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Upon doing research, it seems quite a lot of people tend to change sexual orientation during their transition. 

I'm posting this concern here because I want to know how frequently and at what level this affects transmasculine folk in particular.

Has anyone here experienced this kind of change? If so, was it a complete flip? Do you just suddenly wake up and find yourself to be attracted to both genders?

 

I'm currently attracted solely to women. I have a beautiful girlfriend of 4 years and we will be getting married in about a year.  If I start hormone therapy, will I stop being attracted to her? I don't want to lose her, she's everything to me.

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A true change in your "sexuality" is actually pretty rare. (I don't know where YOU are getting your information from.)  What does happen is that our libido is affected during HRT in a lot of ways that vary from person to person.  Another thing HRT does is that it calms us down and lets us think about who we are truly physically attracted to and makes us realize that even some sexual attraction we thought we had was "expected" attraction.  After I began Transitioning I came to realize that what I thought was best buddy attraction to my male friends was actually a "crush" on them.  I can chuckle about that now.  In what you say above, you are Female to Male with a girlfriend you intend to marry.  Under that combination, your orientation now is female to female or Lesbian.  After Transition when you become male, yes it becomes a heterosexual relationship in the eyes of society.  Confusing, yes!!

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Just now, VickySGV said:

Another thing HRT does is that it calms us down and lets us think about who we are truly physically attracted to and makes us realize that even some sexual attraction we thought we had was "expected" attraction. 

Yes!   You might not change but actually realize the type of people you're attracted to.  I didn't change my attraction to women.  Although I admit I enjoy the little bit of attention I get from time to time from guys.  

 

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My attraction was always more on a connection level and not necessarily to one sex or the other. Although I used to date women because it was expected, the relationships were more friendly than romantic, even when intimacy was involved. I’ve not had a lot of experience with dating men but I’m very much not attracted by just looks, although that is important. I’m more interested in a soul connection that grows into intimacy. Maybe those feelings will grow and change with time. It’s strange because I’m very attracted to male plumbing and the idea of intimacy with men but usually turned off by their behavior with rare exceptions. I’m not a virgin though so it’s not just fascination. It’s a deep seated understanding that it feels right and natural for me and denying that was harmful to me. I’ve felt that way since I was 14, just didn’t really experience it til I was 28. It took that long to admit that Feeling was more than just deviant behavior. It was a part of my innermost nature that hasn’t changed in spite of everything I’ve done to mask it. Now I don’t go telling everyone about it but when I get asked about it I’m usually honest. Most people that find out don’t even bat an eyelash and accept it, although few people know about it. Maybe a few suspect it, especially women, but they don’t make a big deal about it and don’t ridicule me. 

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2 hours ago, VickySGV said:

A true change in your "sexuality" is actually pretty rare

What I've read about matches this Djorkus - you just feel less constrained or obligated because you are being more open with yourself. A word of caution though is that the worries you are having about your sexuality  - will also be faced by your partner and theirs. Others here can offer better advice on this aspect. We all have different concerns but for me I am not long out of a long term relationship so I'll figure out sexual attraction once I've figured out who I want people to be attracted to. :) 

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I think it's less your sexuality changing, and just being calmer and more open to exploring/accepting what your sexuality is. Not everyone's sexuality "changes".

 

My whole experience with the whole sexuality thing has helped me find out what mine is - as before starting T I had no real attraction, or want to be with/date anyone (not that there's anything wrong with that - I just kinda knew that wasn't mine). 

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