thanks Jani & @SaraAW ...it has been so nice.  I hope to learn more about my bio family in time now that I’ve unlocked Pandora’s box.

 

I wish you and Nikki the best of luck on your reunion. Hopefully, Nikki will get all the answers about her bio mom & family she’s been searching for all her life.
 

Susan R🌷

I did talk to her mom on the phone too.She is glad I do treat her right and she did ask me this.I plan to be there when they reunite.

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Susan R
1 hour ago, AdriannaB said:

I plan to be there when they reunite.

That should be interesting...you’ll have to share how it all went.  I will be doing the same in the next few weeks if all works out.

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AdriannaB

Met my new neighbors today,they are very good and will get along with them.Dressed as Adrianna and the wife told me I looked beautiful dressed as a woman.Loved the compliment from her and did ask me if I was a part time crossdresser which I told her yes.Last neighbor and I didn't get along,did get into it and I was glad he moved.

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Susan R
1 hour ago, AdriannaB said:

Met my new neighbors today,they are very good and will get along with them.

Wow, this is wonderful news Adrianna.  I found this to be the case in my neighbors.  I wasn’t expecting it either. 

 

1 hour ago, AdriannaB said:

[They] did ask me if I was a part time crossdresser which I told her yes.

That was a bold question by your neighbor but they probably saw that you were comfortable presenting female.  When I first came out, I can remember talking to some neighbors that had not yet seen me presenting as Susan.  They never even mentioned I was dressed as a woman.  They had likely already heard the news from another neighbor (word travels fast here).  It was several weeks later when things became routine that they were brave enough to breach the topic with me.  After a week and all their questions were answered, it’s never even discussed.  They treat me as one of the girls now...it’s been great.
 

Susan R🌷

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