Nonbinary tucking?

[mdj]

Hello friends,

 

I'm exploring all sorts of different ways to express being gender nonbinary, and it's actually going really well. Most helpfully, I've started buying soap, shampoo, etc. that doesn't have "Men" in the name, some of my outfits have become increasingly nonbinary, and I'm growing out my hair. All of these little things are helping me feel more confident, even if no one else notices. But there's one part that I'm getting really frustrated with. Tucking.

 

I've tried to do lots of reading on the topic, but I'm just not satisfied. So many of the tucking options I've found are binary -- women's panties that really compress in the front and add padding in the back; gaffs that implicitly (or explicitly) outline the female anatomy; and so forth. My desire to tuck isn't to present as a different gender -- it's to hide a somewhat obvious bulge from the world when I'm not feeling particularly attached to it. Thus far, though, I haven't found many good options (other than a few tight-fitting compression pants/shorts, such as for runners).

 

What do other nonbinary folks suggest? What have you tried? What works well? What doesn't work at all?

 

Thanks,

mdj

[Linde]

I am gender fluid, and tuck depending which gender I am presenting in.  I have a lot of genital atrophy, and found that i jut need to use female tummy control underpants, to keep everything nicely tucked away.  They are nice and stretchy, and don't bind or hurt a bit.  But they might work only for a really reduced set of male genitals.

[Astrid]

@mdj: For me, wearing female boyshort underwear works well at hiding any bulge, as long as I tuck (helpful when wearing leggings or jeggings, for example).  When wearing more conventional jeans, I've no need to tuck with the boyshorts, but I do it any as a personal preference.  Of course, I suspect one's mileage may vary, based on genital size.  Wishing you best of luck with finding a good solution.

Astrid

[Natasha]

I once had some days that I tucked, back in highschool. Although I got scared because I read somewhere that it could make me sterile and I didn't know if in the future I would want kids (I still don't want to have though), so I stopped, just in case. Does anyone know if that's true? Because sometimes I feel I would like to tuck but the risk makes me avoid it.

[tracy_j]

I have read somewhere that it could cause temporary sterility due to the higher heat but a medical specialist would give a better idea.

 

Tracy

[Kalli]

Tucking can be good and help with dysphoria but it can be painful for long periods of time. Try looking at a dance belt which can help a lo plus its more comfortable!

[jody]

if ur tucking on a as required basis then it can be uncomfortable.as said some of the support underwear ect is about as good as it gets.. ive tucked for a long time and its second nature now but I have got greatly reduced parts due to antiandrogen..