Issues still going on

[vikkim45]

So depressing and heartbreaking the unacceptance from my ex and my parents after coming out as a transgender person. They are not willing to accept my gender and my new name. Very traditional religion based conservatives. They always talk negatively about my transitioning and they want to "change me back". My ex especially behaves totally violently and angrily to me since I moved out this February. Physical abuses, verbal abuses. I can't avoid to see her because I am not willing to give up seeing my small children. At one point I became suicidal, and depressed today too. They always find something to stress me out. I understand they are going through hard time too, but why they have to hurt me all the time? Just wanted to share. Even I have many friends and support system in place, still many times I just feel so lonely with this and so painful going through this.

 

Noemi Vikki

[Jani]

I'm sorry to hear your close family is not behind you.  Unfortunately some religious types only see things their way.  I was raised to believe "someone" else would be the deciding factor at the end of my life, not now by my neighbor, co-worker, family member, etc...  They want to change you back to conform with their notion of who you ought to be, not yours. 

 

The best thing for you (it was for me) is to be the best person you can be.  Transitioning has hopefully made you a better person in many ways.  Live it!  I trust that things will work out for you at some point, hopefully soon.  <Hugs>

 

Have you seen this video?  Its about a woman who transitioned up north in Jasper, Alberta.  I see you're quite far up there in the Yukon Territory.   I found her journey to be inspiring to me.  Hopefully you can take something from it too. 

 

https://www.theatlantic.com/video/index/495170/transitioning-in-the-middle-of-nowhere/

 

I know its not a substitute for interaction in real time with others but you always have us here.  We are a community of caring people from all over and all walks of life.   Please join in the conversation and offer your input.  Everyone is valued.

 

Cheers, Jani 

 

 

 

 

 

[Timber Wolf]

Hi Noemi Vikki,

It saddens me to hear you're having a tough time with your family. Just remember as Jani said, we are here for you and we care.

 

Lots of love and a big hug,

Timber Wolf?

[vikkim45]

Thank you Jani and Timber Wolf...it is sooo difficult when she accuses always. She said I am fake and other girls don't want my company. I am sure that I don't pass everywhere every time, but this kind of comment is so detrimentally affect my confidence, which is pretty strong otherwise...

[Jani]

Don't let these words get you down.  It is her own lack of confidence speaking.  You have chosen a fresh path for yourself in order to be happy and real!   Keep that confidence high.

Jani