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Panic like fear of losing hair/age in the way your "wrong" body would?

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Is it common, as a symptom, for transgender women to have an utter fear of ageing in the way their "wrong" (male) sex would? Like losing hair would be for some male? (I am not talking about general anxiety but of real "phobias" were they would not even want to come close to bald men), Anyone who knows about this?

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I think fear of aging is common in all genders.  Although so people don't worry about it as much as others.   Some women do experience balding or thinning of hair as they age.   I believe most people want to look their best and that was when we were younger.   

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Well just now I was going to put up the basic post that you did JMG.. but you did it so I'll reply to yours.. 

I hate Male pattern Bald.. I feel total blah about mine.. and the worry crease in my forehead.. A lady

likes it and says it makes me look RUGGED.. (I dont wanna be Rugged).. But I'm taking care of not

making the worry face too much lol.. and trying skin creams and trying to lose weight and hair products

and all I can.. JMG youre not alone... 


Ohh I like John Lennon too JANI!!!

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