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What a difference a week can make!


Willow

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Hi

 

Things have really changed for me in the past week.  

 

 Week ago I was in a funk.  Wanting to take another small step but concerned about ho my I’ve would handle it.  Things have been a little tense for her not being accepting of me.  Since I don’t like to rock the boat I’ve been going as slow as I could.

 

The changes!

 

One day she says to me, do you want me to do your makeup?  I didn’t t know what to say.  She was after me about what was wrong and did she do something to upset me.  She hadn’t and I told her so.  But she figured out the problem one her own which is why she had said about the make up.

 

Next she suggests we go array for a weekend and that I could go as a woman.  We talked about this and she indicated that she had discussed this with our therapist.  Now she was feeling down on the next day after we had a meeting with our minister.  We told him about my situation and we talked for about an hour. It was a good talk but the stress of telling him took its toll.  Instead of going to yoga, I suggested some retail therapy.  She had said if we went away that I would need something to wear but if I got something she got something too.  Well, several new outfits each later, plus shoes we were done. Turns out we wear the same size tops so it was decided that she would “borrow” mine and I could borrow hers.  It was amazing.

 

Today we are away together as two women.  And two more days.  This morning she gave me lessons on makeup.  We spent the day shopping and walked on the beach. 

 

No no one said anything to me or about me that I heard. I did see one person take another look and my wife said there were several.  But I didn’t care.  It felt good to express myself as me.

 

And going from not dressing even at home to being out in public dressed in just a few days is amazing.  The sad part was as two women we couldn’t do some of the things we did before.  But we did other things instead. 

 

Willow

 

 

 

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Willow, this is wonderful news.  You and your wife are both navigating together through this and you are doing it very well.  There are always going to be rough patches but your communication is a big help.  She is caring and sees your needs.  What an amazing transformation in you and your relationship....and in just a week.  I bet you are feeling on top of the world right now.  I am so happy for the both of you.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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Wow, that is amazing and wonderful. So happy for you. Hopefully this is just the start of many more good things to come. 

 

*hugs*

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Thank you all for the thoughtfulness and encouraging words.  Yes, my wife really surprised me with this and has been very supportive.  Each time I’ve done makeup with her she’s given me more hints and been helpful. She’s already said that she’s going to wear the dress I wore to dinner tonight to church on Sunday.  Kind of nice we can share.

 

Willow

 

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Well this trip is over.  We had a really good time.  My wife still has mixed feelings.  She had a good time with me this trip and suggested we could try to do this every month.  In fact we already made plans for our next outing.  

 

On on the way home we stopped at a mall and did some more shopping.  We each bought two pairs of shoes, including similar open toe heels.  I bought a sweater , a spring jacket and a new purse.  My wife bought a purse, and two tops.

 

it was my first trip to the mall as a woman.

 

Willow

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25 minutes ago, Willow said:

It was my first trip to the mall as a woman

WHOO WHO!

 

I understand your wife having mixed feelings despite enjoying herself with you this weekend.  Its a change from what she's used to.  It will take time still.  Be kind and don't rush.  

 

Hugs, Jani

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It sounds like you are having a lovely time.  It took my wife a long time to become comfortable with me especially in public.  I think the thing that helped her the most was a 1 1/2 month cross country trip.  Time will hopefully make her doubts and concerns fade.  That happened for us.  Even so i know she would prefer the man she married.  Fortunately that feeling seems to surface rarely.  I think it will always exist but she can accept and love me despite my gender.  In truth i think we are closer than ever.

Sharing skirts or tops is fun!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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