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CaraMC

Today is D Day - Transition in public / work

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CaraMC

Hi all,

 

I will send photos today, but today is my official transition day, really nervous but confident at the same time.

 

My biggest worries are my make up and wig, which have to be ok today!

 

We will see!

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tracy_j

Good luck!

 

Tracy

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DeeDee

Good luck Cara!

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Kirsten

Own it! You’ll do great! Congrats hun! 

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CaraMC

Thanks :-), everyone has been so nice at work, here's the photo.

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Charlize

Congratulations!  Getting past that fear is a tremendous accomplishment.  Each day got easier and more comfortable for me. Sweet outfit.  You look great.  Keep smiling.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Krisvm

Glad it went so well. Love the jacket, the colour really suits you

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Jani

Wonderful photo Cara!   As Charlize notes each day will become easier and before you know it, it will be completely natural to be you.  Stay happy.

 

Jani

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CaraMC

Hugs, thanks Charlize, Krisvm and Jani!

 

Really happy to be myself, some odd reactions on the tube and once in Itsu apart from that absolutely fine 🙂

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Krisvm

I am glad you got to be happy.

 

One good thing I think I am finding in England is that most people, even if they did care, are far too polite or awkward to actually say anything ☺️

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lauraincolumbia

Congrats!  Love your outfit!

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Susan R
2 hours ago, CaraMC said:

Really happy to be myself, some odd reactions on the tube

You look fantastic, Cara!  Ignore those haters.  It's more important to be yourself and I t gets easier day by day.

 

Susan R🌷

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CaraMC
2 hours ago, Krisvm said:

I am glad you got to be happy.

 

One good thing I think I am finding in England is that most people, even if they did care, are far too polite or awkward to actually say anything ☺️

Haha, completely agree!

 

Thank you Laurain & Susan 🙂

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SugarMagnolia

That's lovely, Cara! So, happy for you. Make sure you give yourself lots of downtime. It takes a lot of energy for the first week or so and you may not realize how much you'll need to recharge.

 

Well done, you!

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DeeDee

Well done Cara! love the outfit too! 

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Beverly

Way to go, girl! Cheers! :applause:

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Lexi C

Congrats Cara hard to pull off strips but you made it look Vogue.. Be Proud and Stay Strong

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CaraMC

Thanks Alex and Beverly!

 

Round 2 today!

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Lexi C

Things will always get worse until they don't . GL..

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