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Very late last night I went ahead and came out on Facebook. I've been watching close and so far everything has been very positive, and I've even had comments and likes from people I expected to hit the "unfriend" button. I haven't lost a friend yet, and hopefully that trend continues. I'm bringing in 2019 by taking a huge step forward and telling the world I'm not hiding anymore! :)

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That's so great, Dakota! Very similar to my experience: much trepidation beforehand, but in the end just a lot of positivity and support. 

May the trend continue!!!

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That's great to here. That would be a place were I can tell my family and friends all at the same time. I would expect some unfriending though, possibly from both friends and family alike.  All though it maybe be a while.

 

Kymmie

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Congrats Dakota!  What a nice way to start 2019.  May it be a year of peace and harmony in your life?

 

Susan R?

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Congratulations!! That's an awesome way to start the year. I hope the trend of positive responses continues too. Either way, you've taken a huge step in expressing who you are and I hope it takes you closer to greater peace and happiness. :)

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13 hours ago, Dakota16 said:

I'm bringing in 2019 by taking a huge step forward and telling the world I'm not hiding anymore!

That's great Dakota, well done!

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Hopefully you will continue to get positive feedback.  If you get a bit of negativity do't get too concerned.  It sometimes takes folks time to adjust to a change.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Three days later, it's been nothing but positive reactions! My sister asked if she could share my post, and I spent some time trying to figure out just how far I want it to go until I realized she may have more family as friends than I do, so I told her it was okay. So she reposts a couple of hours later and I got teary-eyed when I read her intro:

 

"So the following is a post that I had to share. The person that had this original post has got to be one of the bravest people I know (not to mention one of my favorites). The post was originally made by my former brother, now sister, and I couldn't be more proud of her for having the courage to finally tell the world. I love you to the moon and back Dakota!!"

 

I was finally able to go to an extended family event as myself, and one of my cousins later commented how much more comfortable I looked all day. A couple of them came up to me in private and said they support me and how awesome it was that I'm being who I really am, which made my day. :)

 

I've lost 2 FB friends so far, but as far as I'm concerned they're missing out on interacting with someone who's much more comfortable now than ever before.

 

But the most surprising response came from my aunt, who has outright said she'd disown her own kids for coming out as gay, who said "You are truly brave. Thanks for the courage and letting us know how you really want. Hoping for a great 2019 for you and your family. Love you."

 

Looks like 2019 is starting off on the right foot! :)

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Wonderful news Dakota!  And your cousins comment about being more comfortable is certainly true.  Freedom is a great feeling.

 

Jani

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Dakota, I am so happy for you.  I love to hear good news like this. Thank for the update.  Btw...Your sister is a gem!

 

Susan R?

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