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Amy LeBlanc

I am so thankful to find out that my insurance is one that actually covers all of the Transgender surgeries.  My face is one of my biggest areas of dysphoria cause it's the one that people see and I just feel uncomfortable with having mixed areas of my face showing male and female.  It's my nose and jaw / chin that is the biggest dead give away on me and I cannot wait till I schedule my FFS and get it done.  This will help me out alot.

 

The next area of biggest dysphoria to me is my birth defect as I call it.  I still have the same dream on just getting rid of it.  But since I am able to tuck and hide it very well.  The FFS is the first surgery that I want done to help me out.

 

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Susan R
36 minutes ago, Amy LeBlanc said:

I am so thankful to find out that my insurance is one that actually covers all of the Transgender surgeries.

Wow, Amy.  One less thing to worry about.  That makes your transition so much smoother. Finding the best surgeon and waiting for an opening are likely the only thing slowing you down at this point.  Awesome news!

 

Susan R🌷

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Susan

That is so cool! Hopefully I will get that lucky. But I am Lucy that my insurance is covering what is does now but it will end in June. Hugs!

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Amy LeBlanc
43 minutes ago, Susan R said:

Wow, Amy.  One less thing to worry about.  That makes your transition so much smoother. Finding the best surgeon and waiting for an opening are likely the only thing slowing you down at this point.  Awesome news!

 

Susan R🌷

Thanks.  I already found a good surgeon.  She is 1 of 9 top Transgender surgeons in the US that specializes in all Trans surgeries.  She is in PHX.

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Amy LeBlanc

So I am feeling sad and dysphoric right now cause I am wishing that I am a real woman.  I wish that I could have a vigina NOW.  I am hating this birth defect that I have and want it gone.

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Maid In Bedlam
Just now, Amy LeBlanc said:

So I am feeling sad and dysphoric right now cause I am wishing that I am a real woman.  I wish that I could have a vigina NOW.  I am hating this birth defect that I have and want it gone.

You mean your not??

 

Its in the mind. You believe your a real woman then great things happen.

Just because society and the social constuct exists it doesnt mean you have to subscribe to it.

 

We are what we feel we are and no one can take that away from you. Hold your head up high and be who and what you wanna be.

 

Yes i have bad days. I have -crap- days to. Riddled with dysphoria. However once you relise its just a mind game you play on yourself it all floats away.

 

Then have been days ive looked in that mirror and i just see man. But i have learnt that once i go out. No one looks. No one points and giggles. Its just me seeing what i am being drawn to and not what society sees. The mind likes to play tricks on us and we have been programmed to think. that it knows all. But it doesnt. Its just one perspective.

 

Just because you have a vagina that doesnt make you a woman. The maketh of the woman is in the mind and not the sex.

 

Sex and gender so we are told by people more clever than ourselves are two completly diffrent things

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Maid In Bedlam

While we are on the subject of Dysphoria.

 

Let me tell you its a cruel mistress. For me it was and still trys to be but I dont know if its age or life expreiances or even the making of my Essence. Makes it much harder to show its self..  Dont get me wrong at the start it was strong. It tried to ruin me.

 

The darker side of dysphoria pops it head up once in a while just to try and tells me things that  it wants me to believe. trying to put me down on my knees once again and submit to its presense. Trying to make me hate myself by feeding on my insecurities . It trys many tricks. Ill be honest with you and ive never wrote this down anywhere before but mine trys to convince me i look like Reggie Kray. For those who dont know who he is. Check out the picture at the bottom. For a while i actually believed it and submitted to its calls. Which were among things such as " You look  like a man, You are not female and dont look act or present yourself as such, Your a freak"

 

Let me tell you something. The hormones do help. But that isnt the begin all and end all. Its just a weaapon in the fight against it. many of the tools are already there. You just have to train yourself to not submit to it calling

 

For me its still there. I guess it will always be but now i just make it sit in the corner. It still thinks its its in charge but being honest it doesnt have a clue.

 

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It makes me feel better to see the diffrence between me and Reggie Kray.

 

 

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Kirsten

Hey Amy, 

i was all over this last week. I was sure I was a guy. I was convinced things weren’t changing. I was so depressed I was really thinking about hurting myself. 

But things turned around. We are both in our shifting phase. Your brain is very female now. But your body’s still catching up. As are the people around us. So we get misgendered, we get stares, we have self confidence issues, and we tend to have a lot of ups and downs. The downs suck. But without them the ups wouldn’t be so great! 

Hang in there hun. You’ll get there. The feelings will go away. You’ll  see more and more Amy every day and that’s not slowing down. Just think back to the other day being at your fair looking so awesome in that dress!!! All I saw there was a happy beautiful girl having a wonderful time! That’s YOU!!! It’s hard to remember sometimes. But it is. And you can’t forget! Even when it’s hard. 

