Coming out

[Senair]

I moved out of my parents house with my partner and have been able to expirement a lot more with the gender norms compared to what I have been able to in the past. Anyways so I don't drag on all day I have come to the point where I want help with coming out to family and friends, and help with where to start transitioning into a body I am more comfortable with. If anybody has any tips or resources they would like to point me to I would be very thankful.

[Kole Rickard]

Hello! Welcome to TP! My name is Kole and I understand your situation. For I still live in my parents household, I think that's a huge step to move out. That is when you don't have to follow their rules as much and find more about yourself without your parents being on your back constantly. 

First, I would experiment with makeup and clothes to see if you enjoy wearing them. That is always a great first start. Making sure what style of clothes you like and how you want your makeup styled if you want to wear any. I wouldn't say you should think about surgery yet. Take your time to figure your body out first. Second is accessories, if you don't already, you might want to get your ears pierced, or if you're uncomfortable about that you can get clip on ones. You can throw on some sparkly necklace as well. (All of this is if you want to appear a lot more fem.) Third is to adjust to your life style. Get used to a routine. Maybe figure out a name for yourself if you feel you should change it. Fourth comes deciding this is who you truly are and maybe growing up to change your gender and name on your cards. And.. If you want when you grow old, if you can afford it.. surgery. (I would wait a while till you get any surgery, but that is your decision.)

 

For the parents, I don't exactly have great advice, but its advice. Just let them go at their own pace. They might deny that their child wants to be the other gender at first, but they will slowly get used to it. (I am two years out with my gender and they're still very skeptic about it. They took my sexuality very well though when I came out 4 years ago.) They might think it is a trend. If you hang out with other people who are transitioning as well, they will definitely assume that they're inspiring you to do that too. If you haven't already and if you have a different sexuality, you should come out about that first. If you come out as gay, bi, pan, or a, they might take that you're trans better. If you can, wait a bit to tell them you are transitioning. (If they don't take your sexuality well.) I will tell you, it is better to come out with your friends before family. If some friends discard the fact that this is you, than they're not true friends. Maybe find better friends so support you through your situation. Also, the friends that stick with you will help out a lot, trust me. If your partner is notified about your situation then they really do help tremendously! I'm just saying, it is never easy to come out. If all your parents, family and friends accept who you are and how you're doing it, you're very damn lucky!.. (Also, if you have any pride family members that helps out a lot too. You should talk to them.)

 

Just be in for a bumpy ride with emotions and questions about yourself. Just know that it is all worth the questions and emotions if you really are dedicated to it. I hope that everything goes smoothly though. If you have any questions or want to talk more msg me on the website. 

[Jani]

Hello Senair.  Welcome.  I would start by looking for a transgender support group in your area.  Also connecting with a gender counselor would be a good idea.  

 

Jani