Funny experience yesterday

[Josie Beth]

I was at work and a customer decided to address me as ma’am and then switched to sir in the same breath. I’m sure their first instinct was the one they meant and they were not sure even though they wanted to correct themselves. I’m not even really trying to pass fully in the social sense yet so it was not only unusual but amusing to hear that. I’m not sure why they chose to address me the way they did but could it be that my inflections and mannerisms are signaling my feminine side more now? And could that be in a slight conflict with the clothing I wear in public? It’s a strange example of how humans perceive others and how we must categorize everything in order to make sense of the world around us.

[VickySGV]

I got female gendered in person long before I was really trying to go full femme.  I never did figure it out.

[Josie Beth]

I think some of it had to do with my facial expression, hand gestures and my hair which is short but growing in a wild curly way and almost appears to be a feminine style. The backpedaling is the thing that confused and amused me a little. 

[Jani]

I had been gendered female in person from when I was a teen through my 50's.  Sometimes I saw it but other times...

 

I think you are showing more feminine attributes than you think Josie.  

 

Jani 

[Kirsten]

You will be the last to know that you pass. I know when I look in the mirror I see the same person that I’ve seen my whole life. Some subtle differences, but I don’t see someone who passes as female. 

But when I went on my trip last week I was gendered female 100% of the time. I didn’t think much of it cause I get gendered that way at home too and just assumed it was people being nice because of where I live. But after talking to my therapist she says going to a place like the Carolinas you truly learn how well you pass. Apparently it’s not a very accepting area and if they don’t fully believe you to be female, then they call you sir. A ma’am is a hard thing to get in that area. Idk if I fully believe that but I sure want to. Lol. Either way it made me feel better about how I look. And if it’s true, I really am the last to know that I pass. ?

 

also i guess trans people are required to use their birth restrooms in North Carolina by law and I was helped to the women’s room two times that I asked where the restroom were. So ??‍♀️ Maybe just maybe right. 

 

My point being these awesome things will happen more and more. And they really are awesome. Relish in them! ❤️❤️ And before you know it you’ll pass too. 

[Carly Hughes]

the thing is at the end of the day we are always our harshest critics, doesnt matter how great we look we will always find something wrong and think others will notice it to

[Beverly]

On 5/22/2019 at 12:16 PM, Kirsten said:

But after talking to my therapist she says going to a place like the Carolinas you truly learn how well you pass. Apparently it’s not a very accepting area and if they don’t fully believe you to be female, then they call you sir. A ma’am is a hard thing to get in that area. Idk if I fully believe that but I sure want to. Lol. Either way it made me feel better about how I look. And if it’s true, I really am the last to know that I pass. ?

 

also i guess trans people are required to use their birth restrooms in North Carolina by law and I was helped to the women’s room two times that I asked where the restroom were. So ??‍♀️ Maybe just maybe right. 

 

 

I live in South Carolina and work in North Carolina (Charlotte). The bathroom bill was repealed. I've had no issues here since I began living my  life as my true gender. People here are really nice. Fortunately I pass, so admittedly my experience may not be the same as others.