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Camie

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I am a very big girl, and I got a lot of weight to cut (over 100 lbs), but I am determined!
I started doing a lot of walking and calorie counting.
I got an app that helps me track calories and exercise. Counting calories really woke me up to how many calories I was eating.
Now I enjoy the challenge of eating as yummy as I can for as few calories as possible.
I am really hopeful, 2019 has been my wake up call to self-care!
My motivation currently is I just started hrt march 1st and I want to get fit so when I start putting on fat in the right places it's visible. Super scared of not passing when I get to the point I want to present female.

Any advice at staying motivated, setting goals and/or tips for walks is appreciated!

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I have been nicely losing a bit of weight over the past couple of months. I found I was getting depressed around Christmas so started going out for long walks. The fresh air and exercise perked me up no end, with the bonus of fitness and weight loss. One thing I would find motivating though would be someone to walk with. I am limited to chatting with people I meet on my travels at the moment. I don't count calories, just try so say no when I think of an extra slice of toast or my partner passes the sweets. I think reducing my sugar input has done a lot.

 

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Hi Camie, walking is such good medicine, I am true believer. Congrats on starting HRT this month, how awesome.

 

Consistency, that's the mantra, it becomes part of your routine. I have been doing brisk walks for years now, I do about 5 miles daily, among other things. I don't have a machine, so that means being out in our lovely NW Weather, rain, snow, wind, you get the idea, I won't cheat myself just because it's raining.

 

Good luck with your weight loss goals Camie, you will benefit in so many ways

 

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Thanks Tracy and Cyndee!
 I too am out for walks in the NW weather. I do some indoor cardio too through VR games.
Sometimes I get my son to go out with me on walks which I love, otherwise I have been taking to listening to music on my walks. I do about 3km a day, trying to ramp up but trying not to push myself too hard.

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