Bigender?

[Heather]

I have had these feelings for years, however I have just recently decided I want to do something about them.  I cant find anything specific online stating what part of the gender spectrum I would fall on.  I was born a male, however that is not how I feel.  I have recently started having hair removal for my whole body, wearing more feminine clothing.  I feel like I should have breasts and am wanting them badly.  I want to start taking hormones to make my body to develop breasts and to have body fat move from the abdomen to the hips and thighs.  I dont want to remove my penis, but would like to have my testicles removed.

[VickySGV]

Welcome to the Forums

You are not alone in your feelings and goals, and we have members here who have made the same decisions on Transitioning and are happy.  HRT and orchiectomy will affect your male sexuality and push you into the more binary female category.  Even there though, it will be how you present in public that is the final determination. Unlike many, I do wear male clothing for more practical reasons from time to time, but I do also have my more feminine moments.  I have been living full time as a female oriented person, but people who know me just say "oh YOU" which I love.

[Heather]

@VickiSGV I have read on some websites that the functionality of my penis may not be affected as long as I continue to use it.  It stated that there may be some shrinkage, but the recommendation for that was to have the Orchiectomy till the end.  Would this be true or not?  That's another reason I joined here, because the other places I have seen just give advice and there is not actual peoples thoughts and advice from doing it themselves.

[Linde]

Hi Heather

Some shrinkage is a little understatement!  If I look at my genital, I would call the shrinkage pretty large, but that took several years to get there.  What you probably do not consider is the fact that your libido will also move towards the basement, and that means, you have no real interest in using your penis anymore, and the atrophy will start.

 

It is always the thing with eating the cake and having it, too!  If you go the orchi route and take estrogen, I can almost ensure you that your penis will shrink quite a bit after a while.

[VickySGV]

20 hours ago, Heather said:

I have read on some websites that the functionality of my penis may not be affected as long as I continue to use it. 

 

This is not guaranteed and is a person by person event.

 

14 hours ago, Linde said:

What you probably do not consider is the fact that your libido will also move towards the basement, and that means, you have no real interest in using your penis anymore,

 

That is what I was gently referring to in my first response up above.  Linde hit it right on there.

 

If your concern is toward having enough tissue for possible GCS where your penis is re-purposed for use as a neo-vagina, there are techniques that overcome the tissue shrinkage so it will not matter. 

[Heather]

No my concern is that I am bigender.  So, I want to be able to keep and use my penis.  However, I want the HRT to develop breasts.

[Lee H]

On 1/19/2019 at 2:53 PM, Heather said:

"However, I want the HRT to develop breasts."

Implants?

 

[Susan R]

On 1/19/2019 at 2:53 PM, Heather said:

So, I want to be able to keep and use my penis.  However, I want the HRT to develop breasts.

I don’t know “how” you use it pre-HRT but from the many trans women I know and from personal experience...it will likely change even with continued stimulation after being on HRT a year or so.  I know I’m drawing a conclusion from a rather small sample size (no pun intended) but be prepared for it to change for your current norm.

 

56 minutes ago, Leah said:

Implants?

Some doctors (like mine) want you on HRT for at least a year or two to make sure there is no unexpected growth added onto the intended beast size.

[ShawnaLeigh]

I’ve been on HRT a month and already don’t feel the desire to use it.  Even though I still desire my wife.  
I would assume the same same for a bi-gender person.  
However most of what sex is can be brain related not genitalia so use your imagination if need be.  
 

Edited December 23, 2019 by Jani
correct spell check error

[ShawnaLeigh]

Omg. Damn auto correct. 
Bigender person*

[Jani]

Got it fixed!

[ShawnaLeigh]

3 hours ago, Jani said:

Got it fixed!

Thank you!