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MaryMary

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MaryMary

After doing my hair couple weeks ago I just bought new makeup and it's awesome, super quality. My profile photo is me wearing this makeup. + I bought a new perfume from Stella Mccartney. Really nice. It was my girly day :D hahaha Topped it of by listening to Ace of Base tonight how cool is that? :P lol

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VickySGV

That's the way to go.!! 

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tracy_j

Yes, Lovely profile photo!

 

Tracy

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Charlize

You look great!  Pity we can't experience the scent.  Glad to see that lovely smile as well.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Jani

You look great Mary! 

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Ellora

Yay! You look amazing! Omg, I haven’t listen to ace of base in a long minute! 

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Raven1981

Awesome  on girly day.  Love the makeup

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MaryMary
2 minutes ago, Ellora said:

 Omg, I haven’t listen to ace of base in a long minute! 

 

I think the first album is a "chef d'oeuvre" :P actually it's a little trans related. It's the last thing that I remember before the depression induced by dysphoria that started when I was around 13. So, it's part of the few things I'm nostalgic about because it links the present me with the pre-teen me

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Timber Wolf

I love news of happy days like this. Your profile pic is great!

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf 🐾

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13 minutes ago, MaryMary said:

nostalgic about because it links the present me with the pre-teen me

Ace of Base did a cover of Bananarama's song "Cruel Summer." in 1998. The Original song from Bananarama came out in 1984, which dates me back to 18yrs old when it was in the "Karate Kid." Lots of nostalgia for me .

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