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Anyone else use it/its pronouns?

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Tetris

I sometimes use he/him because it's hard to get people to use it/its pronouns. But the thing is that I intentionally want to dehumanize myself because I genuinely feel crippling dysphoria being organic. There doesn't go a moment where I don't want to rip my muscles off and become a cute boxy robot. I am actually dead serious about this and find it upsetting how many people think I'm trolling. I really am not. I get grossed out by how leaky my body is and how vulnerable it is. Biology disgusts me. I think being robotkin is what best describes me but I'm transmasc while I'm still in this meatsuit, so that's why I'm "ok" with he/him pronouns, but only it/its feels right. Ironically I personify robots objects with genders, but the idea that to most people, it/its is dehumanizing is the specific reason why I want to use them. 

 

I'm curious if there's others who use it. I know I'm not active on here and only came here when I initially came out, but I'm really serious about this and want to get feedback from others who use it and their reasoning.

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ToniTone

Someday we will transcend bodies and become one with the machines...

Transhuman pride! 

 

~Toni

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Kamarka

I know that in languages where gender-neutral pronouns aren't as common (like in Spanish where everything has a gendered article before it) that using the equivalent of 'it' is more common, however, like in English, it takes on a dehumanizing tone, as you mentioned. But, no, in English I've never heard of someone going by it. 

You do you, you boxy robot

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VickySGV

H8ers of the Trans community use the it/its pronouns as a form of dehumanization and except of rare individuals like yourself they will be taken as a verbal attack akin to physical violence so be very careful from both sides of the problem.  Your using them could invite attack against you or others.

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Charlize

As a person who has had some surgery but not full GCS i sometimes feel i'm in the it category.  That may also be because i'm not active sexually with no "preferred" gender. Gender pronouns seem to sometimes not fit but as i present female and feel comfortable it's only when depressed that IT comes to mind.

I do see those pronouns used by haters so i would never give them the affirmation they might find by using that pronoun even on the rare occasions it comes to me.

I hope you will go to a gender therapist.  Therapy definitely helped me to accept the person i am.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Ellora

In my experience, calling anyone "It" is demeaning. Try calling a friend or hear someone call your friend "it" and you will get a quick corrective response, including a reprimand. 

Unless the person asks to be called "it" and even then, it would be awkward for me, expect an unfavorable response. 

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RACHEL GIA

It is hard to comment on this except to say that when a workmate called an it in jest  I told him to 'take a hike' in more colorful terms.

What I have noticed is that people who change their pronouns constantly run the risk of not getting any traction in this aspect of gender identification.

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Ellora

If people use their pronouns without ill intent, then I would rather use this as an opportunity to educate/inform others for a more positive reinforcement. But with anyone, being outright rude, and or, in a bigoted way, then there is no excuse. Most mature adults know the difference. Unfortunately, there will always be some people out there that do not care. 

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ToniTone

My light hearted (but sincere) comment earlier aside, I agree with alot of folks said here. It pronouns might be interpreted as depricating. I'd use some discretion if you choose to use them. 

 

Sometimes I don't feel like a human, like I'm an alien or something. I get extra anxious when the subject becomes gendered. In moments of dysphoria, I've self-depricatingly referred to myself as an it or a (hairy) swamp thing... 

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Ellora
Just now, ToniTone said:

My light hearted (but sincere) comment earlier aside, I agree with alot of folks said here. It pronouns might be interpreted as depricating. I'd use some discretion if you choose to use them. 

 

Sometimes I don't feel like a human, like I'm an alien or something. I get extra anxious when the subject becomes gendered. In moments of dysphoria, I've self-depricatingly referred to myself as an it or a (hairy) swamp thing... 

I’m sorry that you feel that way about yourself at times, and I totally feel you on this. I referred to the ugly birth defects, that I recently got rid of, using names.  I have always felt my body was alien like, I would walk awkwardly cause I was forcing myself to walk like a boy>man. Now I’m walking the way it feels more comfortable to me. Im feeling a bit better in my skin, but still have a faaaar way to go until I really feel better. The baby steps is what gives me hope. Every little bit helps. I hope you can find Your Hope, and your baby steps. 

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