❤️❤️

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Amy LeBlanc

Thank you all.  It is funny how your mind can change this fast.

 

@Kirsten Thank you for reminding me about Ren. Faire.  I was so happy and glad to be me and felt so beautiful.  But I just cannot believe how I woke up from a dream where I was a real woman with a vigina, the reproductive organs, breast, nice feminine body and then when I was up, it hit me that I have this birth defect and threw me into a dysphoric state and started to feel sad.

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VickySGV

I hope this will help, but if it really sets someone off, I am sorry.  I am post-op for 6 years last month, and while not sorry in the least for having it, I have now learned that it is not holy grail that many consider it to be.  There are a lot of reasons, of which the daily maintenance is one, and the fact that after a few weeks of adoration by others who claim you are so brave and heroic as you are reaching for pain med's but shortly afterwards turn you  from hero to whiner and a "WHO CARES" case is one more reason just off the top of my mind.   

 

Yoiu do not have a single goal in Transition, you have many individual steps, each of which can help you on a day to day basis.  I actually count my legal Name Change as one of the truly large moments above my GCS, (I know, heresy).   Even larger than that was the daily realization that internally I was not changing all the much, but I was stripping off armor, like a lobster shedding its exoskeleton and being terribly vulnerable for a while on a regular basis.  An example is that for @Amy LeBlanc, she has not changed from being the Rennaisance Lady that she always has been, but she no longer had to guard and shelter that real part of her.  Once done, it cannot be un-done.  If Dysphoria leads you to shedding one layer of protection for who you have always been, it is doing its job the right way.  Look at it as a friend that way and you actually look forward to the next tine it pushes you to make a decision or a move toward your personal realness.    

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Susan

That is some really great advice vicky.

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Amy LeBlanc
43 minutes ago, VickySGV said:

I hope this will help, but if it really sets someone off, I am sorry.  I am post-op for 6 years last month, and while not sorry in the least for having it, I have now learned that it is not holy grail that many consider it to be.  There are a lot of reasons, of which the daily maintenance is one, and the fact that after a few weeks of adoration by others who claim you are so brave and heroic as you are reaching for pain med's but shortly afterwards turn you  from hero to whiner and a "WHO CARES" case is one more reason just off the top of my mind.   

 

Yoiu do not have a single goal in Transition, you have many individual steps, each of which can help you on a day to day basis.  I actually count my legal Name Change as one of the truly large moments above my GCS, (I know, heresy).   Even larger than that was the daily realization that internally I was not changing all the much, but I was stripping off armor, like a lobster shedding its exoskeleton and being terribly vulnerable for a while on a regular basis.  An example is that for @Amy LeBlanc, she has not changed from being the Rennaisance Lady that she always has been, but she no longer had to guard and shelter that real part of her.  Once done, it cannot be un-done.  If Dysphoria leads you to shedding one layer of protection for who you have always been, it is doing its job the right way.  Look at it as a friend that way and you actually look forward to the next tine it pushes you to make a decision or a move toward your personal realness.    

 

Thank You Vicky so much.  I do look for the shedding of the next big milestone.  I did look at my legal name change as the big milestone.  I am looking at FFS as the next big milestone.  I cannot afford everything in one big go, so I will need to break it up in 2 parts.  I am glad that the doctor also saw the same thing as me with my Jaw / Chin and nose which would be the 2x things that really cause my dysphoria.

 

I can also say that I do flip flop on GCS.  As I talked to my therapist about GCS once, she also said that if I am flipping on GCS alot, then it will not help me if I rush in on GCS.  Cause it is all a matter of what's in your mind and making sure to keep my mind straight and thinking clearly.  So my therapist even said GCS is a NO for me.  

 

Now for FFS, my therapist can see that FFS will help me and will be the right choice and even if I stay with the Jaw / Chin and nose and not do the rest as the doctor pointed out I would be fine.

 

So I know deep down that FFS will help me.  But as for GCS with flipping alot, it's a NO and I will regret GCS.

 

But I am glad to have friends to talk to and help to make certain that I keeping my mind clear and not going to regret anything.  So far, I can say I have had no regrets.

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Amy LeBlanc

Looking through some of my pictures is helping me out.  I am happy with the advice that Kristen gave with how I looked in my Renaissance Dress and it has made me happy again.  I then found this picture that I took of me and just feel in love with myself once again and feeling happy.  I love my outfit style, I look very feminine in it and it does also hide my stomach but yet it shows off my hips that I have and my booty along with my small breast.

 

I love this picture alot and I have a pretty good feminine pose as well.

 

 

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