I Hope My Girlfriend Will Love Me As A Woman

[MadisonJoan]

It's me again, Madison Joan.

 

I have a girlfriend but I fear that she won't accept me as a woman.  How and when should I come out to her?  I hope she accept me as a woman.  I love her so much.  And I still want to be with her.  But I fear she won't accept me as a woman.  

 

Madison Joan.

[Josie Beth]

There’s no telling what her reaction will be. It’s a different time these days for sure. Not everyone has bad luck coming out to their partner. There’s several people here who came out to wives and girlfriends that stuck together. Perhaps they can give better insight about things since they have had a good experience with their partners.

[Adaline]

I hope it goes well.  When I came out to my wife, I expected her to leave me but unexpectedly she didn’t.  She took me bra shopping, helped me with makeup, understood my feelings and helped me to find ways to cope with dysphoria.

 

As changes started to occur, she became less supportive and now has drawn a line in the sand, “go any further and you leave”.  It’s the thought of being in a lesbian relationship that bothers her.  We come for a very conservative religious background and the more she thinks of me as a woman the harder it is for her to go on, when I was a man in women’s clothes she could live with.  I’ve heard the same story from others.

 

That doesn’t mean it will happen to you and I hope you make it but a time may come where you need to decide how much you need this.

 

i wish you the best.

 

hugs

Adaline

 

 

[MadisonJoan]

Maybe it can work out.  I know my girlfriend is quite liberal and accepting of LGBT people in general but I wonder if she's OK with being a lesbian herself.  I know that even when I transition I will both still be into women (cis and trans) and I will still love her.

[Kirsten]

First I’ll say the sooner you can tell her the better. It’s never good to keep secrets and build on lies. But as others have said, there’s no telling what her reaction will be. I am lucky that my wife accepts me as myself, but we still haven’t really figured out the whole intimacy thing. If you plan on a full transition you are in essence asking her to change her sexual preference. And that’s not an easy thing. So it’s important to always prepare for the worst with anyone you come out to. Loss is a very real aspect of transition. 

I wish you the best in what is a very stressful situation. ❤️❤️

[MadisonJoan]

Thank you Kirsten.  Love you beautiful.

 

Madison Joan.