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Jani

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Hello all,  I want to wish you all a happy thanksgiving, even though it is a little early.  I'll be off line through the week as we're traveling to see my parents and sisters families.  
 

For those of you that are alone, please make an effort to meet up with a friend and share a meal.  We have a lot to be thankful for in this country despite the angst we are going through.  It will pass.

 

Cheers, Jani

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Happy Thanksgiving Jani, Enjoy yourself!?

 

Susan R?

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We do have a lot to be thankful for, even if we don't have much.  Thanksgiving for me is good food with my mom and a friend of ours.  Turkey for us, individual Cornish game hens for the dogs.  (Spoiled?  My dog?  Noooooo.)

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1 hour ago, Jani said:

For those of you that are alone, please make an effort to meet up with a friend and share a meal.

 

 Having not been invited to anything with my family this year really bothered me...  I do realize there’s going to be a few years until my family members would like to see me again, it does not make me angry, it’s just disappointing to think that I don’t have support from my own family members. Luckily I do have an absolutely fantastic friend, who is more than willing to share their  Family with me, I’ve already met some of the family members once in a while and feel really comfortable with this group, I am really looking forward to Thanksgiving at my friends house this year. 

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Jackie

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Happy Thanksgiving Jani! And everyone else too! 

This will be my last traditional Thanksgiving. I’ve been doing Thanksgiving dinner (Turkey, gravy,  mash, squash, cream corn, stuffing, broccoli casserole, green bean casserole, cinnamon honey buns, chocolate cream pie, pumpkin pie) for the last 8 years. But since my family is no longer in my life I don’t see the point. Down to 11 people this year. I think next year we are going to do a family vacation and forget about Thanksgiving all together. ????

Gobble Gobble!! ?

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My son is going to his inlays for dinner so my wife and i will make a veggie shepard's pie and enjoy a quiet evening.  At 9:00 EST i'll be at a trans* AA meeting on Zoom where the topic is gratitude.  There were years when every holiday was a blur.  Today i'm grateful for each sober day.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Happy Thanksgiving to all our friends here online at Trans Pulse. It will be my soul mate, daughter and her boyfriend at our house for dinner this Thursday. I am grateful for our family and friends, and all the good things we enjoy. We've worked hard for what we enjoy and none of this is taken for granted.

 

Peace in this world

 

Cyndi -

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Have a very happy Thanksgiving Jani and everyone!?

 

My Thanksgiving is kind of wacky. I have to work all night that night and my family eats after 6:00pm, so I won't be able to have Thanksgiving dinner with them. Instead we've started having Thanksgiving breakfast at McDonald's (usually the only time I go to McDonalds all year). My big Thanksgiving meal will be tonight. I'll bake a chicken breast and a few chicken thighs (lots of leftover for sandwiches!), make stuffing, mashed taters and gravy. Dinner rolls. I'll also be baking and apple pie and a cherry pie this afternoon (usually the only time of the year I do that). 

 

My sister Kris and I always used to have Thanksgiving supper together, and after supper we'd watch "It's a Wonderful Life". I'll be watching that tonight as well. 

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

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Happy Thanksgiving to all! 

 

Sunday I spent Thanksgiving with my son-in-law and daughter (ironically the very two who are not supportive, he, in not so many words, has told me that if I don't change my ways I will end up in hell; she can't accept my transition). The reason that I could go there is because of my grandkids. I have to work on Thanksgiving, but we will have food there and I consider my co-workers to be family.

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Happy Thanksgiving.

 

Sadly I don’t know what I will be doing this year. Too far away to drive to family and no money to fly. But at least I have my flight booked to go home for Christmas and New Years.

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2 hours ago, Charlize said:

My son is going to his inlays for dinner so my wife and i will make a veggie shepard's pie and enjoy a quiet evening.  At 9:00 EST i'll be at a trans* AA meeting on Zoom where the topic is gratitude.  There were years when every holiday was a blur.  Today i'm grateful for each sober day.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

Congrats on your sobriety Charlize! That's such a huge accomplishment. And that veggie shepherd's pie sounds great! 

