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Idk.. so many people many places... Before I accepted gender dysphoria as a concept ... Been in a choke hold....

Shelter... Colonitis... Therapy.... 

Too many stuff but yeah it happened to me in DFW.

I recently used national hotlines to just conclude to relocate to Austin tx

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I am so sorry to hear that, and I think you are making a good move to a safer area.  Life should not be that way, but there are wonderful people out there for us, but we do have to take action to find them.

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Elizabeth i'm glad you've moved to Austin.  As i see see recent attitudes as presented in the press about Texas i've noticed that a change might be forthcoming.  Beto seems to be making progress but the pushback is equally strong.  Please stay safe.





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Gawd I was in the ER a few times over the past 30 days here and because I feel so freaking cursed now because of various things I try to bite my lip and relocate... all I do is try to enjoy life and buy clothes and stuff but the things I'm dealing with being ...

It makes me feel more of a trapped girl in my body than ever now and I feel like I can't do crap.  Some people see me more femme while others just see me male... With little to no makeup.

And since my PTSD roots into my childhood and throughout adulthood, I'm growing to not just have the dyphoria a an idea but a mere hatred about EVRYTHING that makes me think of being a male on top of anything I used to associate with (hobbies, possessions, etc) 


I feel cursed.

Why am I targeted so even back growing up when I was what my parents wanted?

Why have so many tried to hurt / threaten to kill me? Why was I raped in a shelter when they said I would be safe there?


Why does it seem the whole world is against me?!!?

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Keep trying to move forward dear.  I know how easy it is to get caught up in the past.  I've lived through experiences that when remembered bring tears to my eyes.  I do my best to remember today is a new day.  That helps.  Things that have happened will always be there.  I've learned some from those experiences.  If nothing else i try to see the best of today.

I'm glad you are posting.  Your not alone





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