Could be a demigirl??

[SageEllie]

Hey guys! I've been questioning my gender identity off and on for years. Being female has always kinda sat wrong to me, and my mental image of myself was androgynous. I would see characters/people who defied the gender binary and feel this intense need to be like them. I would also always relate to stories of trans or nonbinary people.

 

However I don't experience that much physical dysphoria, more a sense of this is not me. Like when I look in the mirror, I think I look like nice, but not like me. I hope that makes sense. Looking in the mirror typically causes me to dissociate so I don't do it much.

 

I present as female and feminine right now, but I'd love to present as androgynous, both in gender and presentation. Or even a masc enby. Idk. I just want to express myself, and I don't mind 'girl' clothing but I don't want to be boxed in the category of girl.

 

I feel like the label demigirl might fit, or demienby. Does anybody relate to this or am I just crazy?

 

[VickySGV]

I have to admit that this is the first time I have heard that term "demigirl"  until now, but the Urban Dictionary says this :

 

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A demigirl (also called a demiwoman or a demifemale person) is a gender identity describing someone who partially, but not wholly, identifies as a woman, girl or otherwise feminine, whatever their assigned gender at birth. They may or may not identify as another gender in addition to feeling partially a girl or woman.

 

The best I can say is try it on for a while and see if you think it is YOU.  I have a friend, in fact she is the President of my LGBTQ+ Community Center, who needs to take time off from "GIRL" and has a spirited act as a Drag King that she does on occasion to help her get back into mental stability.  I would also offer the term Gender Fluid (moving between genders) for you as well.  There is absolutely no hard rule on labeling yourself, and the label does not come with a complete manual on it.  If you have some holiday money that you can use on Amazon, I would recommend a book by Jeffrey Marsh titled "how to be you"  (no caps in the title).  Jeffrey is a producer of a lot of online entertainment stuff and is one who can turn around and have you seeing all and no genders at the same time.  (I have met them in person and had a delightful talk.)

[Jani]

I had to look this up also.  I would say not to focus on labeling yourself at this time.  Focus instead on being you and being comfortable with who you are.  Afterwards you can certainly assign a label, if needed.  Speaking with a GT might help you get to that point sooner than later. 

 

Cheers, Jani

[tracy_j]

I have to agree with Jani here. Although I use the term 'androgyne', in many ways it's more that I like the sound of the term as the meaning seems to vary dependant of who is using it. I have found, over the years, that I have naturally dressed and acted androgyne in many ways, even when in very male situations, without thinking about it. It is more a way of life than a concious thing. With everyone, it's different. For myself, I am normally androgyne towards female most of the time, fully feminine female quite a bit and feminine male when I have to be (dressed for working on the car or special family occasions). In my opinion it's usually other people who give me labels. As androgyne is not a commonly used term the label tends to be either male or female (the nearest I have yet heard is "They have gender issues" referring to me. The jury's still out - good or bad?). It's coping with this that I found initially very hard. Other people often  tend to have very fixed views on the label they choose for us.

 

Tracy