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Mediator

Hi,

 

I'm 38 years old and I live on the countryside just outside Stockholm, Sweden. I work as a negotiator and legal advisor for a labour union. On my spare time I enjoy doing blacksmithing and other metal fabrication.

 

I've always identified as a cis male. Since I was about 14 years old I've identified my sexuality as bisexual, until recently when I started contemplating whether I'm pansexual. I just don't care much about the reproduction organs of my partner. There is so much other stuff that's much more important to me.

 

After being single for three years I started dating again. Dating apps was a completely new thing to me and after swiping for a while I had come across a few females that were open about being trans. I've encountered people being open about that in real life. But I thought that if I was to date someone that's trans I don't think it's fair that the one I'm dating have to educate me on everything she's going through. After spending some time on google I came across this forum and thought that it would be the perfect place to learn about transition and what ever issues are comon to run into. It will also help me in my work since discrimination is one of the things I help our members with. I also think it's my obligation as a fellow human to be an ally to anyone who is a target for bigotry and opression.

 

Since I consider myself a total noob regarding everything trans I will occasionally most likely use the wrong terms and may even come across as a bit unsympathetic from time to time. If I ask a question it's not an argument. It's only a question. I'm very grateful for anyone having the patience to correct me and/or educate me whenever I'm expressing myself in any way that might come across as offensive since it's never my intent (unless you are a nazi and/or a bigot).

 

Despite being a noob I'm happy to support and/or help in any way I can. Unfortunatly labou1.thumb.JPG.f992737d1c5df279f86bf5b9dbab70b8.JPGr legislation looks very different depending on what country you are in so I might not be of much help if you don't live in Sweden. But I'm quite good at reading and understanding legislation so if you tell me where to read I might be able to help you interpret the legislation you are struggling with. 

 

 

 

I've already browsed around and I'm so happy to have found this place. ❤️

 

/D

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Cyndee

Welcome Mediator, I hope you find your time with us enlightening. Where I am in Western WA state, our society is fairly open about such things, anti discrimination laws exist here in WA state for Gender Identity / Expression regarding housing, employment, access to medical care for example. Trans people live openly here. It's not a perfect world, but it's pretty nice overall here.

 

Have a wonderful day

 

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Carolyn Marie

Welcome to Trans Pulse.  I'm glad you're here to learn, as we always need more allies and people who understand.   It is important that, if you have not already done so, you read the Community Rules, so you know what the boundaries are and the etiquette expected of all members.  If you have questions, please do ask.  We'll be happy to help out.

 

Carolyn Marie

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Susan R

Hi Mediator, We're a very helpful bunch here. I'm sure you'll be able to get all the information you need either from some of the regulars or buried deep in the site somewhere. I've learned a lot since joining. I'm sure you will too.

 

Good Luck,

Susan R🌷

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Mediator

Thank you all for your lovely replies! ❤️

 

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Jani

Welcome!   I hope you can learn all you would like and come to a better understanding.

 

Jani

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