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DeeDee

Hi all, 

I know a few people here utilise wigs so I am after some advice.

I am just wondering how that went across with those who knew and saw you as a bald person beforehand? Did it get mentioned the first time they saw you?

As they knew you were wearing a wig, did you invest in a decent quality one before going out or just try it with a budget wig first?

 

I like the thought of being able to decide to be blonde or brunette and it will stand out less in public, but that certain knowledge of it being a wig has me a little disconcerted.

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VickySGV

While my male pattern baldness was never a great problem, I did use wigs over hair that I had to keep short for a number of years before I could go full time.  I used (and still have) good quality wigs that were synthetic, and never had a bad experience unless the wig and my other clothing clashed badly, and then the clothing got the blame.  If the wig is styled by a professional for your face the color is not all that important, but getting the advice of a hair stylist helps far more than you may expect.  Budget wigs can be fun but they do get ratty looking if you do not carefully care for them.  Use them to choose color possibilities.  Go to my Gallery here, (I did a wig show a couple of years ago when someone else asked this question) and you can see some of my serious attempts at wearing wigs along with some clowning around.  My current color for my own hair came from one of my favorite wigs.

 

https://www.transgenderpulse.com/forums/profile/14243-vickysgv/?tab=node_gallery_gallery

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DeeDee

Thanks Vicky, I went from having really fine shoulder length blonde hair that hairdressers used to compliment me on, to bald when I was 17 and still at school - and have looked the same on every photo ever since, nothing will bring that back!

 

I haven't been out as me yet, but will want something to look natural to strangers even of those around me know that it isn't. Wind and rain are all too commonplace and I will have enough worries and self confidence issues the first few times without my hair being obviously fake or having to chase it down the high street!

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DeeDee
Just now, VickySGV said:

My current color for my own hair came from one of my favorite wigs

You also really suit being a red head! did you try before you buy?  and just as an aside I love that "so over the rainbow t-shirt" too! 😂

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Willow

I have a decent quality short wig that comes pretty close to my natural hair color.  I wore it out once but no comment was made about it being a wig.  I'm not really ready to go out yet, so once was enough for now.

 

Willow

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DeeDee

Thanks Willow, I the other issue is trying not to look like I'm copying my sisters, the wig in my avatar is a bit too close to a current hairstyle which is not what it looked like online, but the netting at the front is still very visible. I am hoping that this coming year will be one of many firsts for me, and in order to get there this is a big one!

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Willow

Keep in mind you can buy wigs from $40 up to a few thousand $ or Pounds.  Factors are natural or synthetic, Length especially for natural hair, how the wig is tied and the number of strands per inch.  Its not unlike buying an oriental rug, more knots, more money.  If you go to a wig store they can help you with color and style, length and type and will definitely allow you to try on the wigs.  They will give you care instructions and tell you if it can be styled and where to take it for customization.

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DeeDee

Thanks Willow, ❤️ the nearest place I can do that in store is a good 5-6hrs away by car so would require an overnight stop. My cheap synthetic one was £30 online but most of the lower decent ones seem to start at £120 upwards, a real hair wig would be nice but I would need to justify it!  

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VickySGV
4 hours ago, SeekingSadie said:

You also really suit being a red head! did you try before you buy? 

 

I have  always gone to wig stores, they are some of the most accepting people I ever encountered, and did try on the wigs before I bought them, and they were bought before I had my hair colored.  In that sense I did try before I bought.

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Susan R

It has been years since I bought a wig.  I used to go to this place in North Seattle area and had some of the most wonderful ladies treat me like a queen...even dressed as a guy.  It was great.  I had bought a few $120 wigs that were nice, realistic looking and the lasted for years.

 

Yesterday, my wife and I went online wig shopping.  It took a long long time but I finally found a great deal at Paula Young Online.  The one I bought is very close in style and color of my favorite wig back in my wild carefree crossdressing days.  It had good reviews too.  I got this one for only $65 w/shipping.  It arrives Dec. 28.  I can't wait!

 

Susan R🌷

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DeeDee

Thanks all.  I know it is purely a self confidence boost but I know I need to get more comfortable as me.

 

That style is gorgeous Susan! x

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