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Hi this is my first time posting! I'm enby and pre T. I want to dye my hair but I'm worried I might not pass if I dye it some colours. What colours should I avoid and what colours do you think wouldn't impact on me passing? I might just go for black hair but I'd like to consider other colours too before making a definite decision. Thanks!!!

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You identify as Enby, and the rules are suspended for that status as far as hair goes.  My Enby friends make it a point NOT to wholly pass as male or female and really they feel a pride in NOT having norms to identify with.  That said, tomorrow morning is hair day for me, and I am keeping my "Irish Red" that gets a lot of compliments from women I know and even catches positive glances from males, and fits in with my Enby friends choices of pastel colors and blonds.  If you want a natural looking color, your local hair stylist will have a book of colors and samples, and some will give you hints on creating colors if you cannot afford their prices at that minute.  (They will hope you come back when you have money though.)  Don't worry about Passing, go with what you want to do,

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Hello Prince and welcome!   Vicky is correct about doing what pleases you.  As NB, the goal seems to not to "fit in" with the binary.  You can stand out as unique and you without going the route of Blue hair, instead choosing something that pleases you.  Let us know how it goes! 

Jani

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Thanks, I just think I could just experiment with random stuff for now and see how it goes! 

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