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Hi all,

 

As the title implies, I’m new to the community but hope to meet a lot of friends along the way.

 

I’m in the very early stages of HRT > I’m currently self medicating. Yeah, I know that’s not advisable but I am doing my homework and monitoring my hormones. I do plan to go to an informed consent clinic soon when I’m a bit more comfortable doing so. 

 

I look forward to any and all advice and the opportunity to give back.

 

Dave/Dina

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Hello, and welcome! 

 

As you mentioned, self-medicating is ill-advised. Thing is, you can never be certain of the safety, content or purity of anything on the black market. 

 

I'd highly recommend going to a gender specialist, and perhaps therapist too. Any medical professional is supposed to operate their practice with doctor-patient confidentiality. The medical setting is ideally a safe place where you can discuss these matters privately and comfortably with your doctor. 

 

I personally was so nervous when I first went to see my primary. But they made me feel so welcomed and at ease, as any good doctor should. Now I really look forward to our visits. 

 

I hope you seek out prescribed treatment proper, and can find a setting that you find yourself comfortable in! 

 

❤️

~Toni

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Dina.  I need to echo Toni's advice about DYO hormones.  There is much more to be mindful of than just your hormone levels.  Please do find a doctor to prescribe for you and monitor your health, and one who knows something about trans health issues.

 

I would also urge you to see a gender therapist if you aren't already doing so.  Changing genders is complex and difficult even when you have a support network.  Transition can be great, but getting professional advice and having someone to talk to about any concerns, personal issues, and even things like workplace transition, can be critically important.  My G,T. helped me through the coming out process, and so much more.

 

Please ask whatever other questions you have.  We'll be happy to help you.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Hi Dina,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

I STRONGLY recommend you go to the clinic for your HRT. Do it yourself HRT can be dangerous, and can have potentially life threatening side affects. We all understand your desire to transition, but none of us want to see harm come to you. We want to see you around to enjoy transition.?

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf ?

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Hi and Welcome!

I will have to agree on everyone's advise to not try Self Medication. Please wait for the Professionals to prescribe the correct doses of medication for you. You are taking great risks hurting your body and future progress for transitioning. 

Doing research is best, as you have done, but the research probably also came with the same warnings we have just now given to you. We Want you to be able to transition, but only when it is safe and under the direction of licensed professionals. 

Please stop now, before any permanent damage and harm occurs. 

I felt the same way before I found the courage to go to a place for help. Once I did, I found out how easy it is, and how accepting everyone there is. Find a clinic that would best suit your needs. Wear sunglasses and a baseball cap or something. Maybe a location farther from you or out of the way that is trans friendly. 

I hope you a safe and successful Journey.

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Even on prescribed medication, I still developed a Deep Vein Thrombosis (DVT) that necessitated that I go off hormones for nearly a year.  Luckily the blood clot did not go into any crucial organs, but I now have medicines I really don't want that I will take for the rest of my life.  We like to keep our members with us here alive and in good spirits. 

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Just another voice in the chorus.  Please go to the clinic you mentioned and get some professional help!  Even short term self administration can cause a lifetime of problems with few positive results.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Hello Dave/Dina.  Welcome aboard.  

 

I will just mention that you are close to Fenway Health and they are very caring.  I love my doctor there.  

 

Please join in the conversation!
Jani 

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18 hours ago, Jani said:

Hello Dave/Dina.  Welcome aboard.  

 

I will just mention that you are close to Fenway Health and they are very caring.  I love my doctor there.  

 

Please join in the conversation!
Jani 

Hi Jani,

 

Thanks for the advice. Fenway is one of the clinics I’ve been researching on and off. Two others I’m considering are Thundermist in Rhode Island and Planned Parenthood. The latter two are informed consent. I don’t know whether Fenway is.

 

Any insight from anyone with experience of any of these clinics would be greatly appreciated.

 

Also, thanks to the rest of you who have replied and welcomed me. 

 

Dina 

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Fenway is informed consent as well.  It is a large practice catering to a wide spectrum of community in Boston.  Despite the size, the staff I've encountered have been wonderful.  
 

Jani

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On 6/19/2019 at 12:15 PM, Jani said:

Fenway is informed consent as well.  It is a large practice catering to a wide spectrum of community in Boston.  Despite the size, the staff I've encountered have been wonderful.  
 

Jani

 

Hi Jani,

 

Who is your doctor at Fenway? I tried PMing you but the site won’t let me.

 

D

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Mine is Bettencourt but if you call the central number as I initially, describing what you desire, they will set up an appointment for you with a doctor who has room on their calendar in the specialty you need.  I didn't have any preference and they assigned me to my doctor. 

 

You will need 5 posts to unlock the ability to PM. 

 

Jani

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