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Greetings.  I believe this is my first post on any trans forum.  It's always good to start with an introduction and I'll try to do my best.  Words aren't my strong suit, haha.

As my chosen username says, I'm still very much figuring this all out.  I am 31 going on 32 years old and up until a couple years ago I had not once questioned my male gender.  Over these past couple of years, however, Something has been growing and I don't really have the vocabulary to explain it. I am finding myself feeling more and more envious of women and their freedom to express themselves. I have been feeling growing dysphoria to various aspects of my body. I have been dressing in feminine attire on occasion.  I even picked a female name (Lexi).  All of these signs seem to point down the transgender road, but I'm not sure if I'm convinced. I have seen a gender therapist about this in the past (more than a year ago and not much of a resolution) but plan on resuming again soon.

All of these feelings are complicated when you add in that I've been married to a wonderful woman for almost 10 years now and we have the cutest little son you've ever seen. I wouldn't want to put any of that in jeopardy.

So yeah, my mind is all over the place and I"m not really sure what to think, but I look forward to reading about your stories and other words of wisdom that you share on this forum.

Thanks for having me!

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VickySGV

Welcome to the Forums, getting back with a Gender Therapist sounds like a good idea.  Others here have been where you are and left some good posts about their adventures.  Look around, have fun., and join in.

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Jani

Greetings and welcome.  I agree that getting back to counseling would be a good idea.  If your old therapist didn't seem to get you what you need then try another.  Sometimes "figuring it out" takes time so go easy on yourself.  Eventually you'll need to talk to your wife about this.  A therapist can help you with this too. 

 

There are lots of stories here and many are just like yours.  Please join in!  

 

Jani

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Cyndee

Welcome Lexi to Trans Pulse Forums :) Totally agree with my friends above that having a professional you can bounce things off is really worth the time. There is no hurry, there is no time schedule, only you finding your personal answers. Being a parent of 2 daughters, I sometimes wonder if things would have been any different had we had a boy, I guess I'll never really know.

 

Take care and may you find your time here useful.

 

Hugs

 

Cynthia -

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tracy_j

Hi Lexi,

 

Welcome :)

 

Tracy

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SaraAW

Welcome Lexi. I’m only a couple of years older than you and in a similar situation, without a child though.  It can definitely be stressful and worrying at times. But as I begin to learn to listen more to myself and what I feel inside, the better I am feeling. 

 

I’m hoping to see a GT shortly, my GP is researching to help me find someone qualified in the area. 

 

Lots of great people here, lots of information and many relatable stories. 

 

Welcome. 

 

*hugs*

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DeeDee

Hi Lexi, pleased to meet you. I have found the friendliness, knowledge and support of people here to be invaluable! :) 

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Timber Wolf

Hi Lexi,

Welcome to TransPulse. I'm glad you've found us!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf🐾

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figuringitout

Thank you everyone for the warm welcome. This definitely seems like an active community. Can't wait to explore more!

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