 

I'll be having a small Thanksgiving with my mom and my partner, and whichever of my friends would like to stop by. My mom and I usually spend Thanksgiving trying out wacky new recipes. :) 

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I hope you can spend the holiday with friends at least, Rithia.

 

If not, I have a suggestion that definitely seems like a very special episode of a 1990s sitcom, but I promise is super rewarding and usually also a lot of fun -- maybe look around for a Thanksgiving meal at a food bank or homeless shelter. See if they need donations or volunteers. Help out if possible, join in the food and fellowship regardless. I've had some great meals and companionship at these meals.

 

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As for my own Thanksgiving, my birth family is breaking with tradition this year, and not doing a homemade meal.

 

We're gathering with my sister's in-laws in a local state park. Some of us will be camping --tents, campfires, sleeping bags-- and some of us will be staying in rental cabins. And some of us, myself included, will just be there for a few hours during the day.

 

We'll be having our meal at a restaurant on the mountain. So the food won't be as good as if we made it ourselves, but it will definitely be a lot less work for everyone.

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Wednesday evening I will be with my Chorus at a Transgiving Dinner put on by three Trans Support organizations in the L.A. area where we will be feeding dinner to our Trans Siblings who do not have family support and for whom this could be one of the best all around meals for them this month.  My group will eat last (if anything is left.) since we are better off (somewhat) from the dinner invitees and may go out for hamburgers, but it will be fun.

 

Thursday, I will be going 75 miles northeast to a dinner with Chosen Family out in the Antelope Valley of CA, and I will be bringing 10 pounds of mashed potatoes with me.  

 

Friday I will have some kind of meal with the other two or three members of my birth family.  I will be one busy turkey for sure.  

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Happy Thanksgiving to all my friends IRL here and in whatever other forms of social media you find me in.  I hope everyone stays safe and gets out to take a walk and not get stuck in front of the Boob Tube all day.

 

I'll be spending the day with my immediate family, doing it Asian style with roast duck and other goodies.  Why, you ask?  Because it tastes good!  LOL1

 

Carolyn Marie

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Thursday I will go to dads and his second wife  and my brother will be there with his wife an boy will be there and it will be nice. 

Saturday I will have a potluck with one of my support groups. 

Last Sunday I helped serve thanksgiving dinner at church. We had a great time.

happy thanksgiving everyone. ?

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Happy Turkey day!! I will be with Jamie and one of our friends hosting it at our place. It will be a small affair. Saturday, were going out for a girls night out (at least 6 of us) for a night of dancing at one of the local LGBT clubs in DC.

 

 

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I am thankful for all of you putting a positive spin on this dreaded holiday! Just bracing myself for the onslaught of deliberate misgendering that's about to happen tomorrow! I told myself I'd correct my dad if he called me "daughter" or "woman" again, but at the same time I don't want it to turn into a debate about politics. Also not looking forward to my mom ambushing me about "this trans stuff" at a party once again, after I requested that she plan a time with me to discuss it in private. I sent her a thoughtful email with videos that took me hours to find and she totally ignored it all.

But yeah, let's think about gratitude and the really nice things, because they really are there. Like my daughter who tells me she loves me more than anything in the world. That's a lot of things I'm better than, in her eyes!

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I'm back and we had a nice time with family.  Plus we were in warmer weather than at home! 

 

On 11/21/2018 at 6:45 PM, GothicLucas said:

...misgendering that's about to happen...

All my family is great yet my dad still addresses me by my old name, despite me using my birth name now!   He's all good otherwise so I let it roll off my back.  At his age, there are bigger issues for me to worry about.  

I know all families are different.  Hopefully this misgendering will pass, but if it doesn't find the strength to let it go if you can.  

 

Jani 

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