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Heels, Any tips?

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Krisvm

I am finding more and more I love heels, my feet and legs look great in them and I find them really comfy. Even high heels.

 

However, I wanted to know if anyone had any tips on buying ones that are good quality. Currently I had just been shopping cheap shops but it would be great to at some point invest in some higher quality ones.

 

Also to help me narrow down as I drool over all of them in online shoe stores 😉

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Jani

As you are in the UK I'm not sure US brands are available there so your best bet is to look around in several shops to get an idea of what is available at what price.  As you will see most shoes are made somewhere in Asia now and the quality is mostly indicative in the price.  Real leather will be more pricier than manmade materials.  Here in the States, the larger department stores have a good selection and better quality than the discount stores.  Like anything, you get what you pay for!  As to online, I prefer to try shoes on so go shopping!  No one is going to bother you, really.  In my earlier forays into womens fashion no one ever gave me a hint of scorn or displeasure.  As to heels, don't go too high.  You're limited to where you may actually wear them (unless you just want them for in the house) and in today's casual environment many women wear flats or low heels.  There are some cute sandals with wedge heels that are nice for wearing with jeans or capris.  Go shop and don't fret! 

Cheers, Jani  

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Raven1981

It has been some time since I have visited the UK myself on holiday.  Last time I went to the UK was in 2003,  But I know for myself I bought my first pair of heels at a store called Target.  Not sure if the UK has stores called Target.  When I was in London, I did not see any stores like that.  But, what I was told when starting out wearing heels is to start with a low heel at first like a wedge or a block style so you can keep your balance, and learn how to walk since it is more like 1 foot in front of the other foot and can be a little bit of uncomfort till you get use to it.  I started with a nice pair of 1 inch block style heels and I am still getting used to them and they look real nice where they cost me about $30 US.

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Maid In Bedlam

Heels.

 

 I go to Marks and Spencer. mainly because they are resonable quality and they do half sizes. Prices can be a little on the expensive side. But you expect that from markys

 

Really it depends on your style

 

However its always worth having a looking in Deichman. They are pretty cheap and do some fair quality good looking ones and many half sizes to.

 

See im stuck in the middle of a 5 and 6. Depends on who and where they have come from

 

How you can really find them comftable i have no idea. I just wear them if i really have to. Everyday im trainers or boots. Sandals if the weather is nice. So for Scotland not very often . 😉 Good luck if you do. But it is true. If you wear nothing but it will mess you up. Just be carefull and nothing to high for everyday. Just my advise.

 

However. I have also got new ones from charity shops. Never worn and a fraction of the price. (I would never buy used. You dont know who had them previously) Thats my personal choice. But people do hand in new shoes on occasion.

 

 

 

Good luck.

 

 

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Charlize

I started off with overly high heels and worked down to flats and flip flops.  I found that with my feet and age the pain wasn't worth the lovely site of seeing my feet looking so nice.  Make sure that any shoes you get fit!  Width becomes very important as your toes are forced down and forward.  Heels are best when there is a chair nearby. 

 I found myself accepting less than ideal fits in order to look good.  As life goes on comfort becomes paramount.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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tracy_j

I am not sure about heels as I seldom wear them. My issue tends to be my size which is somewhat large for a woman (UK 9.5 / 10). Brantano tend to stock the larger sizes, although their quality is average. I like Pavers or Hotter shoes (some of the wider fitting work) as they are high quality, but only tend to go to size 9 (Uk). Clarks are obviously good too but sizes too small for me.

 

Tracy

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Krisvm

Thanks for all your advice i am an 8.5-9 (although size 8 widefits fit me fine in some places), so sizing is sometimes an issue.

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