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I'm a new member and want to introduce myself.  My chosen name is Tabitha.  I live in the New Orleans area.


I identify as MtF, but due to life commitments that were made before I admitted to myself my true identity, I'm likely to never transition.  In the back of my mind, I've always known that I should have been born female.  The evidence is there from way back in my childhood when I first had these feelings.  However, growing up in the time that I did and with the information available to me, I never understood.  Although I had these feelings, I was raised with the incorrect belief that you were either straight or gay (gay was considered a bad thing).  


Had I had the information and options available to me that are available today, I would have realized my true identity much sooner and would likely have worked toward transition.  Now, many years later when the information is available to me, I have chosen a life path that doesn't allow me to truly satisfy my self identity.  Don't get me wrong, I'm very happy with my life and wouldn't want to lose what I have; but, if there were really such things as do-overs, I'm sure that I would have chosen differently.


Thanks for accepting me into this community.  I hope to get to know some of you, to learn more, and to have a safe place to interact with others.






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Welcome to the Forums Tabitha, it is never too late to start living as your True and Authentic self.  I did not start my Transition until I was I was 61, and here I am 10 years later living full time as myself and happy to be here.  Commitments made before we know or understand the truth are void when we become fully aware of who we are, and should not be embedded in them as if we are concrete reinforcing bars.  It can take time for others to get used to us and our changes, but do not absolutely rule out your time in the sun.

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Susan R

Hi Tabitha, nice to meet you.  As Vicky mentioned, many of us here are late bloomers.  I'm 56 years old.  I'm starting my transition and very happy about it.  It's never too late to work toward the goal of one's happiness.  I know sometimes the logistics surrounding your life make it seem impossible.  With enough support and a few allies in your corner, it's amazing what you can accomplish.  I'm glad you found us.  Look forward to hearing more.


Susan R🌷

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Timber Wolf

Hi Tabitha,

Welcome to TransPulse. I'm glad you've found us!


Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf🐾

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Welcome Tabitha.  Like you i once thought there was only gay or strait and i simply didn't fit.  I also enjoyed my life prior to self acceptance.  We all have our own paths and time lines.  Enjoy yours.  Simply knowing i wasn't alone helped me.


Huggles back to you,



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Carolyn Marie

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Tabitha.  Please look around these forums and learn all you can. Ask any questions and we'll do our best to help.  No one will pressure you to go in any particular direction, but as you've already seen, we do like to offer ourselves as examples of what is possible,  Enjoy your time spent here.




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Hi Tabitha,


Welcome :)



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Hello Tabitha.  As noted, its never too late to make a change.  Even if you cannot transition socially you may be able to adjust elements of your life to be more enjoyable in regard to your gender.  I'm glad you found us and I hope you join in as this is a group of wonderfully supportive folks! 

Cheers, Jani

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Welcome Tabitha. Lots of great people here. 


Maybe you can try some little things to help you feel more like your true self. I am still very much not out and do little subtle things like shaping my eyebrows a bit, sitting down to use the toilet,  painting my toenails and many other little things that no one really notices. 

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