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I know this is one of those mileage  varies questions- However, I cant help but ask- How long on HRT( assume( Sprio and Estrogen) before dressing in the old male attire and presenting male becomes a challenge? How long was it in your experience? I’m trying to get a good sense of when coworkers or other acquaintances might start noticing something being up.

 

Thanks in advance for the insight,

 

Dina

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By themselves you have a window of 3 to 6 months for the onset of action to 3 to 6 years to completion of the change per the WPATH Standards of Care.  It will also depend on the type of dressing you do at work.  Shirts and neck ties will be a problem a bit sooner, but T shirts and sweat shirts a lot longer.  A bigger issue is going to be our own nervousness and maybe a tad touchy PMS type day that will give you away.  Yes we do get mood swings pretty early in the game.  If you get in a hurry for longer hair , there goes another issue too.  Its not as bad as it was, but where I worked it could be anything from OK to physically dangerous is it was not kept right.  When I retired I had been on HRT for two years and it had not been a problem.  I have what I call family "B" cups since that is what my mother and sisters had, and loose shirts got along fine in two sizes larger than male me wore.

 

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well I been on HRT and like Vicki I am stuck or set on B cup..I am small size o ( not bragging) and when I am not comfortable presenting as F..I wear Large shirts ..Vicki is also on the money with hair growth. I am bald , some hair is growing back but I relegated to wearing a wig until I die..good luck, be safe and stay proud

 

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It is most likely possible to be on HRT for a long time without being noticed.  Remember we have many FTM members here who pass by binding etc.   Remember baldness and a bit of beard screams male.  I would think a greater issue might be whether, after starting HRT, the desire to live as yourself wouldn't grow.   I know that when i was on HRT i had no desire to be seen as male but i suppose it is possible to be in the middle ground.  Don't forget that HRT also can affect sexual abilities, fertility and preferences for some.  

 

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Charlize

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2 hours ago, Charlize said:

It is most likely possible to be on HRT for a long time without being noticed.  Remember we have many FTM members here who pass by binding etc.   Remember baldness and a bit of beard screams male.  I would think a greater issue might be whether, after starting HRT, the desire to live as yourself wouldn't grow.   I know that when i was on HRT i had no desire to be seen as male but i suppose it is possible to be in the middle ground.  Don't forget that HRT also can affect sexual abilities, fertility and preferences for some.  

 

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Charlize

 

Facial hair is no longer my “beard”- pun intended as I’ve had laser hair removal. I guess my main question from here is the question of when the curves:fat redistribution and breasts became harder to hide. I do eventually want to live full time. I just won’t be ready to make that leap for another year or two though.

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3 hours ago, Nebulous said:

the question of when the curves:fat redistribution and breasts became harder to hide. I do eventually want to live full time. I just won’t be ready to make that leap for another year or two though.

The Answer depends on the individual. For some people. their bodies might respond quickly, others not for years. I am 53 and have been on HRT for a little over 4 months and counting. I had an Orchiectomy a little over a month ago, and I am T free. I feel that My hips are starting to show, but not to anyone else. I can see slow breast growth happening , but only one comment about "have i been working out?"

But thats Me, you and everyone else will probably have a different response. Speak with a Gender Therapist and your Doctor (that is fluent with the LGBTQ community), so they can help you with your journey. Continue researching until You are comfortable with your decisions. If you decide to start HRT, and do not like the way you look and or feel, then talk to your doctor, or stop all together. 

Since you have a "year or two," you have plenty of time to do your research and talk to the GD therapist and your Doctor. 

Best of luck in  your Journey!

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8 hours ago, Nebulous said:

I guess my main question from here is the question of when the curves:fat redistribution and breasts became harder to hide. I do eventually want to live full time. I just won’t be ready to make that leap for another year or two though.

Unless you work with a bunch of people I would not like to, your time is going to be whenever you want to based on your clothing options.  If you wear mechanics coveralls, you might never have to worry about it.  If you are a lifeguard at a pool that will be another problem.  The time frames I gave above on when the HRT will most likely have done what it is going to do also rely on your family biology as to how big you will get. Talk to your Gender Therapist for contingency plans based on "Prepare for the worst, hope for the best and take whatever comes your way with a smile." It will happen sooner than you think it will.

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I found that after a year my boobs are bigger and I wear a bra because I need a bit of support as I get a bit of pain without, hips have filled out and i am more rounded but if I still get seen as male even though I have pierced ears and long hair with highlights. i tend to dress femme when i want to present but sadly face is still masc, In respect of boobs I dont bind in male mode which is more like andro mode now as they say it can cause issues, I am of that age its other peoples not mine, life and let live

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I am 14 months into hrt. My first 8-10 months I was on low dose and I don’t think I could hide it anymore. My breasts are way too boob shaped. There’s no way I could go without a shirt. The hips and stuff are still easily hide able for me. 

But in work clothes (jeans raggedy old shirts work boots) with no makeup I get maamed only now. I see bigger facial changes than body. 

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