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Arthur Trout

Neither Here nor There

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Arthur Trout

Take me far away from here,

A place where I will feel no fear.

Live alone atop a hill, the sound of your voice makes me ill.

Don’t come near me.

Don’t talk to me. 

I know I’m not the one you came to see.

You greeted her then you saw me. 

You know her, miss Mary Mary.

Destroys my gardens (how contrary).

I never get to see them grow. 

What it would look like I’ll never know,

For all my silver bells and cockle shells

There’s her thistle-plants and stinging nettles.

For every nettle I try to weed

She’ll stomp my flowers and laugh at me.

You say my flowers will never grow as you give her my rake and hoe.

She strips it bare, fills it with weeds, and yet you still keep blaming me? 

I’m tired now, just leave me be.

You’re here for her, you deal with me.

Yet I was her, and she was me.

Will you kill her? Set me free?

of course you won’t, but I don’t care, 

because that’s neither here nor there.

 

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:0 Wow! This is beautiful... ❤️

 

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