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Lexi C

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So I am not a big fan of pronouns that is why I kept my original name Alex. But lately  my friends and fam are coming at me with.." So what shall we call you. Her, She ,Miss." my response is always.." Just call me Alex....I did not change WHO I AM ...just what I feel is better version of Whom I relate too" But I can't take another person ask me that question...

SO I am thinking of change me name from Alex To She...She ; it tells people whom I am, it gives me confidence in what I am and it stop all the stop questions.

So I was hoping for some feed back..All feed ( good or bad) is constructive and will help..TY

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Like your actual first name will be She? That’s very interesting I guess. But it’ll create a lot of questions I’m sure. 

I have a friend who changed her name to Mädchen when she transitioned. It means girl in German. We call her Maddie though. Maybe something like that could be an option as well. 

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As Kirsten mentioned, a name of She will create attention toward you...for a variety of reasons.  Even non-judgmental folks may react with a bit of confusion.  And most folks, I suspect, would require an explanation first that you're using She as a proper name and not just a pronoun, before adjusting thereafter.  In other words, if you have a desire to "stop all the questions," an unusual name like that will not stop them.

 

Best of luck!

 

Astrid

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Hi She! 

The notion rather appeals to me, to be honest! I'm on my third legal name, and if I had thought of it, I would have considered it... 

Best wishes

Amberlea

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You can still use Alex, and the longer version could be Alexandria, or even Alexa. 

At the moment I have been using just the letter ‘V’ when I go to doctors appointments. I started that not too long ago since I was going to different doctors offices and I’m not “out” at the moment. I could use the feminine version of my name, and probably will after my Orchie. I started using Ellora, 1 when I wanted to use a different name all together and 2 it just flowed off my tongue when I said it. It was after I bought the movie Willow not to long ago. BUT, last week, the name Zoey Really made me feel giddy when I thought of using that name ?

I love it now when people use the feminine pronouns, but I understand it will take a bit, especially if I’m in boy clothes and no makeup. 

 

Do do what makes you feel good. Do this for yourself and not others. Sounds like your friends and fam are comfortable with what you want, and they are polite by asking. So since they are asking, then tell the, what you like. Nobody will know what you prefer, unless you tell them. Best of luck Alex! 

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On 5/23/2019 at 7:29 PM, Alex C said:

my response is always.." Just call me Alex....I did not change WHO I AM ...just what I feel is better version of Whom I relate too"

I can relate to this quite a bit. I have been using my nickname for over a decade and it is what I preferred to be addressed by. In the event that I ever start transitioning and all that, I don't have intentions on changing from what I'm called by now. It helps that my nickname, like Alex, is unisex. 

 

If you want to change your name, that is your choice and you can call yourself whatever you choose. If you choose "She", it will stand out, as it is not a common name. I don't believe choosing "She" will stop the questions from coming, but if you connect to the name, go for it. YOLO.

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