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Concerning Violence Survival &TDOR

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Through the Speakers Bureau at my LGBTQ Center, I was invited to speak at a meeting of women whose focus was on the prevention of violence in local communities through legislative lobbying at all levels.  The topic had been on Violence in the Transgender Community, and while this group was particularly focused on gun violence, they let me know that I did not have to limit my remarks to guns.  I focused on Transgender Day Of Remembrance and got hold of the worldwide statistics for this year, which include 309 known deaths in 25 Countries with Brazil 46%  (143) of the deaths, Mexico at 20%,  (62) and the U.S. at 9% with 23 deaths. The other 22 countries having many fewer deaths.  The U.S. did have a much higher ratio (78%) of gun deaths, but world wide it was only 45% of the victims.  Very sad and sobering statistics for all of us.   PM me for more numbers and details.  Some are too terrible to mention in these forums.

While they were very interested in the numbers and my comments on the violence (thankfully very little to my person) that I have been exposed to, they were the ones who found a very uniting factor in our discussion.  Many of them were Survivors Of (Gun) Violence as I have been.  My oldest (but younger than me) sister took her life with a gun 6 years ago.  In addition, I have known other Trans siblings IRL who have done the same.  I easily accept the fact that I am a violence survivor and join in that fellowship that unites me to Cis allies, which this group was.  I had not thought of myself that way before, but now realize there are places where that can be addressed and dealt with. 

I know that political tensions here in the U.S. are high and nearly explosive on the subject of guns and legislative action and will ask that comments on that issue be removed from this topic by other mods and Admins.  I am putting  this topic out though to find others who have been Survivors of Violence by whatever means because through murder or suicide because we do have our own special needs as I have become aware.  Remember our Dead and Work for our future.

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I've been victim of violence, some left permanent scars, but never to the point where my life was in danger, thankfully. If we concider self inflicted violence then it's another story.

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The TDOR website for 2018 is up and you can find numbers there if  you need them or want them.  I took their info before my talk and had to milk it a little bit to get actual numbers.  These are the cause of death numbers I extracted from the text list.


Cause of Death

Unknown    51    16%

Choke/drown    16    5%

Beaten    28    9%

Burned    4    1%

Tortured    9    3%

Shot     139    45%

Stabbed    56    18%

Stoned & Car Run Oover    9    3%



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