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Paris Ward

Hey everyone! I just had a quick question. I think that the thing that would really help me is to better understand the process.

I am going to be talking with a gender therapist tomorrow and really dont know what to expect from her. This will be an interview call on her behalf I guess.

The main issue that really bothers me is the lack of simple coordinated information about the steps it takes to make it through a transition. There are all these forums out there where people can learn from other,s experiences but that can leave out information.

Is there a site, or a book(Ex, the guide to changing sex for dummies) or anything like that?

I have tried watching Transformer, lost in transition, But these talk about pre-op situations. Nothing that takes you all the way through it.

Id love to hear some personal stories as well if anyone wouldnt mind..

 

Thanks,

Paris

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Carolyn Marie

Paris, I think perhaps the single best publication that will meet your needs is the WPATH Standards of Care, which serves as a guide and how-to for therapists, medical doctors and the TG community, as has done so for many years.  It isn't the easiest read, but it is one of the most complete and most accurate guides to transition that exists.  A link to the doc can be found Here

 

Other sites, such as the Human Rights Campaign (HRC) and other trans organizations have their own, more reader-friendly guides to transition.

 

As for my own journey, I started with joining this site, then finding a great gender therapist, who then referred me to a doctor (an E.R. specialist who also happened to be trans herself).  Other things I found on my own, such as a laser hair removal place, a wig store, etc. etc.

 

My G.T. really helped me through the coming out process (I was, and am, married with a son), workplace transition, and most importantly, helping me figure myself out.  I had many doubts as to how "legitimate" a trans woman I was, and helped me get through the fear, blame, and self-loathing.

 

Please don't hesitate to ask questions I may have neglected to address.  it is a complicated process and almost always has twists and turns and roadblocks.

 

Carolyn Narie

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