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After 8 Months, I'm Fully Out Finally Full Time!


Susan R

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Hello Transpulse!  It's been a while since my last post but I thought I'd share some really good news and a personal milestone.  A lot has happened in my life since then but I'll give my friends here the cliffsnote version.  The last 2 months have been a whirlwind as I have been busy coming out to every one I know...Family including siblings, my 3 daughters, my 7 grandkids, my cousins, nieces and nephews, dozens of friends and neighbors, and now the world at large.  There's been lots of texts, emails, phone calls , visits, etc...  It was always painful before the actual disclosure but so very rewarding in the end.  All but one cranky neighbor has accepted me as Susan and most are very affirming and supportive.  That neighbor is another story for another day.  Interestingly enough, I think most people enjoy Susan's company better than my old male self.  Overall, it was freeing not only for me but for others too.  I had so many people share their secrets once I revealed mine.  It's sure a crazy world we live in.

 

I have been getting closer and closer to being Susan full time.  Up until today, I would still take precautions before leaving my home to do errands, shopping, doctors appts. etc... to cover up my femaleness.  I would dress in an androgynous fashion with sunglasses and a men's  jacket and sometimes even wearing men's jeans over my ladies jeans.  It all worked but what a hassle every time I wanted to leave my home!

 

So as of today, I'm officially full time as myself.  No more hiding and no more pretending to be male to please others and conform to their paradigm .  I hope others here beginning this process have as much success with the 'coming out' part of transition as I did.  It was all worth the trouble.

 

Susan R?

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Wonderful update Susan and I've been following some of your steps as you've marched toward full time, come out to your extended family, and now you're here. Full time is where you let your hair down and just live, no more switching back and forth, what a relief ! Congratulations on this milestone, very happy for you :applause:

 

As for the neighbor lady, I take it she is acting just as predicted.

 

I like your new avatar picture btw, how adorable...

 

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Wow Susan, that is fabulous news! Congratulations on becoming yourself full time x ?

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Susan I have been waiting for an update from you as you have not been around much.  Congratulations on going full time.  As Cyndee notes no more going back and forth, you can just be you.  What great fun!  

 

Wonderful avatar photo!  

Hugs, Jani

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5 hours ago, Cyndee said:

As for the neighbor lady, I take it she is acting just as predicted

 

In an amazing turn of events, my neighbor lady friend just left our home after spending the last 2 hours with us.  She has made a complete 180° turn on me being Trans.  I'm not sure what specifically changed in her mind but it is nothing short of a miracle.  I have seen her write people off for much smaller issues.  My wife and I are both close to this neighbor lady friend and waited to tell her last because we were 99.9% sure she would reject us both.  She came back over to our house this afternoon with a complete change of heart.  Apparently, she says she loves me and does not want to lose our friendship.  I almost started balling but I held back the tears.  We have had some great times over the years but with her conservative Christian stance, I thought this could never happen.  My wife and I are still sitting here stunned.  I had written that relationship off.

 

@Cyndee @DeeDee @Jani Thank you all for the kind words.  It's nice to hear from you all again.

 

Susan R?

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