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I’m currently stuck in a tough situation right now. I recently came out as trans to my parents. This was around 2015.  I was 16 years old. My mom and dad did not want to accept who I am. They still love me. Nothing has changed. Fast forward to 2017. They still haven’t came around but I’m being patient and understanding. They did not want me to transition and so they kept me from transitioning while I was still a young teen. In a way, I felt like it is abuse because I have severe dysphoria and at first they didn’t believe me but I guess now they do because I have been persistent with my feelings of being the opposite gender. There was occasional questioning on my part because they didn’t make me feel so secure in my skin. I learned that I need to live for myself and not my parents. I have to find another place to stay because my parents are uncomfortable with me being transgender and transitioning. They are Baptist so they’re pretty rigid in their belief system. I don’t have any money. I actually was let go from my job at Kohl’s because I was only seasonal and they didn’t pay me enough for me to support myself. I’m currently unemployed and do not have the financial means to move out. I can’t go to a homeless shelter because technically I’m not homeless but at the same time I don’t have the freedom at home to be myself. My dysphoria is high functioning and it’s the only thing that’s on my mind all the time. Does anyone know of programs specifically for the lgbt population that provides housing? I can take anything at this point. My goal is to move out as soon as possible. It’s the only way I can be truly happy. I’ve been diagnosed with Gender Dysphoria so I know for sure this isn’t schizophrenia or bipolar disorder. 

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53 minutes ago, Linde said:


And this could be helpful for their understanding

This is a National Geographic report with Katie Couric on Gender stuff



or this





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Quote containing religious bashing removed per rule 15

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