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Hair bows, my latest obsession ?


Lizzie McTrucker

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I'm not sure how or why I started wearing these, but it's become my latest obsession. Could be that it's a cute hair accessory for an outfit. Could be that I get compliments on it. Could be that it's just really girlie and I've been going through a very girlie phase recently. ??

 

So, yeah, hair bows! Sure, the prefab ones are perfectly acceptable and sometimes easier depending on how you're wearing your hair. In my case, I wear my hair in a ponytail a lot for work, so I've been wearing a ribbon tied in a bow around the base of my pony for almost a week now and I absolutely love it. Granted, it can be a little time consuming making sure the loops are the same size and giving it a little tug now and then to make sure the knot is snug but if the end result means my hair looks really cute? Then honeys, I'll deal with it!

 

Getting started isn't too expensive either. Any store that has a crafting department will have a section with ribbon. Just buy some you love, or matches colors in outfits you have. Since I have dark hair, I shy away from black ribbon because it would blend in, and I'm looking for a pop of color to accent my outfit. Pull out a length of ribbon from the spool (if it's too long, that's okay, you can trim some of the length later) and cut. Tying it is as easy as tying shoe strings. Same bow involved. Make sure the loops are the same size, and then trim off some length from the ends. Then take a lighter and hold it close enough to the ribbon (not your hair) to melt the cut edge but not too close to where it catches on fire. You just want to keep the ends from fraying.

 

For every day wear, I prefer a thinner ribbon, about 3/4" in width (pictured below). It's cute without looking too cheerleader-ish. Since it's the holidays, today I'm wearing a wider ribbon, about 1 1/2". It almost looks like a bow you would see on presents.

 

Bows with hair clips attached are much less hassle to deal with and can be equally cute. Plus those you can wear anywhere on your head and much easier if you're wearing your hair half up/half down or in a braid.

 

So, yeah! Hair bows. A cute, fun, accessory and currently my latest obsession. ??

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Hi Lizzie,  I'm at the beginning of my transition but have noticed that I'm experiencing interest (obsessions really) with girlie things.  I feel wonderful experiencing these things. First, it was my nails.  I love very long and shaped nails.  My wife thinks I'm off my rocker but she seems to be ok with my long nails now.

This week, I stumbled upon what may be my next obsession...Waterfall hair braids (pictured below)

I have been watching hours of videos on this and also variations on them.  My hair is not yet long enough to practice with but I've mentioned to my wife that I really like this look.  She's recently allowed me to work on her hair (dying it and styling it) which is something she would never let me do prior to coming out to her.  I can't wait to practice this on her hair.  It's crazy that it puts me in such a good mood just thinking about this. 

 

Susan R?

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Went inside the truck stop here for Thanksgiving dinner and I thought I looked really cute tonight. And it turns out my hair bow wasn't too big, which I was worried about. Actually got a bunch of compliments on it, so I'm thinking maybe it looked  really good because it was proportionate to my size.

 

Of course with the blue ribbon, I was afraid I would look like a cheerleader, a Christmas present, or my hair won first place at the State Fair. ?

 

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Oh Lizzie!  You always win first prize here! ? ?

 

You look great.  Thanks for the tip!

 

Jani

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In my pursuits, I found some $1 bows pre-made in a bin. So now I'm taking needle and thread and sewing them onto hair clips for something quick and easy if I don't want to fuss with a ribbon. I guess this crafty endeavor counts as a hobby... ?

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